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Friend wants piece of me?
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ridge01
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You are wondering why he is not doing anyhting. Maybe he is is wondering the same thing about you...
I agree with lucius! this guy is in love with you. Don't waste your time while you can enjoy that love!
I agree with lucius! this guy is in love with you. Don't waste your time while you can enjoy that love!
I just read through the thread today, and I am too really frustrated that you haven't done anything after all this time!
You guys are obviously at a level where I think he'd accept you for who you are (I mean, a photo of you and him on his bed, right?!), so either you can start coming on to him, or just take the route of having a deep talk about your feelings for him. I really don't think it's healthy where it's at anymore.
Or you could just play with him. Any kind of game with contact. My first fling started with someone completely dominating me in wrestling. >_o You guys are rather muscular, so maybe go that route? I'm sure other people have probably suggested this, but after reading through the first three pages (and realizing that there were more after ._.) I got frustrated and just skipped to this page. XD You might think it's weird to wrestle together, but that's only because you're attracted to him and you're watching yourself very carefully. My straight friends do it ALL the time.
But hey, it's all up to you. Everyone's been telling you to go for it, but you hesitate (and understandably from where I'm reading), but the signs are too much. You really can't keep this up for too long.
You guys are obviously at a level where I think he'd accept you for who you are (I mean, a photo of you and him on his bed, right?!), so either you can start coming on to him, or just take the route of having a deep talk about your feelings for him. I really don't think it's healthy where it's at anymore.
Or you could just play with him. Any kind of game with contact. My first fling started with someone completely dominating me in wrestling. >_o You guys are rather muscular, so maybe go that route? I'm sure other people have probably suggested this, but after reading through the first three pages (and realizing that there were more after ._.) I got frustrated and just skipped to this page. XD You might think it's weird to wrestle together, but that's only because you're attracted to him and you're watching yourself very carefully. My straight friends do it ALL the time.
But hey, it's all up to you. Everyone's been telling you to go for it, but you hesitate (and understandably from where I'm reading), but the signs are too much. You really can't keep this up for too long.
True, but the Moon can't get disgusted by you making a move on it.
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Blueyes
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i read through this all in one go. if this is a joke i am seriously disappointed. if not, do something about it!!!!
Raincoat Massacre
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I stopped beleiving this thread on the second page...
Take it from someone who's been in this situation before. You have to basically take a look at it all and weigh the advantages and the disadvantages.
Advantages -
1. could create a long lasting relationship with someone you care about.
2. ease your mind after months of craziness. (you seem to be really really stressed - NOT GOOD)
Disadvtanges
1. Potentially ruin a great friendship.
In the end, i think for your own sake you have to make a move. It's destroying you inside and you owe it to yourself to find out if there's anything there. It's not healthy to be going through all this. Believe me, i've been there for. My story: Years ago, I had lusted over this guy and we flirted all the time (who was st8 at this point). One day we were just cuddling on the couch and i just leaned in and kissed this guy. It lead to 2hrs of kissing and making out and will probably go down as the hottest night ever. Man we were great at kissing.! hahaha
Anyways back to your story.... you have to be dumb to not think there's a connection there. My only thing is that even know he wants this (i'm sure of it) he still may react negatively. you have to expect that. I believe he'll be into it but i wouldn't push it too far for the first time. Maybe some cuddling, rubbing and kissing. Nothing too crazy.... BEST OF LUCK
Advantages -
1. could create a long lasting relationship with someone you care about.
2. ease your mind after months of craziness. (you seem to be really really stressed - NOT GOOD)
Disadvtanges
1. Potentially ruin a great friendship.
In the end, i think for your own sake you have to make a move. It's destroying you inside and you owe it to yourself to find out if there's anything there. It's not healthy to be going through all this. Believe me, i've been there for. My story: Years ago, I had lusted over this guy and we flirted all the time (who was st8 at this point). One day we were just cuddling on the couch and i just leaned in and kissed this guy. It lead to 2hrs of kissing and making out and will probably go down as the hottest night ever. Man we were great at kissing.! hahaha
Anyways back to your story.... you have to be dumb to not think there's a connection there. My only thing is that even know he wants this (i'm sure of it) he still may react negatively. you have to expect that. I believe he'll be into it but i wouldn't push it too far for the first time. Maybe some cuddling, rubbing and kissing. Nothing too crazy.... BEST OF LUCK
RicanDAB
Batteries Not Included
BlewBoi,
I must have been under a rock to have missed this thread, since Coming Out and Relationships is one of my favorite forums, anyway ... I've read this entire thread and this is what I have to say:
I don't feel bad for you ... I think the "tearing me appart emotionally" you're experiencing is all of your own doing. All the signs are there that this guy has a thing for you and the subtle physical hinting back and forth is just building up frustration for both of you. Years ago I myself have been where you are now - twice - too shy to make a move, and I discover later on that these two guys were in fact gay and bi, repectively, and wanted to play - now I live with those regrets knowing that these guys would not have ended friendships had we made moves (now of course time has passed and we've moved on to our own relationships, so there's no longer any curious needs between us). No honest-to-goodness straight guy in his early 20s is gonna sleep in the same bed with a guy in such close proximity night after night and suddenly quash his active interest in girls. Sorry
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For what it is worth, perhaps the best advice I have read so far on how to approach:
Also, I find it very interesting that 90% of those JUBers that regularly post on the Coming Out Forum have not posted on here - if I'm not mistaken, I don't even recall reading posts from any mods either. That's odd ... maybe they are on to the fact that someone's hooking everyone into "a story", as was eluded to earlier ...
I'll come back to this thread in 2008 to see if we're still circling the airport
... lots more substantive threads I can be otherwise reading ... 
ETA: Oops. I see there was one mod earlier who replied. But not sure who else.
I must have been under a rock to have missed this thread, since Coming Out and Relationships is one of my favorite forums, anyway ... I've read this entire thread and this is what I have to say:
I don't feel bad for you ... I think the "tearing me appart emotionally" you're experiencing is all of your own doing. All the signs are there that this guy has a thing for you and the subtle physical hinting back and forth is just building up frustration for both of you. Years ago I myself have been where you are now - twice - too shy to make a move, and I discover later on that these two guys were in fact gay and bi, repectively, and wanted to play - now I live with those regrets knowing that these guys would not have ended friendships had we made moves (now of course time has passed and we've moved on to our own relationships, so there's no longer any curious needs between us). No honest-to-goodness straight guy in his early 20s is gonna sleep in the same bed with a guy in such close proximity night after night and suddenly quash his active interest in girls. Sorry
!For what it is worth, perhaps the best advice I have read so far on how to approach:
Also, I find it very interesting that 90% of those JUBers that regularly post on the Coming Out Forum have not posted on here - if I'm not mistaken, I don't even recall reading posts from any mods either. That's odd ... maybe they are on to the fact that someone's hooking everyone into "a story", as was eluded to earlier ...
I'll come back to this thread in 2008 to see if we're still circling the airport
... lots more substantive threads I can be otherwise reading ... ETA: Oops. I see there was one mod earlier who replied. But not sure who else.
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Hey Guys
sorry for the late update, ive been really busy and depressed lately.
seeing that my friend lives quite far from me now there arent many experiences.
theres not much i can say anymore.
We do however chat to each other EVERY day.
I asked him the other day if he misses me and he replied with "Misses me Allot!!!!"
Im gonna visit him soon, were gonna be alone again. Do you guys think it will be wierd if I ask him if i can sleep like we did last time "in the same bed" will he think its wierd, because there are other beds in the house.
I just want to lay in his arms
sorry for the late update, ive been really busy and depressed lately.
seeing that my friend lives quite far from me now there arent many experiences.
theres not much i can say anymore.
We do however chat to each other EVERY day.
I asked him the other day if he misses me and he replied with "Misses me Allot!!!!"
Im gonna visit him soon, were gonna be alone again. Do you guys think it will be wierd if I ask him if i can sleep like we did last time "in the same bed" will he think its wierd, because there are other beds in the house.
I just want to lay in his arms
Lee Davies
On the Prowl
If he sleeps in your bed without asking, sleep in his without asking.
If he sleeps in your bed with asking, just ask it, as if it were a perfectly normal thing.
However, I've to the conclusion that relationships with friends don't work out - having said that, that's from my own personal experience, and ultimately, it's a decision you have to make.
Nobody can tell you what to do, you have to learn it for yourself!
Either way, I hope things work out for you
If he sleeps in your bed with asking, just ask it, as if it were a perfectly normal thing.
However, I've to the conclusion that relationships with friends don't work out - having said that, that's from my own personal experience, and ultimately, it's a decision you have to make.
Nobody can tell you what to do, you have to learn it for yourself!
Either way, I hope things work out for you
Hey Guys
sorry for the late update, ive been really busy and depressed lately.
seeing that my friend lives quite far from me now there arent many experiences.
theres not much i can say anymore.
We do however chat to each other EVERY day.
I asked him the other day if he misses me and he replied with "Misses me Allot!!!!"
Im gonna visit him soon, were gonna be alone again. Do you guys think it will be wierd if I ask him if i can sleep like we did last time "in the same bed" will he think its wierd, because there are other beds in the house.
I just want to lay in his arms
Were there other beds during the other times? You should say something like, "Hey we should have a slumber party like old times..." Then see what he says about it when you say it in a joking way.
RMphan
Virgin
I dunno, this thread does confuse me, I can't believe you guys have gone so long without at least doing something other than slight spooning. Oh well, I think you're just going to have to take a gamble or regret it the rest of your life.
Just echoing what other people have said already, you will either lose your friend or lose yourself. Personally, I would take the loss of a friend, at least you could COPE with that, as opposed to just being absolutely tortured as to whether or not anything will ever happen.
Just echoing what other people have said already, you will either lose your friend or lose yourself. Personally, I would take the loss of a friend, at least you could COPE with that, as opposed to just being absolutely tortured as to whether or not anything will ever happen.
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Oh ... I don't know ... (not knowing You and Him!) ...
But, something along the lines of, "You know? Sometimes I get to feeling so lonely! Would you mind if I just snuggle up with You?"
Or ... if both of you have "had a few" ... "I think it's time to get snuggly!"
A few years ago, I had a long time, dear, friend out at my family's place on Cape Cod, on Wellfleet harbor. My parents were there, too. It was a little, tiny, thin(interior)-walled, ranch-style, two bedroom, "cottage". Den, and I, had been to P-town, and had "a few".
We were out on the patio, about 2am, having a smoke, when I said, "I think it's time to get naked, and snuggle!" So ... we did! Mind you ... our bedroom had two twin beds, and our closet bordered on my parent's room closet. Still, sound travelled ...
We went back inside, dropped our clothes, and snuggled up together in "my" bed (right next to the closet). I was "spooning" with Den, his back to me (I get too warm when someone is holding me), and nothing else "happened". We just slept together. (Quietly!)
Next night, we didn't go into P-town, but did walk around the harbor with my parents. When we got back to the house, it was suggested we check for ticks. Den, and I, went into our room, and got as far as taking off our shirts. I found a tick on my shoulder, and immediately went back out to the living room, so Dad could get it off me, with a tweasers. By the time I got back into "our" room, Den was fast asleep in his own bed.
The night after that, we were back in P-town, and had a serious run-in with our buddy "Captain Morgan"! (And a nearly naked bartender at the "A-house"!) After bar close, we "discoverd" the "dick-dock", in the rain, while everyone else was at "Spartan Pizza"! Nothing really happened (well ... a few "low key things" did), and Den somehow ended up with a "new" cap, from who knows who, and also managed to loose his drivers' license and credit card! (Never did recover those! And ... nothing "happened" with them, either!) But, I also remember the two of us holding each other up as we weaved back to the car on the P-town dock. I also remember Den taking the keys away from me, and we slept, in the car, in the rain, for a few hours.
We got back to the house a little before 5am! And, without a word, Den, and I, were "naked spooning" in "my" bed, again. (And, once more, nothing "happened"!)
At around 2pm, as I was waking up, I rolled away from a warm, naked, Den, and fell flat on the floor! Luckily, I didn't get hurt!
There is a lot more to this rambling story ... but ... my point is ... just "merely" sleeping naked with your "Buddy" can be a marvelous thing! And though we had "done things", with each other before this trip, just snuggling up to Him, completely naked, was more than enough, that time around! In fact, I may cherish "that time" more than the previous others!
Over the last ... who knows how many years ... Den has been living with his Husband in Melbourne! It's been TOO long since "My" Kev, and I, have seen Den and Stephen!
Sex with your friend would be GREAT!
But ... if it may not fully "cum" to that, "just" naked snuggling can be far more Precious!
Good Luck, and Best Wishes!!
Keep smilin'!!
Chaz
But, something along the lines of, "You know? Sometimes I get to feeling so lonely! Would you mind if I just snuggle up with You?"
Or ... if both of you have "had a few" ... "I think it's time to get snuggly!"
A few years ago, I had a long time, dear, friend out at my family's place on Cape Cod, on Wellfleet harbor. My parents were there, too. It was a little, tiny, thin(interior)-walled, ranch-style, two bedroom, "cottage". Den, and I, had been to P-town, and had "a few".
We were out on the patio, about 2am, having a smoke, when I said, "I think it's time to get naked, and snuggle!" So ... we did! Mind you ... our bedroom had two twin beds, and our closet bordered on my parent's room closet. Still, sound travelled ...
We went back inside, dropped our clothes, and snuggled up together in "my" bed (right next to the closet). I was "spooning" with Den, his back to me (I get too warm when someone is holding me), and nothing else "happened". We just slept together. (Quietly!)
Next night, we didn't go into P-town, but did walk around the harbor with my parents. When we got back to the house, it was suggested we check for ticks. Den, and I, went into our room, and got as far as taking off our shirts. I found a tick on my shoulder, and immediately went back out to the living room, so Dad could get it off me, with a tweasers. By the time I got back into "our" room, Den was fast asleep in his own bed.
The night after that, we were back in P-town, and had a serious run-in with our buddy "Captain Morgan"! (And a nearly naked bartender at the "A-house"!) After bar close, we "discoverd" the "dick-dock", in the rain, while everyone else was at "Spartan Pizza"! Nothing really happened (well ... a few "low key things" did), and Den somehow ended up with a "new" cap, from who knows who, and also managed to loose his drivers' license and credit card! (Never did recover those! And ... nothing "happened" with them, either!) But, I also remember the two of us holding each other up as we weaved back to the car on the P-town dock. I also remember Den taking the keys away from me, and we slept, in the car, in the rain, for a few hours.
We got back to the house a little before 5am! And, without a word, Den, and I, were "naked spooning" in "my" bed, again. (And, once more, nothing "happened"!)
At around 2pm, as I was waking up, I rolled away from a warm, naked, Den, and fell flat on the floor! Luckily, I didn't get hurt!
There is a lot more to this rambling story ... but ... my point is ... just "merely" sleeping naked with your "Buddy" can be a marvelous thing! And though we had "done things", with each other before this trip, just snuggling up to Him, completely naked, was more than enough, that time around! In fact, I may cherish "that time" more than the previous others!
Over the last ... who knows how many years ... Den has been living with his Husband in Melbourne! It's been TOO long since "My" Kev, and I, have seen Den and Stephen!
Sex with your friend would be GREAT!
But ... if it may not fully "cum" to that, "just" naked snuggling can be far more Precious!
Good Luck, and Best Wishes!!
Keep smilin'!!
Chaz
