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Exposing MWM - How to Do it?

Hot White Trash said:
Boy, this gay thing is a racket. You guys have only convinced me that I must expose him. But I also realize that I need to have solid evidence - like a high res pic of him sucking cock.
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Wow. Why are you trying to hurt him? Let him live with his guilt or go about it all a different way. Try to convince him to tell his wife. Don't be malicious. You could cause his life to go crashing down and, for what? At least be up front with him about what's going on. I don't like the fact that he's lying, so I do think it should be exposed, but gently and by him, primarily.
 
longtermjubber said:
'Married White Male'? :confused:

...not 'Married Black Male' or Married Asian Male'? :confused:

...Hmmmmm ...so the guy's colour is relevant? ... how? :confused:
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Its a throwback to the old newspaper (anybody still read them) personals where one had a very limited space to post an ad that described themselves. They would shorten things down to save space. Think of it a the grandfather of texting.

But it wasn't so much about the color as the ethnicity - some searchers were looking for specific ethnic groups so posters would add theirs in order to weed out those who would not be interested and receive responses that would have a better chance of connection.
 
My mother actually buys a newspaper everyday. Never misses a day.
 
Don't expose him. Just walk away and if you see him tell him you don't want anything to do with him. You wanting to expose him is bitterness and revenge on your part. If you're against married men screwing around then don't screw around with them.

You could be responsible for a divorce, his kids (if he has any) to lose their father and security of a home. Married men always get caught anyway and do you want to be responsible for the misery of all those people just because you want revenge? Yeah, the guy is an asshole but it's none of your business.

Outing someone is meddling in other people's lives. If you're going by his house now you've become a stalker.

Just let it go.

EDIT: and another thing to think about. If you ruin this guys life by exposing him he could come and seek revenge on YOU.
 
CowboyBob said:
Don't expose him. Just walk away and if you see him tell him you don't want anything to do with him. You wanting to expose him is bitterness and revenge on your part. If you're against married men screwing around then don't screw around with them.

You could be responsible for a divorce, his kids (if he has any) to lose their father and security of a home. Married men always get caught anyway and do you want to be responsible for the misery of all those people just because you want revenge? Yeah, the guy is an asshole but it's none of your business.

Outing someone is meddling in other people's lives. If you're going by his house now you've become a stalker.

Just let it go.
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:=D: Way to flip the burden of guilt! :rolleyes:

IF a divorce happens it's between that man's actions and his wife. If those kids lives are ruined it's because "daddy" is a closet coward. None of these things is because of the OP.

Yet another believer in the driftwood theory? No accountability, no responsibility, just drift along and if you end up married with kids and sucking dick on the side it's the river that got you there.
 
Ephemeral said:
I say tell the wife anoynmously. You said he's with you in the gayborhood. If he asks you, just say someone from there could've told her. You guys are in public, surrounded by crowds of people. There's a chance at least one person knows his wife.
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That's a great idea.
 
Wow this is a tough one. Myself, I would probably walk away and never see him again. But then again his wife should know. I don't know if you should be the one to tell her though? You know him more then any of us but I would be scared of revenge or violence, there are some crazy people out there.
 
Ephemeral said:
For those saying protect the kids, we don't know if they have a happy marriage. They could be bickering daily. A hostile home is not one to raise children in.
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Well if you are going to assume that, then you may as well also assume that the wife is also cheating on her husband or is just simply a horrible wife. I mean if you are going to assume the marriage is already broken, then why would you assume the wife is the type of person that is completely innocent and deserves to know?
 
You don't have to be completely innocent or nice to deserve to know that someone is cheating on you, just for argument's sake.
 
fetaby said:
:=D: Way to flip the burden of guilt! :rolleyes:

IF a divorce happens it's between that man's actions and his wife. If those kids lives are ruined it's because "daddy" is a closet coward. None of these things is because of the OP.

Yet another believer in the driftwood theory? No accountability, no responsibility, just drift along and if you end up married with kids and sucking dick on the side it's the river that got you there.
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I disagree. Revenge is never correct, no matter who does it. Yes, Daddy is a closet coward, an asshole.... call him any name in the book you want to. But it's not YOU who should decide what should be done. If you don't like it then don't get involved. Mind your own business and break it off. If a married man you tricked with once or twice returns for more then tell him to get the Hell away and leave it at that.

It's not your business telling the wife.
 
Spiff said:
Well if you are going to assume that, then you may as well also assume that the wife is also cheating on her husband or is just simply a horrible wife. I mean if you are going to assume the marriage is already broken, then why would you assume the wife is the type of person that is completely innocent and deserves to know?
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No need to assume. The husband is out fucking men and sucking dick. :)
 
He's obviously just wants a fuck buddy on the side, otherwise he would have left his wife already. I can understand the anger you feel at being lied to, but getting back at him isn't the solution. The best thing you can do for yourself is to drop him, and leave the whole messy situation behind you. Adultery is a whole drama bomb, and you never know when it's going to go off or if you'll be caught in the blast.

In the long run, the faster you end your part in what is going to be an unfolding shitstorm for him and his family, the better. I'm not playing the "think of the kids" angle, I'm telling you to think of yourself and move on with better things in your life.
 
I always go with the motto, "if you give someone enough rope, they'll eventually hang themselves". I vote with the guys here that say to drop him and drop it. He'll write his own justice in due time. Don't be vengeful. Just move on. It's not worth it.
 
CowboyBob said:
I disagree. Revenge is never correct, no matter who does it. Yes, Daddy is a closet coward, an asshole.... call him any name in the book you want to. But it's not YOU who should decide what should be done. If you don't like it then don't get involved. Mind your own business and break it off. If a married man you tricked with once or twice returns for more then tell him to get the Hell away and leave it at that.

It's not your business telling the wife.
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So a married man can go through life making choices that affect numerous individuals but the gay guy has to suck it up, zip his lip and move along? :confused:
 
fetaby said:
No need to assume. The husband is out fucking men and sucking dick. :)
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Still, for the sake of my argument against Ephemeral's view, how do we know that the wife is not out fucking & sucking other men. . . or munching other women?

With our wild imaginations here, we could assume anything. Which is why it is best to let things play out on their own without interfering in someone else's family.
 
His wife should know, yes. but you shoud not put yourself in the middle of that situation. i mean you already are but dont seek the drama and the after math of your revenge. just make him scared as shit and tell him to get tested for herpes or some shit. and then be like oh and you might want your wife to get tested too. then drop it. im sure its hard but dont out him and ruin his family... he'll do it himself eventually.
 
Yes, revenge is not the best advisor. I think most rational people can agree with that. However, the tone in which some of you are declaring "don't ever out ANYONE...EVER!" And are so quick to go on the extreme defensive re: "Your scum if you out him!" grosses me out. Knee-jerk reaction or not, when these closeted-assholes aren't voting your rights away and calling you 'fag' to others to deflect from their own hidden gayocity...then talk to me about coming to their defense.

That said, I would out a guy in a second if he was dating a female friend or family member. There are some cases where it's not even a question.
 
You want to pop his bubble of lies, and people on here are bitching that you are trying to "hurt him."

Well, people, give me a break. The married guy who is fucking around has only himself to blame. The married guy is the one who is hurting his lover by hiding the fact when asked. The married guy is the one who is responsible for hurting his "secret family" and his "secret wife."

If a married guy got into a relationship with me by lying about being single, he would be trying to ruin my life, not the other way around. He has everything he gets coming to him.

However, you know he is a lying conniving bastard. He could easily be dangerous. So you do have to be smart about this for your own safety.
 
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