For bi guys, has sex with men changed you? And if so, in what way?

[Superboy69]

A parlor girl (who’d been cheated on in relationships) said to me once, “That men are out to spread their seed while women are there to nurture their brood. It’s instinctual, baked in, that’s the difference in their sexual desires.”

What I read all over this site proves that. The possession of the penis is what makes women crazy about infidelity. I’ll read on Quora the scorched earth policy women feel about men who cheat …to a posting.

But as a man, I’ve bedded scores of pussy and would suck loads of dick just to satisfy my desires. Nothing more, no love, no nurture. Wouldn’t even think twice about it. Personally, so I wasn’t hypocritical, if my partner told me she cheated on me, I’d be OK with it. I’d have to be. It would be tough, but I’d really have to be. Some MMF posters here have said the same. I emphasize Some.

I told an exceptional parlor girl once; someone who I had stratospheric, mind blowing sex with for years! “ I was glad I was married when I met her. Otherwise, I’d have persued her vigorously to marry.”

She replied, I’m glad that didn’t happen because you’d made me stop being a masseuse. I replied although, “I knew it would be tough but it would be so hypocritical to deprive her of her chosen profession, I’d have to accept it. If I’d truly loved her. And besides I’d wanna know “how was work today dear?” When she cum home from a hard day of erotic massaging.

Not to be sexist (too late, right.) but these different impulses are why Men and women are different kinds of leaders in Work. Men will get the job done without much emotion. Like in the military, “it’s an order!”

Women, I’ve noticed as bosses, agonize and are far more vindictive, “cattier,” In business. And driven! Admittedly this leads to the unfortunate axiom, a woman who’s strong in business is a bitch, while a man is just considered a good leader.

My liberal, liberated, wife would be the 1st to shoot down my assertions here about female leaders. But female bosses have demonstrated nurture/over seed spreading continuously in my life since women’s lib started. Even before that era, with strong willed school teachers I had since grade school

“That men are out to spread their seed while women are there to nurture their brood. It’s instinctual, baked in, that’s the difference in their sexual desires.” - I think you are so right about this, bro! I've seen and experienced that difference in many situations. I feel much freer admitting that I'm a bisexual guy and knowing how different sexual situations work best for both men and women.

 

[hagTreehouse]

I just need more dick! Gawd I want some dick!

 

[Superboy69]

I just need more dick! Gawd I want some dick!

big fucker dick - right here!

 

[hagTreehouse]

big fucker dick - right here!

When and where SuperBoy!

 

[HoleFunCork]

I’ve only started to meet guys in the last year. I bottom and adore the sensation of giving myself to someone who wants me. Strangely I like the thought of being taken.

The problem, and a very big problem, is that I’ve only started doing this since I started partying. I love how it turns me into a complete slut. To be honest, I’m not sure I could take anal without it.

So I’m not sure what I am at the moment. But I will continue bottoming.

 

[Terry1960]

Sex with men made me realize that I am actually more gay than bi. I love bottoming
And on the rare occasions I have sex with a woman, the only act I enjoy is going down on her. Although if she has a big enough dildo , I would bottom for her as well

 

[Tucker Lanier]

I totally get you! Eating pussy is fantastic and I love it when the juices start to flow and she squirms and bucks her hips when cumming. Have you stimulated a girl's A zone with your fingers? It's deeper than the G spot and produces an intense result when she's warmed up from being eaten, and causes extreme wetness and sometimes squirting. I love to have my woman sitting on my face while I use two fingers inside her and I lap up the juices.

But this is a forum for man fun and you were talking about sucking dick. You're right - all that skin that fills your mouth, and the hardness and thickness of male strength is so totally hot. You really need to seek out a cum load. To feel him build up, taste the precum, and then the squirting or sometimes just oozing of cum as he pumps it into your mouth, and you gulp it all down. Pussy is nice but dick and cum are the ultimate oral experience.

So spot on; pussy is good and pussy is where I started my sexual orientation; even though I jacked w my oldest brother all thru H S; but when I got to know the ex-military guy across the street. His oral skill was unreal. He taught me how to suck him and how to fuck. I enjoyed our intimacy during H S, college, and in my post graduate studies.
Nothing like sucking and fucking a man

 

[BiBtm64]

I’ve only started to meet guys in the last year. I bottom and adore the sensation of giving myself to someone who wants me. Strangely I like the thought of being taken.

The problem, and a very big problem, is that I’ve only started doing this since I started partying. I love how it turns me into a complete slut. To be honest, I’m not sure I could take anal without it.

So I’m not sure what I am at the moment. But I will continue bottoming.

Never mind what you are, what to call yourself. You're a guy who enjoys taking dick up your ass and I can totally relate.

You should try it without the drugs. It just helps to prepare and take your time. It's a more aware and intense experience when you're totally in the moment.

 

[BiBtm64]

So spot on; pussy is good and pussy is where I started my sexual orientation; even though I jacked w my oldest brother all thru H S; but when I got to know the ex-military guy across the street. His oral skill was unreal. He taught me how to suck him and how to fuck. I enjoyed our intimacy during H S, college, and in my post graduate studies.
Nothing like sucking and fucking a man

So spot on too, buddy! Nothing like being fucked by a man!

 

[LSC1962]

I read through many of these replies, and I am liking the fact we can have discussions here.

I did not realize I am a bisexual guy, until I got curious about watching gay porn. This started about 3 years ago. I am a happily married guy, with a great wife, and we love our hetero sex together. For some reason, deep within my mind, I have always been curious about man to man sex.
I watched porn for a bit, and started practicing anal sex with a dildo and found I was so turned on by everything I was doing. I found a good hookup website here in Ontario, and started getting together with local guys. I was very safe and selective about this, as I do not need the diseases and STIs. As I experimented, I understood that I love the 69 position, where both guys can cum while being sucked. I also discovered that I prefer to be a bottom, although I have topped a few guys and was very excited and stimulated by doing that. My best partners were men who would get us both hard, and then bend me over a countertop and enter me from behind. I loved the thought of being somewhat submissive to that, and that became my preferred position. I have tried doggy and missionary as well.

My thoughts on me and my experiences have me asking some questions, and making some points:

1) Is it okay to just love the act and the result, and not be "attracted" to the guy, per se?
2) I find that once I cum, I am done with the encounter, so in many ways, it is better that my partner cums first and then I cum.
3) I get absolutely over the top with excitement when getting together with a nice looking partner. It gets to the point that, if we are making out, sucking each other and also rimming, that I just want my partner to enter me and have his way. Penetrate me and cum inside me.

I would love to have a way to get together with my current partner more often; it is very difficult with the distance and little time I currently have. I think I an "addicted" to cumming and getting off, and that is enhanced by getting together with a great partner.

So, am I considered a true "bisexual" man if I love the act, but not necessarily needing to love the man? I have come to realize that I cannot ignore the fact I am bisexual, and that I want to experience this with another nice, clean man. I have a lot more to comment on as well.

 

[hagTreehouse]

The fact that you’re attracted to the act itself ; if you read more posts on this site that you’ll find is very common place. There was a great line from the movie Network back in the ‘70s. Faye Dunaway speaking to William Holden‘s character said ..” I apparently have a masculine temperament. I arouse quickly, consummate prematurely, and can't wait to get my clothes back on and get out of that bedroom.”

I personally find when I’m watching gay porn I’m really into it; but once I orgasm, I’m done it’s time to move on with my day. Women in general usually want to cuddle after sex (and are angry if the man doesn’t.) they wanna bond with their man. it is a natural inclination.

I like to give more than I like to receive. Always eat a girl to orgasm before I do anything else with her. Course I don’t mind cuddling after. She’s a girl, I wanna please her. But after orgasming with a guy I found I’ve done the act. I’m not in love with the guy. Nor do I wanna be. Maybe we both should have let the guy come first then you can do him since we lose interest after orgasm . but don’t worry about how you feel about these things …lit is natural. It’s just that you have a strong desire to be to have sex with a man . I’ve learned a lot here you have a lot of friends here on JUB. you’ll find a lot of guys on here to have the same experiences as you do. it’s one thing I like about JUB. it’s amazing site

 

[BiBtm64]

I read through many of these replies, and I am liking the fact we can have discussions here.

I did not realize I am a bisexual guy, until I got curious about watching gay porn. This started about 3 years ago. I am a happily married guy, with a great wife, and we love our hetero sex together. For some reason, deep within my mind, I have always been curious about man to man sex.
I watched porn for a bit, and started practicing anal sex with a dildo and found I was so turned on by everything I was doing. I found a good hookup website here in Ontario, and started getting together with local guys. I was very safe and selective about this, as I do not need the diseases and STIs. As I experimented, I understood that I love the 69 position, where both guys can cum while being sucked. I also discovered that I prefer to be a bottom, although I have topped a few guys and was very excited and stimulated by doing that. My best partners were men who would get us both hard, and then bend me over a countertop and enter me from behind. I loved the thought of being somewhat submissive to that, and that became my preferred position. I have tried doggy and missionary as well.

My thoughts on me and my experiences have me asking some questions, and making some points:

1) Is it okay to just love the act and the result, and not be "attracted" to the guy, per se?
2) I find that once I cum, I am done with the encounter, so in many ways, it is better that my partner cums first and then I cum.
3) I get absolutely over the top with excitement when getting together with a nice looking partner. It gets to the point that, if we are making out, sucking each other and also rimming, that I just want my partner to enter me and have his way. Penetrate me and cum inside me.

I would love to have a way to get together with my current partner more often; it is very difficult with the distance and little time I currently have. I think I an "addicted" to cumming and getting off, and that is enhanced by getting together with a great partner.

So, am I considered a true "bisexual" man if I love the act, but not necessarily needing to love the man? I have come to realize that I cannot ignore the fact I am bisexual, and that I want to experience this with another nice, clean man. I have a lot more to comment on as well.

Your thoughts and experiences are quite common and very normal. Many of us here, including me, have related similar - happily married or partnered but there is that extra thrill you get from being with a man that you don't get from your partner. You love her, and you love sex with her, but she doesn't have a dick. Welcome to the club.

1) Is it okay to just love the act and the result, and not be "attracted" to the guy, per se?​

Yes, absolutely. Sex can be simply a physical act for physical enjoyment without the need for attraction and connection to the person. This is quite common and normal for many of us here, and I'm exactly the same: I love dick but I'm not attracted to men in the same way as I am to women. I think this would only be wrong if the other guy was looking for attraction and connection, and you deceive him to get sex just for the act. so long as both people involved in the act understand that it's just for physical fun, then it's absolutely okay, IMO.

2) I find that once I cum, I am done with the encounter, so in many ways, it is better that my partner cums first and then I cum.​

This is so normal that it has a name: post-nut clarity. You're super horny and overcome with the thrill of the action, and then once you cum, it's all over and you're done with him and his dick - you can't get away from him fast enough. As you say, the appropriate solution is to ensure that he cums first. It's a common and normal thing when you're having sex for the physical thrill and not attracted to the guy per se. Never feel like there's anything wrong with this. It's only wrong if you let down the other guy.

3) I get absolutely over the top with excitement when getting together with a nice looking partner. It gets to the point that, if we are making out, sucking each other and also rimming, that I just want my partner to enter me and have his way. Penetrate me and cum inside me.​

I feel exactly the same and I believe many bisexual / straight-leaning / bicurious guys feel the same - there's a special thrill in submitting and giving yourself to a man. I think it stems partly from the role we take, and are often expected to take in hetero sex, where we take the lead and guide the action. It's nice to be the one being led and to take a feminine role. I find I feel a sense of bonding with the guy and a special pleasure in feeling him using my body for his enjoyment.

So, am I considered a true "bisexual" man if I love the act, but not necessarily needing to love the man? I have come to realize that I cannot ignore the fact I am bisexual, and that I want to experience this with another nice, clean man. I have a lot more to comment on as well.​

I'm not sure what a "true bisexual" is, as opposed to a not so true one. I think there's a spectrum of bisexuality and it's fluid in many of us between straight-leaning and gay-leaning. If you mean, are you bisexual if you love only the dick and not the man? Sure, why not? That's how I consider myself to be. The important thing is to feel comfortable with who you are and what you do, and don't stress too much about labels. Labels are for fruit in the supermarket. You don't need a label to understand yourself and be comfortable in your own skin.

I hope it helps you to feel better about yourself knowing that there are others like you who understand. If you want to know anything more, feel free to ask.

 

[BlondMichael]

Been bi all my life. A few years back I ran into a guy I went to school with since 4th grade. He gave me a crash course in bottoming. Since then I will only let him fuck me

 

[Tucker Lanier]

Your thoughts and experiences are quite common and very normal. Many of us here, including me, have related similar - happily married or partnered but there is that extra thrill you get from being with a man that you don't get from your partner. You love her, and you love sex with her, but she doesn't have a dick. Welcome to the club.

1) Is it okay to just love the act and the result, and not be "attracted" to the guy, per se?​

Yes, absolutely. Sex can be simply a physical act for physical enjoyment without the need for attraction and connection to the person. This is quite common and normal for many of us here, and I'm exactly the same: I love dick but I'm not attracted to men in the same way as I am to women. I think this would only be wrong if the other guy was looking for attraction and connection, and you deceive him to get sex just for the act. so long as both people involved in the act understand that it's just for physical fun, then it's absolutely okay, IMO.

2) I find that once I cum, I am done with the encounter, so in many ways, it is better that my partner cums first and then I cum.​

This is so normal that it has a name: post-nut clarity. You're super horny and overcome with the thrill of the action, and then once you cum, it's all over and you're done with him and his dick - you can't get away from him fast enough. As you say, the appropriate solution is to ensure that he cums first. It's a common and normal thing when you're having sex for the physical thrill and not attracted to the guy per se. Never feel like there's anything wrong with this. It's only wrong if you let down the other guy.

3) I get absolutely over the top with excitement when getting together with a nice looking partner. It gets to the point that, if we are making out, sucking each other and also rimming, that I just want my partner to enter me and have his way. Penetrate me and cum inside me.​

I feel exactly the same and I believe many bisexual / straight-leaning / bicurious guys feel the same - there's a special thrill in submitting and giving yourself to a man. I think it stems partly from the role we take, and are often expected to take in hetero sex, where we take the lead and guide the action. It's nice to be the one being led and to take a feminine role. I find I feel a sense of bonding with the guy and a special pleasure in feeling him using my body for his enjoyment.

So, am I considered a true "bisexual" man if I love the act, but not necessarily needing to love the man? I have come to realize that I cannot ignore the fact I am bisexual, and that I want to experience this with another nice, clean man. I have a lot more to comment on as well.​

I'm not sure what a "true bisexual" is, as opposed to a not so true one. I think there's a spectrum of bisexuality and it's fluid in many of us between straight-leaning and gay-leaning. If you mean, are you bisexual if you love only the dick and not the man? Sure, why not? That's how I consider myself to be. The important thing is to feel comfortable with who you are and what you do, and don't stress too much about labels. Labels are for fruit in the supermarket. You don't need a label to understand yourself and be comfortable in your own skin.

I hope it helps you to feel better about yourself knowing that there are others like you who understand. If you want to know anything more, feel free to ask.

Re-read this thread again and I deeply appreciate the honesty and insight. I resisted the “urge” until college. I had experiences with my older brother (mostly jacking and sucking each other) and a neighbor. But as a teen enjoyed hetero. Once in college a fellow football teammate and I got into the whole deal.
69, mutual rimming, fucking, golden showers, toys, etc… the need for male bonding and intimacy is profoundly powerful. There is a deep inherent desire that most guys ignore. Often I meet up w guys at the market or hardware store and catch their eyes on my bulged jeans. When I wink at these guys, most divert and run. Some wink back and initiate a convo and we end up in my truck enjoying each other’s dicks.
Takes courage to be bi. My wife and I enjoy a great sex life, she has no clue I engage in male bonding. Dick time is a beautiful thing.

 

[magicdick]

Re-read this thread again and I deeply appreciate the honesty and insight. I resisted the “urge” until college. I had experiences with my older brother (mostly jacking and sucking each other) and a neighbor. But as a teen enjoyed hetero. Once in college a fellow football teammate and I got into the whole deal.
69, mutual rimming, fucking, golden showers, toys, etc… the need for male bonding and intimacy is profoundly powerful. There is a deep inherent desire that most guys ignore. Often I meet up w guys at the market or hardware store and catch their eyes on my bulged jeans. When I wink at these guys, most divert and run. Some wink back and initiate a convo and we end up in my truck enjoying each other’s dicks.
Takes courage to be bi. My wife and I enjoy a great sex life, she has no clue I engage in male bonding. Dick time is a beautiful thing.

Same experience. Often I meet up w guys at the market or hardware store and catch their eyes on my bulged jeans. When I wink at these guys, most divert and run. Some wink back and initiate... You need to go fishing if you want to enjoy fish. Just know that you don't aways catch a fish. My bulge isn't obvious, so I rely on other assets.

 

[Tucker Lanier]

Re-read this thread again and I deeply appreciate the honesty and insight. I resisted the “urge” until college. I had experiences with my older brother (mostly jacking and sucking each other) and a neighbor. But as a teen enjoyed hetero. Once in college a fellow football teammate and I got into the whole deal.
69, mutual rimming, fucking, golden showers, toys, etc… the need for male bonding and intimacy is profoundly powerful. There is a deep inherent desire that most guys ignore. Often I meet up w guys at the market or hardware store and catch their eyes on my bulged jeans. When I wink at these guys, most divert and run. Some wink back and initiate a convo and we end up in my truck enjoying each other’s dicks.
Takes courage to be bi. My wife and I enjoy a great sex life, she has no clue I engage in male bonding. Dick time is a beautiful thing.

 

[Tucker Lanier]

Same experience. Often I meet up w guys at the market or hardware store and catch their eyes on my bulged jeans. When I wink at these guys, most divert and run. Some wink back and initiate... You need to go fishing if you want to enjoy fish. Just know that you don't aways catch a fish. My bulge isn't obvious, so I rely on other assets.

Yes
Initiating conversations, hiking, volunteering at our local Food Bank, and counseling at my County’s ADL /Recidivism Center segues often into connections. I’m not intimating that “bulging” is the only avenue of contact. With an awareness of male sexuality there’s a good spectrum of meeting other guys to enjoy male relationships.

 

[magicdick]

Yes
Initiating conversations, hiking, volunteering at our local Food Bank, and counseling at my County’s ADL /Recidivism Center segues often into connections. I’m not intimating that “bulging” is the only avenue of contact. With an awareness of male sexuality there’s a good spectrum of meeting other guys to enjoy male relationships.

Nice suckable cock there, Tucker. I can see myself on my knees swallowing that cock and your cum. And those balls! NICE!!! They would not, repeat NOT, be ignored. Balls do not get the respect they deserve. I love cupping and caressing my man's balls when we kiss and when I blow him. I just fuckin' made myself hard!

 

[BiBtm64]

Re-read this thread again and I deeply appreciate the honesty and insight. I resisted the “urge” until college. I had experiences with my older brother (mostly jacking and sucking each other) and a neighbor. But as a teen enjoyed hetero. Once in college a fellow football teammate and I got into the whole deal.
69, mutual rimming, fucking, golden showers, toys, etc… the need for male bonding and intimacy is profoundly powerful. There is a deep inherent desire that most guys ignore. Often I meet up w guys at the market or hardware store and catch their eyes on my bulged jeans. When I wink at these guys, most divert and run. Some wink back and initiate a convo and we end up in my truck enjoying each other’s dicks.
Takes courage to be bi. My wife and I enjoy a great sex life, she has no clue I engage in male bonding. Dick time is a beautiful thing.

I look back and wonder why so many of us resisted the urge, when we were young and horny... the societal pressure to be heterosexual, the homophobia, the fear of being labelled and shunned. We can make up for lost time.

Yes, male intimacy is a wonderful thing. The excitement, the anticipation, the hardness and strength, the physical force of penetration, the bonding that comes from shared lust when we allow ourselves to let go of inhibitions and simply enjoy. Women are beautiful, but there's nothing quite like a dick. Thank you - I'm happy that my insights find their mark with you.

 

[magicdick]

I look back and wonder why so many of us resisted the urge, when we were young and horny... the societal pressure to be heterosexual, the homophobia, the fear of being labelled and shunned. We can make up for lost time.

Yes, male intimacy is a wonderful thing. The excitement, the anticipation, the hardness and strength, the physical force of penetration, the bonding that comes from shared lust when we allow ourselves to let go of inhibitions and simply enjoy. Women are beautiful, but there's nothing quite like a dick. Thank you - I'm happy that my insights find their mark with you.

There is not a thing in the universe of physical delight hat matches "the physical force of penetration". Nothing.