Friend wants piece of me?

[Singtoh1]

well I havent read this whole thread but Ive read enough to know I was in sorta the same situation but unfortunatly it didnt go well.....Im mean we fooled around yes but yea not so good....I known the guy for like 4 years and he was always be talking to me about some chick that he wanted to go out with at church and how she was hot blah blah blah blah.... well one night he spent the night at my house and we were talking like usual I was laying on my back on the floor he was sitting blabbing like usual which I didnt mind I had a thing for him anyway ( You would have a thing for a 6.5' tall big chested Southern boy to.....oh my god he was hot). I thought he was str8 so I never really said nething so halfway into the conversation he just stop talking. I looked up and he was just staring at me and I'm like "what?". He's like I want to suck your cock. He just reached over kissed me and starting rubbing my cock. well I didnt think anything could ruin this moment but unfortunatly I was wrong.....I never knew someone could suck at sucking but anyway. To wrap this up he basically afterwards he was like freaking out that he had sex with a guy and that we were going to burn in hell blah blah blah blah......So my advice to you is when he gets back not over the phone, cuz thats bad shit waiting to happend, if you want a relationship with him talk to him about it and if he freaks out so what theres alot of str8 guys you could hang out and try 'stuff' with...... if not.....Try getting str8 porn and see if he wants to j/o together if he does do this a couple of times, then work it from there.....like if your j/o off with him right in the middle ask him if he wants you to blow him....I'll leave the rest to your imagination.....Now you can do wut Stripes said and that will most likely work, alot of guys are like that but until you tell him how you feel you'll be doing a Brian and Justin Relationship(Queer as Folk) If that doesnt make me sound gay than nothing will lol. But if your just getting into his pants then it really doesn't matter what u do as long as you get some.....Did that statement just make me a bad person? oh well but anyway .....Good Luck and have fun! I'll be back to see if you have come along in any way

 

[SuperPsyze]

Some of the advice here kinda makes me laugh. Honestly, if you were the type of person who would strip naked and jump a guy, you would've already done so. But you're not, and you're used to the more subtle and shy approach.

I understand what you're going through. This guy is your friend, and you enjoy the time you spent with him. Sometimes you think it would be better if you didn't have strong feelings for him. But at the end of it all, you realize that you do in fact have feelings for him, and it feels like you're powerless to control your emotions.

I think the best thing you can do right now is to break down the tactile barrier. Find a point where you two are comfortable touching each other (in the friendly/brotherly type of way), like exchanging hugs instead of handshakes. You've already done a lot so far in this area, and I think that's a good thing. At the end of it all, you're looking for intimate contact, not sexual.

You should try this out the next time you find yourself in the cuddling situation. If you suspect that he's awake, softly call out his name. If he doesn't answer, just go back to sleep. If he does answer, ask him if he's okay with this. Whether or not he answers, fall back asleep.

Here's the trick to this. When you call his name, and he happens to be awake, then he'll know that you realize what is going on and that you're okay with it (gives him an opening to make a move himself). The second question is sort of a trick question. If he was not okay with it, he would've jumped out of bed long before you asked the question. So the only other options is that he is okay with it, or that he is unsure. Either way, just let him contemplate on it, and make sure he's comfortable.

If, in the morning, he seems to have a bad reaction to the whole thing, don't be afraid to apologize (even if you havn't really done anything). Then again, he might not show any reaction at all, so just greet him in the morning with a smile and maybe a plate of waffles.

At the end of it all, it's a way to progress the relationship a bit (whether or not results in a romantic one). It's just a chance for you two to learn not to be afraid of each other, and that it's okay to be yourself (waffles and all).

 

[darkstormy]

If you ask me, you'r'e acting really gay by not being more playful around the guy, and acting all nervous and passive aggresive. A "straight" guy comfortable with his masculinity would be a lot less nervous about non-sexual playing around. Don't wait around for him man. Either make a move, or back away from all the contact with him (you're already attracted to him, so there's no way you can be "just friends" without an awkward level of desire in the relationship). Just have fun man! What's the worse that's gonna happen?

P.S.- A bunch of people have been saying, sense you guys like movies, you should watch Bareback Mountain (otherwise known as the gayest movie of 2005). That'll scare him off. Don't do that dude.

 

[fireside]

Some of the advice here kinda makes me laugh. Honestly, if you were the type of person who would strip naked and jump a guy, you would've already done so. But you're not, and you're used to the more subtle and shy approach.

I understand what you're going through. This guy is your friend, and you enjoy the time you spent with him. Sometimes you think it would be better if you didn't have strong feelings for him. But at the end of it all, you realize that you do in fact have feelings for him, and it feels like you're powerless to control your emotions.

I think the best thing you can do right now is to break down the tactile barrier. Find a point where you two are comfortable touching each other (in the friendly/brotherly type of way), like exchanging hugs instead of handshakes. You've already done a lot so far in this area, and I think that's a good thing. At the end of it all, you're looking for intimate contact, not sexual.

You should try this out the next time you find yourself in the cuddling situation. If you suspect that he's awake, softly call out his name. If he doesn't answer, just go back to sleep. If he does answer, ask him if he's okay with this. Whether or not he answers, fall back asleep.

Here's the trick to this. When you call his name, and he happens to be awake, then he'll know that you realize what is going on and that you're okay with it (gives him an opening to make a move himself). The second question is sort of a trick question. If he was not okay with it, he would've jumped out of bed long before you asked the question. So the only other options is that he is okay with it, or that he is unsure. Either way, just let him contemplate on it, and make sure he's comfortable.

If, in the morning, he seems to have a bad reaction to the whole thing, don't be afraid to apologize (even if you havn't really done anything). Then again, he might not show any reaction at all, so just greet him in the morning with a smile and maybe a plate of waffles.

At the end of it all, it's a way to progress the relationship a bit (whether or not results in a romantic one). It's just a chance for you two to learn not to be afraid of each other, and that it's okay to be yourself (waffles and all).

I like this idea. It's practical, respectful, and doesn't jeopardize the actual friendship [much].

 

[RonnNY]

Choose a movie carefully -- some movie with some hot sex in it, or even some hot gay sex. Watch it with your friend, and start rubbing your cock a bit. Say something like, Oh man this is making me horny.

See if he starts rubbing his crotch, too. He'll let you know if he wants more.

 

[By-Ear]

Some of the advice here kinda makes me laugh. Honestly, if you were the type of person who would strip naked and jump a guy, you would've already done so. But you're not, and you're used to the more subtle and shy approach.

I understand what you're going through. This guy is your friend, and you enjoy the time you spent with him. Sometimes you think it would be better if you didn't have strong feelings for him. But at the end of it all, you realize that you do in fact have feelings for him, and it feels like you're powerless to control your emotions.

I think the best thing you can do right now is to break down the tactile barrier. Find a point where you two are comfortable touching each other (in the friendly/brotherly type of way), like exchanging hugs instead of handshakes. You've already done a lot so far in this area, and I think that's a good thing. At the end of it all, you're looking for intimate contact, not sexual.

You should try this out the next time you find yourself in the cuddling situation. If you suspect that he's awake, softly call out his name. If he doesn't answer, just go back to sleep. If he does answer, ask him if he's okay with this. Whether or not he answers, fall back asleep.

Here's the trick to this. When you call his name, and he happens to be awake, then he'll know that you realize what is going on and that you're okay with it (gives him an opening to make a move himself). The second question is sort of a trick question. If he was not okay with it, he would've jumped out of bed long before you asked the question. So the only other options is that he is okay with it, or that he is unsure. Either way, just let him contemplate on it, and make sure he's comfortable.

If, in the morning, he seems to have a bad reaction to the whole thing, don't be afraid to apologize (even if you havn't really done anything). Then again, he might not show any reaction at all, so just greet him in the morning with a smile and maybe a plate of waffles.

At the end of it all, it's a way to progress the relationship a bit (whether or not results in a romantic one). It's just a chance for you two to learn not to be afraid of each other, and that it's okay to be yourself (waffles and all).

Absolutely brilliant! I’m sure this will work - without you or him risking anything. It potentially opens your possibility towards “more” (whatever that may be), in a safe, semi-calm way.

In the meantime, while he’s away, both of you'll have the time to realize what you are missing, in relation to each other. Physical distance and temporary new surroundings are great clarity-boosters!

 

[blackbeltninja]

BlewBoi

Can we infer from this that you and him have never seen each other naked? I think that might be a good ice-breaker - next time he's there and you're getting ready for bed, don't just strip to your boxers, change to a new pair or into pyjama pants or something.

And don't be necessarily obvious about it, standing around for ages with your cock out. Just casually change, chatting while you do it, and don't notice if he sneaks a peek, or even better, look away while you chat and that way you won't know if he's looked or not. Repeat the procedure in the morning. At least give out a vibe that you're comfortable with him seeing your bits and pieces, since that's what it would boil down to if you were to get physical with each other.

I'm not sure I'd try the "measure my muscles" bit - I think that's waaaaaaaaay too obvious. And I'm not sure about rubbing your cock while watching porn with him, either - maybe that's just me, though.

Oh - while he's away, a phonecall or two wouldn't be a bad idea. It's always great to get a call from friends when you're away on work-related stuff. Just to shoot the shit and get a sense of home, you know?

Great thread, though - I missed it the first time around and so I've just read the entire saga in one sitting!

Good luck
-d-

 

[Blewboi101]

Hey Guys,

Thanks for those who are so supportive! I really appreciate it.


Here's an update...

He's still going to be away for about a month, I spoke to him about every second day since his been away. I don't want to phone him all the time, like one of you said, one should not be too overwhelming, so im waiting for him to phone me now... he said he would, so lets see. I don't want to push him away by looking too eager, yet I want too keep a balance of regular friendship and this sexual energy.



Some thoughts:

He told me the other day when he was still here, that every time I move in bed he is awake, (his a very light sleeper). I apologized so he said its nothing he doesn't mind, hes used to it. So he must have felt something when my feet were against his hairy legs or when my lips pressed firmly against his shoulder or when my naked arm was sweating against his naked back. Why didn't he if he was awake, pulled away immediately? is this homo erotic or could i say homo sensuality turning him on?

Funny: The other day when we were lying in bed, I scraped together the courage to try and ask him without being direct. I Said "Do you feel like cock" He said "what?" surprised not angrily though. so I immediately said do you want some chicken theres some in the fridge, man i wish i waited longer to see his reaction more, but it would have been to risky and I was pumped with adrenalin! He was fine after it, as if nothing happened. (Please note: in the language I said this in to him, "cock" refers more to a bird, but it does have significant underlining meaning, referring to a penis, much like in English only more subtle) THIS Was SOOO HOT!

I have this very hot photo of me half naked showing off my muscles, I desperately want to send him on his phone, but I don't know if I should, what would I say?
Btw. I showed it to one of my other straight friends yesterday, it was really funny i had to pry it from his hands, he was really looking. I told him to stop perving, so he laughed.

(p.s. Dont ask for the pic. )


back to the update....

I'm going on vacation in 3 weeks, so we organized that i would probably go and stay with him on his parents HUGE farm for a WEEK, ALONE with only him there! !!!!!!!!!

until then...

 

[Spiff]

1. He doesn't speak English? Are you both from different races? If so, then this adds an extra twist to an already bizarre story about 2 grown men who sleep half naked in the same bed all the time as friends.

2. DO NOT send your half naked pic to him on the phone. For that matter, DO NOT send any pic of yourself. You just haven't reached that stage yet.

 

[consult28]

It Seems To Me You Have Kept Some Rather Inportant Info Secret Until Now. What Else Haven't You Told Us? It Seems You Have Been Pulling Our Legs For Some Reason.
If You Are Really Looking For Help Tell Us All.

 

[RRRalph]

This is getting too frustrating for me! I should get rid of the addiction reading this thread and continiously hope for more. From now on i won't read this thread again. Maybe i will do it again in 6 months and read that you two seen each other naked. Maybe again in 1 year and read that you two jerked off together, not each other cuz that would be way too fast

 

[Singtoh1]

This is getting too frustrating for me! I should get rid of the addiction reading this thread and continiously hope for more. From now on i won't read this thread again. Maybe i will do it again in 6 months and read that you two seen each other naked. Maybe again in 1 year and read that you two jerked off together, not each other cuz that would be way too fast

Hey cutie don't be so upset, he is probly just pulling our chain even tho it is a pretty hot chain lol

 

[Comrad]

HaHa yeah maybe he is pulling our chain, but even if he is i don't want to believe he is. This is some what like an open story, but not quite. Ive always wanted an open story kind of thread on JUB and this seems to be the closest i will ever get to one... Anyways, i will prob do what Ralph is gonna do and check back in a months time, or year lol.

 

[mydrew1]

Exaling loudly is part of flirting last time I checked, just say straight out next time he exales say "You're so hot!'. If he asks you "Why are you calling me hot?" then he's straight and not interested.

 

[nufanm]

This is getting too frustrating for me! I should get rid of the addiction reading this thread and continiously hope for more. From now on i won't read this thread again. Maybe i will do it again in 6 months and read that you two seen each other naked. Maybe again in 1 year and read that you two jerked off together, not each other cuz that would be way too fast

oh you are so right!

 

[banpei]

next time your both in bed again, try to pretend to fall asleep.
maybe he is gonna touch you and than you'll know

 

[Bigdog5758]

I say when you guys are together make the first move or something like that or the shower idea seemed liked a good idea

 

[hothunk222]

i love this thread your story is soo hot, cause i had a straight friend who was the same way...

 

[Undisclosed]

I had a friend like this. He is now my casual lover.

 

[Undisclosed]

Ok where's teh update?!