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For the Women of JUB: Would you Consider a Relationship with a Bisexual Man?

lyconthrope said:
.....do you fess up before you get together, later down the line or keep it secret.
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Well, speaking for my culture only (and ya´ll cannot debate me over this cuz ya´ll don´t know anything about it :cool:), certain ¨things¨ are better left unsaid. One doesn´t discuss one´s sexual past (wether gay, straight, bi, women or men) with a partner, its bad taste and saves a lot of strain on relationships.

I for one wouldn´t tell my future wife if I have been with men in the past, or my preferences, the same that I wouldn´t expect for her to tell me about her past sexual life. As I said, those things are better left unsaid.
 
fair enough, it is differant all over the world, and for individuals and even for differant generations within the same culture, no one is going to dispute that.

but I am guessing the OP has no personal problem with talking about sexual past/present/future and just wanted to ask the opinion of women before he jumped in with both feet and risk screwing up what he has going with this girl. and opinions of any men who may have been in the same position.
 
Romantico said:
I'm not insevure at all. I am bisexual. Period. Its who I am. I don' want a girl who isn't open minded to accept me for who I am. If she won't accept me as a bisexual then she is not the one for me.Its that simple. I know someone who wants to be gay just to annoy his parents. I could never do that. I think there are alot of people who claim to be bi for all the wrong reasons.They are afraid. They want attention. They are not ready to come out of the closet.Or, like the person I know he was afraid if he were to tell his family he was gay they would cut him off financially,so he claims to be bi.

The post did not get derailed when I said I could care less about gay men. I said as far as arelationship goes I could care less about gay men because I want to be with a women. Don't misquote me.THATS why it got derailed.You say it was offensive. To Whom? You are a bisexual. Not one person took it that way. NO ONE. Where are all the gay JUB's with their pitchforks? You've been banned 3 times for offensive remarks so for you to come in here, misquote me and play the Gay advocate is the pot calling the kettle black my friend. I took your insults VERY personal and let you know it.Go look at all my other posts on other topics. I am more at home with gays and the gay community then I am with the hetero and take insult to your claims I am antigay.This topic is heading in a very bad direction again.

SInce I have asked for women to chime in and you have NOTHING to offer, with all due respect I can not see why you continue to "STIR THE POT". No reason to "soil" this topic just for attention. :badgrin:
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Romantico, it is now YOU who is stirring the pot. Lugus, in the post above yours, tried to put this squabble to bed. Both of you--let it go, or put each other on "ignore."

This thread is being reported every few hours by concerned members. While we're watching it closely, our patience is growing thin. Please be civil and discuss this interesting topic intelligently, or we close it down. Last warning. Thanks.

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hehe no I guess asking the women here what they thought you could pretty garauntee your answer was gonna be a positive one.

I guess I can understand why some women would be wary because of the disease side of things from cheating & unprotected sex, but you can get that if your man cheats with a woman too, I think for some people its just a little unusual and there is an in-built sqwuick factor.

some people have just been raised that way, my mother is in her 50's and has a "fine for everyone else, just not my thing" attitude towards things hehe she may not understand who you are but she wont judge you for it.

(oh, and I hope your friend didnt get anything too serious)
 
ljhotboy said:
Somehow I'm not surprised that women on this particular site would be willing to date bisexual men, haha.

Personally I know only one woman who would date a bi man, and she happens to be bicurious herself so I'm not too surprised at that either. But all my other female friends seem to cringe at the thought of being with a man who likes to be with other men. One in particular actually was at one time until she contracted a disease because her mate had been cheating.
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My point exactly, MOST women would feel very uncomfortable knowing that their man is bi.

As a matter of fact, all of my female friends think bisexuality is the first stop to full blown gaytown :lol:
 
Okay, so I'm seeing this girl, and I just told her this morning that I was bisexual (while reassuring her that it didn't mean I was looking to be with more than one person). My delivery wasn't as as good as I had hoped, but we were talking about same- vs. opposite-sex friends, and homosexuality had come up earlier in our conversation, so it was just the right time to bring it up. Things aren't that serious yet. We're not quite in a relationship, though things could go in that direction if I wanted them to (the power is sort of in my hands at this point). I'm not sure if I want to be with her or with somebody else, because it's too soon to know. I wasn't planning on telling somebody that I wasn't sure I wanted to be in a relationship with, but at the same time, I felt like WERE she and I to end up in a relationship, now would be the right time. However, I feel weird about it because I didn't feel like she was close enough to me to "merit" my telling her.

As for her response: well, the conversation got kind of awkward for a bit, but then things were seemingly okay. However, I don't know whether she's gone home, and will think about things, and ultimately freak out and call the whole thing off. I'll just have to wait and see. I also wonder if I told her too soon, considering I'm not even sure whether to move forward with her.
 
Now I'm thinking why the f. I told her. I think it came out all wrong. I was more nervous telling her than I had expected to be, and ended up making it sound like a bigger deal than it was meant to be. I don't want her to get all worried. I'm worried that all she'll latch onto now is the "ALSO ATTRACTED TO THE SAME SEX" part of me.
 
I wouldn't worry to much Nurlan. You probably just caught her off guard. Just give her some time to asses the situation and I'm sure the outcome will not be as bad as you seem to fear. Good luck!!

It's really noble that you were honest with her. You know, if I were bisexual, I don't think I'd tell the men I was seeing that I had a thing for women too.
 
We'll see. Part of the problem is that in telling her, I didn't sound as casual as I had hoped, and therefore sounded like I wanted to take the relationship to a higher level. Neither of us really wanted to have a "relationship talk" or to make things any more serious than they are right now. By telling her about my sexuality, it may have sounded like I was implying I wanted to talk about "us." If I had brought it up more casually, like "haha, I'm attracted to guys too, you know," that wouldn't have been the case. But the conversation we were having compelled me to bring it up at a time when I wasn't prepared to bring it up, and in a far more serious-sounding tone than I had intended to use.
 
just explain that to her, tell her you didnt mean to sound so tense about it but thought it was fair/important/necessary that she knew, that you just wanted to be as open and honest as possible.

I agree with Alpha, you probably threw her for a curve, give her time to let it sink and then see where you stand
 
Re: For the Women of JUB: Would you Consider a Rel

I'm fine being with a bi guy, sure theres double the chance that he'll cheat, but you have to be honest from the beginning. I'm on the straighter side of bi, so I can't say how straight women would feel. Maybe I accept it because I'm bi too, I don't know, but I've always been an accepting kind of person, even before I became bi.
 
Re: For the Women of JUB: Would you Consider a Rel

I broke up with my g/f of 8months,after getting back together from being seperated for 2 weeks... The maine reason was she flat out lied to me just so we coudl get back together. Also becuase she could not accept that I was Bi and was attracted to guys and girls. She told me it was fine and she accepted me and we got back together wel 4 days later she just lost it and told me she could not deal with the though of me thinking of guys in a sexual way and watching gay porn..etc... I told her either she accepts it or its ove, she came back with she would only accpet it if I were to turn totally straight... So we broke up.

Here is the kicker, She is Bi, She has made out with another girl, gets off watching lesbian porn,etc.. I brought this up and she just said I accept it because I am a guy and becuase I have no prorplem watching two girls go at it(which I don't)....


So i guess it woudl just depend on teh girl, My one Ex that I still talk to(she lives 600miles away) she love watching gay porn, some of her fantasies envolve bi & gay guys. From talking to her as a friend we foudn out we have alot in commen with sexual fetishes and what not. She told me she woudl ove to have a Bi husband who liked her being Bi, she said it woudl add extra excitment...


Sorry about teh spelling errors, it was a long day..
 
Re: For the Women of JUB: Would you Consider a Rel

Dude, your better off without her. When I started this post I was so afraid I was going to loose her. Its the hardest part thinking that you are intentionally sabotaging your chance at happiness. I to this day still think it should be the #1 item on the very top of the list when you meet a girl or a guy. I would have been hurt and sad if my GF reacted like that after I told her I was bi, but I would want to know early on. Some advice. If they ask a ton of questions, answer them honestly. I had never once had anyone in any of my relationships ask me the detailed and personal questions as my GF did. At first I was uncomfortable but I realized the more she asked the more she wanted to understand and know me. She was very sheltered and educating her and debunking all the myths was important. The more questions they ask the better. It shows they care. Good luck to you!
 
Re: For the Women of JUB: Would you Consider a Rel

Yes, because he would be someone who understands what being gay is about. I've been with straight guys who don't understand or don't want to understand, and they put gay people down. What about you? do you prefer straight or bi women? and why?
 
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I think my GF might be bi. Its something we haven't discussed and I think she may be slowly putting the pieces together. She was raised in a strict religious house and was somewhat sheltered. I have opened her eyes and introduced her to a world she has never sen and she seems to fit right into it. She loves the gay community and seems always embarrassed when we see two naked girls or anything remotely related to lesbians. She will make a lesbian-esque comment and then quickly assure me was just kidding. I have a lot of nude fine art books and she LOVES seeing naked women. We look at porn together on line and she really enjoys both. I've brought up her being bisexual before and she shrugs her shoulders and seems to move onto another topic. I see the sign s and feel she may be coming around. Her family does not know about my sexual orientation and the day is coming where I know its gonna come up. My concern is if she IS bisexual and does make it know that she is her friends and family will no doubt blame me for this and say I converted her (page 227 of the gay agenda. You know the chapter where we recruit) I love my GF no matter what. Straight, bi, hell even if she came out as 100% gay I'd still love her (although things would obviously change) So it doesn't matter with me. I believe our souls are sexless and at the end its what's inside. Most people can't se beyond the big picture. Love lasts forever. Gender is not the priority IMO.
 
Re: For the Women of JUB: Would you Consider a Rel

It is what it is. I'm bisexual myself, so i would be a hypocrite to harper on about somebody being bisexual.
 
Re: For the Women of JUB: Would you Consider a Rel

My wife knew I was bi when we first got together, and all of our mutual friends knew, and my family knew, and the whole town knew, etc, etc. Our relationship is neither perfect nor easy but it's good and we work on it all the time.

She DID ask me to closet myself for her family (strict religious types -shudder-) and so I keep my mouth shut around them for her sake. Do her and her gal pals talk about my bisexuality? I don't know! Maybe I should ask, but I guess that just goes to show that it's no big deal for us.
 
Re: A Question for Females about Bisexual Men

lugus15 said:
Pretty much sums it up



Fair and :square:

No women would like for her galpals to know her husband likes to suck cock or take it up the ass, you know women being competitive and shit (not that men are not competitive). They would feel humiliated and such.

PS, I´m not a woman, but I took the liberty of sharing my opinions ;)
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I wouldn't care who knew. :-) Guys being with guys is so sexy to me.
 
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