Father-son nudity

[eoinfc18]

same here but i wud luv to see a man fully naked>>>>u got msn???

 

[countryfan]

Speaking of hanging out nude with your own dad or son, has anyone got to do that today for the 4th? It's hot if you have got to!

 

[ariesstar89]

Again, as many has said, it goes with the situation and the circumstances I suppose. I've seen my dad many times growing up and a couple since I've hit puberty. I remember the first time I ever saw him that way was when I was really little when he was teaching me how to take a shower properly, and other times being when he and I would change clothes together if not at our own house, we'd just use the same room.

This may be weird, and if so then ignore me, but I actually use to spy on my dad a little bit when I was young. I had no friends growing up really, and so I would actually sneak around and spy on my dad when he would be in his room after taking showers. But I never did anything or ever fantasized about being with my dad, I think it was just the interest of what a cock was.

 

[MyReply]

I don't think it is necessary to shy away from nudity at all costs, but there's a difference between not acting like you saw Satan upon catching a glimpse of nude flesh, and being a bit of a flagrant kook. If a father takes his son to the gym, it's fine for them to change in front of each other in the locker room...but a dad and son don't need to blatantly walk around the house naked in front of each other, dick's just-a-swinging either. Privacy and personal space are just as, if not more, important to teach.

I'm reading over some of those old messages and am shocked at the naiveté. A boy doesn't need to see a grown man's dick in order to not be terrified at his body's changing during puberty. I can't recall ever seeing a grown penis as a small child, least of all my father's, and was a-ok when my dick hair started sprouting when I was about 10. I didn't think anything wrong was happening. And I absolutely do *not* approve of fathers "teaching" their sons how to masturbate. That's incestuous, IMO. Talking about it? Eh. Perhaps. Demonstrating? No.

 

[Lewis1]

Well I belive it should be natural I think nudity among father- son can do a couple of things lol like

1) See how he compares with his dad
2) not feel embarrased about his body
3) not make the child seek out nudity in other (perverted ways) Ie. Staring to long at boys in shower & gym or google naked guys & porn just out of curiosity

4) make the child feel comfortable in his manhood

but like i said all this done naturally meanning not going out of your way to be fully clothed 24/7 or not going out of your way to be nude 24/7 & no towel dancing lol

 

[Lewis1]

I don't think it is necessary to shy away from nudity at all costs, but there's a difference between not acting like you saw Satan upon catching a glimpse of nude flesh, and being a bit of a flagrant kook. If a father takes his son to the gym, it's fine for them to change in front of each other in the locker room...but a dad and son don't need to blatantly walk around the house naked in front of each other, dick's just-a-swinging either. Privacy and personal space are just as, if not more, important to teach.

I'm reading over some of those old messages and am shocked at the naiveté. A boy doesn't need to see a grown man's dick in order to not be terrified at his body's changing during puberty. I can't recall ever seeing a grown penis as a small child, least of all my father's, and was a-ok when my dick hair started sprouting when I was about 10. I didn't think anything wrong was happening. And I absolutely do *not* approve of fathers "teaching" their sons how to masturbate. That's incestuous, IMO. Talking about it? Eh. Perhaps. Demonstrating? No.

lmao teaching how to masturbate is a bit weird but

u sound uptight

 

[jhwalker]

I have seem my dad naked only by accident - our family was *never* naked around each other. Even today, my partner and I are completely clothed in our own house and don't even sleep nude :/

 

[mbamike]

Being nude is as natural as eating. The problem comes in when people try to impose their belief systems on others and condemning the naked body as something evil or bad. This leads to all kinds of body image problems.

As I have stated in numerous postings, I frequent a family-oriented nudist camp. This means entire families are there in the nude, mom, dad and the kids.

Before anyone freaks out, being nude is not about sex or looking for sex. I find it extremely relaxing.

 

[bankside]

My dad was never part of a nudist camp but of course I saw him naked. Don't families ever go to the pool any more? Wave pool or swimming pool or something?

It is hardly traumatic or even uncomfortable, because you're just there to get changed like everyone else.

Even in Grade 3 my school had us go to a neighbourhood pool for swimming lessons and everyone just changed in the change room with everyone else (it was a big pool) so I had seen all kinds of boys and men from childhood to seniors. It's no big deal.

But hiding away from all that would be a big deal and I think it would affect people's normal development.

 

[paatreides]

And I absolutely do *not* approve of fathers "teaching" their sons how to masturbate. ....Talking about it? Eh. Perhaps. Demonstrating? No.

Teaching a son how to masturbate should be a father's job. He should not have to rely on insufficient - or incorrect information - from outside sources.

Perhaps talking about it?? I would think a father would want his son(s) to know about masturbation, that it's normal, natural, and healthy.

Bear in mind that a father "teaching" a son how to do it, doesn't mean a "live one-on-one demonstration."

 

[bankside]

We learned about sex in health class in Grade 3 or 4 or something.

 

[blackbeltninja]

but a dad and son don't need to blatantly walk around the house naked in front of each other, dick's just-a-swinging either. Privacy and personal space are just as, if not more, important to teach.

So what are you saying, exactly? Fine if in a public place, like a locker room, but at home nobody should walk from bathroom to bedroom unless they're wrapped in a towel? I'm not a fan of hanging about the house naked, but I do the bathroom-bedroom run without a towel most days and that's not about to change.

I'm reading over some of those old messages and am shocked at the naiveté. A boy doesn't need to see a grown man's dick in order to not be terrified at his body's changing during puberty.

Well, it took me by surprise. I had no idea what was going to happen, or when. While I didn't die or anything, I do think a little heads up from someone would have been nice. I suppose my mom was waiting for me to ask her rather than just tell me, but instead I found out the old fashioned way - from some kid at school, who smuggled in some literature* from home for us to look at.

-d-
*The monthly magazine kind

 

[Storybook_Man]

my father never told me anything at all. I learned all about sex from his porn videos that I found in his room. in health class while I was in school then all I learned about was STD's..

 

[clicker]

Teaching a son how to masturbate should be a father's job. He should not have to rely on insufficient - or incorrect information - from outside sources.

Perhaps talking about it?? I would think a father would want his son(s) to know about masturbation, that it's normal, natural, and healthy.

Bear in mind that a father "teaching" a son how to do it, doesn't mean a "live one-on-one demonstration."

Amen, brother! That's good,and so true.

 

[MyReply]

Teaching a son how to masturbate should be a father's job. He should not have to rely on insufficient - or incorrect information - from outside sources.

Perhaps talking about it?? I would think a father would want his son(s) to know about masturbation, that it's normal, natural, and healthy.

Bear in mind that a father "teaching" a son how to do it, doesn't mean a "live one-on-one demonstration."

Yes, perhaps. Masturbation isn't exactly rocket science. Boys generally discover how to do it themselves, and don't need dear old dad "teaching" them how to grip the shaft or recommending what kind of lotion to use. Certain discoveries should be left up to the individual themselves. If a father has any role in this, it should generally begin and end at reassuring junior that it is something that is a common practice.

 

[MyReply]

So what are you saying, exactly?

I think I was pretty clear when I said that it's not necessary to shy away from nudity at all costs, but flagrantly exposing oneself around other people is tacky, tactless and inappropriate IMO.

Fine if in a public place, like a locker room, but at home nobody should walk from bathroom to bedroom unless they're wrapped in a towel? I'm not a fan of hanging about the house naked, but I do the bathroom-bedroom run without a towel most days and that's not about to change.

As if I'm trying to dictate what's going on in your house. Look, if you want to leave your doors, shades and windows open when you're naked, then so be it. I don't care what you do. A general question was posed, and I gave my take on it.

If I went swimming with my son, and the community shower was an open one with multiple shower heads...then fine, we'll both get naked and wash up. But if we're at home, then the bathroom and bedroom doors are to be closed when someone is in there naked...to me that's just basic decency. There is a such thing as modesty and there is value in it.

Well, it took me by surprise. I had no idea what was going to happen, or when. While I didn't die or anything, I do think a little heads up from someone would have been nice.

Well, okay. That's you. I, myself, didn't need a "heads up" in the form of having seen a grown mans naked penis in order to not think that something terrible, or unnervingly bizarre, was happening as I personally matured. My guess is that very few 12 year old boys get terrified and think something is wrong when they see their pubes grow in, or dicks get bigger. Some things are just sensical.

 

[paatreides]

Yes, perhaps. Masturbation isn't exactly rocket science. Boys generally discover how to do it themselves, and don't need dear old dad "teaching" them how to grip the shaft or recommending what kind of lotion to use. Certain discoveries should be left up to the individual themselves. If a father has any role in this, it should generally begin and end at reassuring junior that it is something that is a common practice.

So, you think it's perfectly fine for a young boy entering puberty to struggle through on his own, eh? And learn all kinds of untruth's from kids on the street? Or rely on the teacher in the classroom for only half the necessary information?

No, it's certainly not rocket science. But, the way things like this are "ignored" by parents - especially fathers - is awful.

Perhaps girls should be left alone to learn about their bodies and sexual behavior as well? Let them learn things on the street, from girlfriends, or rely on the school system.

No. These things should be the responsibility of the parent. You brought this life into the world, you own the responsibility of thier education.

I got nothing from my father. He wouldn't even say the word "penis" for God's sake. And, sure I learned about j/o and sex from my brother, kids on the playground and the very cloaked information that was delivered in "Health" class - in one single hour-long class mind you!! - and you know what? I survived, sure; but we didn't know jack-shit about anything.

Fathers should be talking frankly to thier sons about what to expect from their changing bodies, and that talk includes erections, wet dreams (especially the first one that can scare a kid) and masturbation. Education only arms them for a better life; because ignorance is not bliss.

Any idea at all what kind of physical damage can be caused to an erect penis - simply because a kid didn't quite know how to deal with it to relieve it? Trust me, some of it ain't pretty.

 

[mrjaxxx]

It really just depends on the situation... and the reason they are naked at the same time in the same place lol

 

[blackbeltninja]

If I went swimming with my son, and the community shower was an open one with multiple shower heads...then fine, we'll both get naked and wash up. But if we're at home, then the bathroom and bedroom doors are to be closed when someone is in there naked...to me that's just basic decency. There is a such thing as modesty and there is value in it.

Well, I don't see much difference in showering at home or showering in a public environment. As a result, I do the same things in both places. It seems odd to me to insist on keeping the bathroom door closed at home but being quite happy to forego the modesty in public (assuming you have some level of control in public; depending on your environment, this may or may not happen - cubicle showers vs gang showers etc).

Well, okay. That's you. I, myself, didn't need a "heads up" in the form of having seen a grown mans naked penis in order to not think that something terrible, or unnervingly bizarre, was happening as I personally matured. My guess is that very few 12 year old boys get terrified and think something is wrong when they see their pubes grow in, or dicks get bigger. Some things are just sensical.

Except that sensical isn't a word.

Anyway, the fact that you were prepared for your maturation suggests to me that at some point or other you'd seen a naked older guy before, either in person or in a book or on tv, and you knew what to expect. If you find a kid who hasn't seen and doesn't know what to expect, I think he'd be a little unnerved and surprised.

Next you're going to tell me that no kid ever in the history of ever has been surprised or distressed by his first wet dream if he didn't know about them at first, and then I'm going to call bullshit.

-d-

 

[paatreides]

Next you're going to tell me that no kid ever in the history of ever has been surprised or distressed by his first wet dream if he didn't know about them at first, and then I'm going to call bullshit.

-d-

Ho, brother! did you just hit the proverbial nail on the head... With knowing nothing about his body and what's happening to it, a kid wakes up in the middle of ejaculating, breathing hard, his body in spasms, wet "stuff" all over his PJ's (or whatever) and panics!! What's happening, what's wrong???

And then, is probably too scared or embarrassed to ask his dad (never even consider asking mom!) about this horrible illness "down there."

But, I'll tell you what - kids are thirsty for information... And, unfortunately, what they don't know can kill them!