First timer advise

[goodtime36]

I am a 48 year old male recently divorced. 6ft 190lbs very athletic and a gym regular.

I have no problem attracting hot women and keeping them quite happy in bed.



I have not had a gay experence yet but yern to experence this as I feel I only go through life once.

My problem is that being openly gay is not an option. Also I have reservations of exposing my girlfriend to anything STD related without her knowlege. If I tell her I would like to experence this then our relationship is over.


I have had a dream "fantasized" about not really planning it out to have sex with a man, but finding myself alone with another guy at the end of the day and he forces himself on me. I end up on my knees and he tells me to look up at him as he takes his hard cock and sets it on my mouth. He then squeezes out some precum and puts the drop on my lips. I lick my lips and taste his cock. He then slowly works the head between my lips while he tells me how he is going to turn me into his little fuck toy. When he is done using me to suck his cock i am put on my hands and knees and teases my ass with his finger and lubes me up. He puts the head of his cock at the opening of my virgin hole and teases me and tells me to ask him to make me his fuck toy. He waits and teases me until I openly tell him that I want be his fuck toy to be used and fucked by him. He then proceeds to dominate me doggie style. I actually cum and have an anal orgasm without being touched as my cock is swing back and forth under me.

That is a fantasy I have held back on in recent years.

I an not interested in being a open gay guy. Just want to experience submitting to being fucked.

Any advise out there?

 

[hylas]

look, if you are just looking for anonymous sex, its really easy to find that on the internet or in certain clubs, especially if you are as hot as you say.

of course id hate to see you go down that road. its a shitty thing to cheat on your spouse, and being closeted and "on the down low" is a life filled with shame, fear, and guilt. ultimately, you need to decide for yourself and take responsibilities for your actions. it would be heartbreaking if you decided to lie to yourself and everybody you love, instead of being part of the change that is necessary so future generations wont have to face the same situation.

 

[Seasoned]

Welcome to JUB. I guess it's decision time for you. You can keep your fantasy as a fantasy. You can explain to your gf that you want to open your relationship. You can actively seek men for sex. All these choices will bring their own stress. I lived a double life. It's not something I would recommend. For true piece of mind determine if you are gay, straight of bi and live in the way that will give you the greatest authenticity. Good luck to you.

 

[TX-Beau]

Plus I’ll add that the specifics of your fantasy really sound like repression.

If it’s not your choice, you aren’t gay – which is different from a scenario where you make the choice, and are the initiator.

That’s pretty common for guys who are not comfortable with their sexuality, but unable to express it.

Don’t cheat on your partner. Cheating doesn’t ever help, you just get the guilt tossed into the mix, and when she finds out, and they always do, the hurt you’ll cause will be worse than if you just told her first. Even if she leaves, you weren’t the cheating asshole.

If this gets to be so strong that you just can't control it through fantasy, you need to ask yourself if the woman you're with is the person you should be with in the first place.

Whatever you do, make sure you're not leaving a lot of bitter collateral damage in your wake.

 

[goodtime36]

I really want to thank you guys for some great advise. And no copay!!!

I think I will stay with my girlfriend and not cheat which i have never done to any relationship. Yeah the guilt thing just will make it worse.


Thanks so much.

 

[rareboy]

The problem I'm having here is that your description of your fantasy is way too over-developed for just shrugging it off.

Good luck with keeping all that pent up.

 

[Lube]

I really want to thank you guys for some great advise. And no copay!!!

I think I will stay with my girlfriend and not cheat which i have never done to any relationship. Yeah the guilt thing just will make it worse.


Thanks so much.

No no no. Listen to the great advice: soreknees, Excess, Tx, and rareboy all gave you great advice.

I've been exactly in your shoes, 4 years ago!

Don't deny who you are. Stay here on the JUB forums and read and ask questions. You have a lot to learn about yourself.

You owe it to yourself.

 

[G-Lexington]

I admire that you don't want to cheat on your girlfriend. However, it's surprising you didn't "scratch this gay itch" when you got divorced and were suddenly free to do so.

That said, if you and your girlfriend end up breaking up, you can most certainly experiment with another guy. In fact, as a in-shape straight guy who wants to get fucked, you're going to have guys tripping over themselves and fighting each other in order to be that one who gets to do the deed.

Lex

 

[goodtime36]

There is a ton of good advise out there. But I am going to wait until the situation is right.

I am hoping to find another guy similar to me that has had limited partners. I am not interested in the craigslist adds where the guys have been looking for anyone to have sex with.

Too bad there wasn't some easy way to tell by if a guy was looking for what i am.

Maybe some day I will be looking up at a nice guy with his cock hanging near my lips.

Thanks guys.

 

[goodtime36]

I admire that you don't want to cheat on your girlfriend. However, it's surprising you didn't "scratch this gay itch" when you got divorced and were suddenly free to do so.

That said, if you and your girlfriend end up breaking up, you can most certainly experiment with another guy. In fact, as a in-shape straight guy who wants to get fucked, you're going to have guys tripping over themselves and fighting each other in order to be that one who gets to do the deed.

Lex

Have you been on match.com? Holy shit there are some hot women on there. Now that most of the guys my are bald and overweight I had women hitting on me like crazy.

I had one redhead who was 5-11 hottie who was a wild squirter. I almost wore my dick off on this girl.

I went through five total hotties and used them all like I stole them.

Now I am dating another really great gal who bikes a couple hundred miles a week and has a body a college girl would be proud of. She is really great.

I guess I kind of got distracted from my gay itch!!

 

[rareboy]

I am hoping to find another guy similar to me that has had limited partners. I am not interested in the craigslist adds where the guys have been looking for anyone to have sex with.

Have you been on match.com? Holy shit there are some hot women on there. Now that most of the guys my are bald and overweight I had women hitting on me like crazy.

I had one redhead who was 5-11 hottie who was a wild squirter. I almost wore my dick off on this girl.

I went through five total hotties and used them all like I stole them.

Do you see the irony here?

 

[KaraBulut]

Hmmm...............

 

[goodtime36]

I do admit i have played out my gay desires in the dominate role on female partners. so this means? ? ?

 

[G-Lexington]

It means you're totally straight now. So go be totally straight with your hot girlfriend. And leave this website to us whiny homos.

But, y'know, just in case...

>>>I am hoping to find another guy similar to me that has had limited partners.

Bad idea. Sex is better when at least one person knows what the fuck they're doing.

Lex

 

[goodtime36]

It means you're totally straight now. So go be totally straight with your hot girlfriend. And leave this website to us whiny homos.

But, y'know, just in case...

>>>I am hoping to find another guy similar to me that has had limited partners.

Bad idea. Sex is better when at least one person knows what the fuck they're doing.

Lex

Hey lex. I bet i could match some of the better fucks you have had, right out of the gate.

It's amazing how fast a guy can learn once he gets a guy like you streached and moaning around his thick cock.

Never sucked a cock but I have a nice one. I bet I can figure out what's goine to feel nice on the recieving end.

Lex I think someone needs to ass fuck that attitude out of you!!

 

[KaraBulut]

Hmmmm............

 

[G-Lexington]

Gee, where do I start?

I don't know whether to take your post as a come-on or a sudden burst of testosterone no-brag-just-fact (or perhaps both). I'll say if it's the latter, it more or less confirms my thoughts on you, and makes me want to reiterate my last thought in my previous post. And if it's a come-on, it failed miserably, although I'm sure you gave several JUBbers a stiffy by posting it. Which may have been the point - some guys feel they've got to ram horns with the other males in order to get the bitches horny.

Also, I tend to classify myself as a "versatile top". This means I'm ordinarily the one doing the inserting when I'm having anal sex, although I can and do "receive" for the right guy. And I can tell you without hesitation that you ain't the right guy. In my experience, 95% of guys who like to tell you about how big their dick is are lying. (I've met plenty of guys with big dicks - they just don't feel the need to mention the fact.) The other 5% brag about their big dicks for the same reason Cap'n Crunch cereal announces "No Tropical Oils!" on the front of the package. If that's all you got, that's what you got to go with.

Enjoy your girlfriend.

Lex

 

[goodtime36]

I think you need to lighten up a little lex on if I am not actually having sex with a man then go away.

Before I had sex with a woman nobody called me asexual.

I just haven't found the right situation at the right moment.

If I end up with a man it was meant to happen. I have never got this close with the acceptance mentally.

For me sex is physical, mental, verbal and emontional. Right now I have a girl friend. I had other women and was married before that.

I hope you are not ripping on other posters who are trying to come to terms with feelings that are outside the mainstream population. It's not an easy thing with teenage children and working in a mostly male workforce to just jump up and wave my arms telling the world I might be gay. I really think I have gotten some nice advice on this forum. I hope you can accept my sexuality as openly as I am willing to accept your.

Thanks

Lot's of years to go so I plan to be patient and see what happens.


by the way 6.5 cut 5.75 girth. Not big but I can work it.

Gee, where do I start?

I don't know whether to take your post as a come-on or a sudden burst of testosterone no-brag-just-fact (or perhaps both). I'll say if it's the latter, it more or less confirms my thoughts on you, and makes me want to reiterate my last thought in my previous post. And if it's a come-on, it failed miserably, although I'm sure you gave several JUBbers a stiffy by posting it. Which may have been the point - some guys feel they've got to ram horns with the other males in order to get the bitches horny.

Also, I tend to classify myself as a "versatile top". This means I'm ordinarily the one doing the inserting when I'm having anal sex, although I can and do "receive" for the right guy. And I can tell you without hesitation that you ain't the right guy. In my experience, 95% of guys who like to tell you about how big their dick is are lying. (I've met plenty of guys with big dicks - they just don't feel the need to mention the fact.) The other 5% brag about their big dicks for the same reason Cap'n Crunch cereal announces "No Tropical Oils!" on the front of the package. If that's all you got, that's what you got to go with.

Enjoy your girlfriend.

Lex

 

[bankside]

Well, I don't get the "submit" thing. Fucking is damn good, and it isn't something you submit to, it's something you throw yourself enthusiastically into. LOL.

As for your girlfriend, of course if she is your girlfriend and you have never discussed having an open relationship, then you are wise to keep it as a fantasty. It is a hell of a good fantasy though, because as I mentioned, fucking or getting fucked is really good.

Anyway, would she be your dream girl if she came home and said "Honey, I really want this guy I know to fuck you. It would turn me on."

Even if it never happens, it is still a good fantasy for you to enjoy.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>I think you need to lighten up a little lex on if I am not actually having sex with a man then go away.

This was an error on my part, due to me misreading one of your posts. I misinterpreted "I do admit i have played out my gay desires in the dominate role on female partners" as something along the lines of "I worked through my gay desires by being dominate with my female partners". I was thinking "You went from saying 'I'm interested in trying gay sex' one day, and saying 'OK, I'm over it now' two days later?" Which is why I was dismissive. Sorry about that.

But I will say that having good-sized equipment isn't a prerequisite for good gay sex. If anything, the larger it is, the more careful you're going to want to be with it. Which is why I suggested that if and when you do hook up with a guy, it's with somebody with experience.

Lex