Father-son nudity

[USER95125]

I agree that when in an inappropriate manor it is wrong. But if a father takes his son to the gym or local YMCA to swim and they both change in the locker room next to each other, or use a communal shower naked next to each other is not a problem.

 

[spikebaltar]

I'm with the pro-nudity guys on this one - my dad ditched us when I was a kid, and we didn't shower after gym or anything in primary or high school, so I had no idea what to expect or anything during The Big Change of puberty, apart from what I'd read in books.

Having your dad see you undressed, and seeing your dad undressed, really should not cause anyone any panic at all, I shouldn't think. There are far too many boys and young men out there who are scared absolutely shitless to get undressed in semi-public (as in locker rooms) for whatever reason, and I honestly don't see the point of being uncomfortable in your own skin.

I was in that terrified camp for a long while as a young guy, but I realised that at some point you just need to get over it, get on with it and get used to it. So at the ripe age of 22, I did.

It took a week's worth of showering at the gym before it became a complete non-issue, and nobody was reduced to a gibbering wreck because of it.

-d-

Thanks, you proved my point. There is a benefit to some nudity growing up. And a boy (or man for that matter) shouldn't be ashamed of his body.
Yea, I got over it at 12 when we started showering in school. The maturity of the boys in class ran the gamut from no pube pre-pubescent like me to full bushes and chest hair on the guys that had been held back a couple times.
But I wasn't surprised at anything because I had seen my dad nude on occasion and knew what a man looked like.

 

[BIMICHAEL4FUN]

I agree that dad should create a home where everyone is comfortable with nudity. If the kids see their parents being comfortable with the appearance of their bodies, they probably won't be as freaked out about others seeing their bodies. However, I also agree that the nudity should never occur in a sexually provocative manner.

 

[lostparker17]

Teacher:

"Thanks Mikey. Sounds like you had a good time at the park.
Billy, please stand up and tell everyone what you did yesterday."

Billy:

"Yesterday I went camping with my parents. They are into nudity and walked around the whole time naked. I saw daddy's dick and it was huge. It's weird. Daddy insists on me seeing it."

The classroom:

"EEEEWWWW"

Teacher:

Um.........*speechless*

sounds like you have issues man. went to Finland last summer and stayed with friends at their lake house. everyone grows up going to the sauna daily, nude. it is amazing to be around people who have no prejudice whatsoever about nudity and their bodies. i'm 55 and was invited to the sauna daily and did so in the presence of teens, pre-teens, and old guys like myself. all nude, no boners, no attitudes. it was great to see humanity get along like that.

 

[blackbeltninja]

LOL. How is having to see your dad's dick beneficial to a child?
Kids know what a dick looks like and there are sex education classes to show them. They know that it will eventually grow. How is comparing your dick as a kid to a grown up man's benefial to their development especially when it's their dad's dick?
You don't think that kids see other kids in bathrooms and gyms and compare?
I don't get it. lol

Ah, but if EVERYONE starts getting too shy because they have never seen other people naked, then nobody's going to be seeing anyone in bathrooms and gyms because - as we are seeing already - nobody gets undressed in there properly anymore; they either hide under a towel or shower in their underwear. And why is it okay for a kid to see other people's dicks but not his dad's?

Fact is, if your parents are always making a fuss if someone is seen naked, you grow up with many of those same inhibitions. Being comfortable in your skin has to start with being told that it is okay to be comfortable in your skin, and actions speak much louder than words. If you want your kids to eat vegetables because you tell them that vegetables are nice (a lie; but that's another can of worms) you kinda have to lead the way and eat the damn things too, right?

I mean, you're not going to take your son to the gym with you just so he can compare his own dick with some stranger's because he's never seen yours, are you?

"Dad, what will happen to my weenie when I grow older?"

"Hang on - let me get my keys. I'll drive you to the gym and you can see for yourself."

Okay, it's extreme, but I think it illustrates my point. As long as it's nothing sexual, it shouldn't be a worry. Ideally, of course, the answer to the question is "it'll look like mine, which you've seen before" because a.) it will look like your dad's, for the most part, and b.) you probably will have seen it before.

Incidentally, my school didn't have Sex Ed. If you did biology, you got the technical lessons in Standard 9 (2nd last year of high school) when you did the reproductive system; the rest of us had to make do with a dog-eared copy of Hustler and a few badly stretched, over-played 70s-era porn movies on VHS which went around the class when I was 12 or 13.

-d-

 

[lukey2]

When I was young, I always showered with my father when we were away from home (camping). I know I made him uncomfortable once when when I asked him about the size of his "thing". I reached out to point at it (I don't think I wanted to touch it -eww GAWD I hope not). He stepped back, and said something to the efect of, "Never mind that." Looking back, I am GLAD that was all that happened. I was VERY curious about cock for as long as I can remember, but that was something that I am glad never happened. A few years ago we went camping together again, and we showered at the same time, but I was careful to keep myself covered and I definately avoided looking in his direction. I was awkward about it as an adult (who knew he was gay by then).

 

[lukey2]

When I was around 12, I went on a football excursion with my father. There were boxed lunches and a whole keg of beer on the bus (the excursion was charted through a local bar). The bus had a bathroom, and on the way back from the game I got up to take a piss. Most of the guys on the bus were drunk and either passed out or sleeping (I was a little drunk too since no one seemed to care that I was drinking on the way back to the bar where everyone had parked). One of the men on the bus reached between my legs and grabbed my cock. I remember my mouth gaping open and my eyes shot open wide in FEAR. The fear was that someone had seen (and would figure out that I was gay). His hand pulled back quickly, and he looked looked away. After I got out of the bathroom, he pretended to be sleeping. I tried to get his attention for the rest of the ride. He never looked at me. After we got back, I tried to find him (I WANTED him to continue whatever he had in mind). I DO regret that he took off with nothing ever happening. He was around the age of my father, and I definately wanted something sexual to happen there. I masterbated to that memory often for a few years after that happened.

 

[lukey2]

There is a comedian (Adam Curolla I think) who jokes, "When I have a son, I'm going to let him see my penis one time when he is really young. Then for the rest of his life, he'll swear that his old man has the most gigantic penis on earth" or something to that effect. I found it funny.

 

[REALWILDARKIEHERE]

I agree with Lostparker17, I wish nudity was not considered such a big thing?? I'm by all means not a nudest.. Here in the South, you cover up hee hee However, I do think everyone needs to loosen up a LOT..

Jim

 

[hphbp1821]

can someone reupload that brazilian video?

 

[grady26]

Okay, a yank here, and the many comments about the USA having a hangup on nudity are correct. This country was founded by a group of puritans.

And yes, I have seen my dad naked. We would camp during the summers and would head to the bushes for a morning piss. Many times I saw my dad erect with his morning piss hardon. Was it erotic? Nope, it was fascinating -- as a kid thought his cock was monstrous. And was fascinated by the hair on his crotch -- remember, I was a kid and bald down below. In many ways, his nudity was funny as he could not pee sometimes because of his erection. He would be moaning and groaning waiting to go limp, and I would giggle and pee freely.

It was never a sexual or arousing problem -- just natural and a memory I still have. Not erotic at all.

Never saw my dad naked after puberty -- had no desire to do so.

As said, we yanks are hungup on nudity and think is HAS to be sexual.

P.S. Had a good laugh of the JUB member mentioning John Ashcroft's covering up the breasts of a stature that was within camera range during one of his press conferences. That tells ya where his brain was.

Damn those puritans!

 

[oh-yeah]

There's nothing wrong with nudity as long as you don't treat like it's a big deal. Just be comfortable with our bodies and your children will become too as long as you treat it as such. Learning to be comfortable in our own skin especially without our clothes on is perfectly healthy. Everyone has the same body parts so what's the big deal??

 

[willow]

Just about every guy I have talked to who shared nudity with their father said they were closer with their father than anyone they knew. A father and son shouldn't have anything to hide from each other. A father who wants to be close to his son should be there to teach his son about life and everything about it. The human body and sex is just part of our lives, and not something to hide or be ashamed of. I only wish I had that kind of relationship with my father.

 

[rodvill]

my dad ditched us when I was a kid, and we didn't shower after gym or anything in primary or high school, so I had no idea what to expect or anything during The Big Change of puberty, apart from what I'd read in books.

I totally agree, this is going to sound dumb, but before puberty I had barely seen any guy naked, so since i was about 8 years i wondered if the balls that hanged below my penis were supposed to be normal, so this created both insecurity and curiosity... don't know if someone else had this same feeling...
P.S. I know LOVE my balls *shy*

 

[blackbeltninja]

^Judging by conversations I've had with friends in the US, sports teams barely even do this anymore either.

-d-

 

[willow]

I live in America and yes, this country, with it's current leadership and strong religious groups, is just going backwards. When I was in school back in the 60's every kid took gym in school and every kid had to shower after class. My first day in the shower with all the other boys was tense because I had never been nude around anyone before that. But after a few days it was no big deal anymore, and since then I have never had a problem with nudity. Today kids are not required to shower after gym, if they even have gym, and I guess hardly any do. Fathers are so busy today trying to make a living they don't spend any time with their kids, so the video games take care of that. And we wonder why some people are so uptight about letting anyone see their bodies.

On another site I have talked to young guys who have grown up in nudist families. Or guys who were raised by their dads. These guys who grew up in an environment where being nude around your father or brother was normal all say they have a much closer relationship with their fathers than any of their friends have with their fathers. If a father and son can be nude around each other then they most likely will have a very close bond between them. And isn't that they way it should be. And yes, I have heard stories from guys who say more than just nudity was shared between them and their father and/or brother. Whether that is right or wrong is very debatable. I guess the way I look at it we are all guys. We all masturbate. If it happens to be with a father or brother, and is consensual, what does it hurt. That is just my opinion and I am sure I will be beat into the ground for it. I was told by one 18 year old guy who was raised by his father that him, his father and younger brother all hang out nude together. And yes, sometimes more than just hanging out nude goes on. He also said his father is so laid back and cool, his brother is like his best friend, and he wouldn't have it any other way. And no, he isn't some redneck from back in the hills who's family all marry their cousins. He is just a normal guy and apparantly very happy with his life.

 

[flixelblix]

I almost forgot about this thread, I'd like to add to it again with a story that took place a number of years back.

I dated a girl who had an 8 year old daughter. Daughter was a horny little thing, I'd unbutton my pants to tuck my shirt in and she would run over and try to look down my pants. She would do other things as well, intentionally walk in on me while I was in the bathroom, etc.

To fix the problem, I took her and her mother to the local nudist park, I'd walk around the house naked, the nude beach, etc. in short, got her so used to seeing naked people that she lost all interest.

It worked really well.

 

[f0zzie05]

"naked is good" tommy pickels from nickelodeon's "RugRats"

 

[Storybook_Man]

I remember when I was at a hotel on a trip with my family. It was me, my brother, my uncle and father in a room. My father stayed in a different room with my mom but we had just gotten back from a football game so he joined us for a bit before going to bed.

Well, as soon as we got in the room, my brother jumped in the shower, my Uncle jumped on the laptop to check out his stocks, we all were completely soaked, was raining hard throughout all 4 quartars. Well, I told my father and uncle I would be right back, that I am going to go to the other room to get changed and dry up. My father responded sort of quickly with a why are you embarrassed to get changed and dry up out here. Actually I didn't, I really want to have sex with both of them, but I couldn't tell him that. As soon as I started taking off my clothes my father left, and then my Uncle started getting undressed, but he was ducking behind a bed, so obviously he didnt feel comfortable. I did get a look at him in his underwear though, but nothing to make it exciting...

I personally don't have a problem getting naked in front of anyone except the females of the family. I was just respecting my father when I said that I was going to the other room, not sure how he would feel to see his son, all grown and naked, a lot different than when I was a child. But more recently, I have been living alone and my father has come stay with me a few days. Each day he stayed I was in tight white boxer shorts, and the last day he was there, I woke up because it was cold and realized my dick was hanging out completely, balls too. I woke up as he was leaving. But he saw a soft core porn that I was watching one night, I was embarrassed that he would see it after he came in so I pretended like I was sleeping, and my dick was hanging out then too by accident, he saw the video and asked me a few times if he wanted me to turn it off or keep it going. I didn't respond so he turned it off in time.... Damn I should have just manned up and said yeah keep it on, i was in the middle of something! haha JOIN!

 

[ace3316]

Hmm, I'd have to say that at a certain point it become unnatural.

But, I'd get naked and shower or skinny dip with ya BMG... grrr uncut and likes doggy...sorry, I'm a bit horned up now.