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Friends With Benefits.
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When you are still alone at 50, you'll settle for jacking off alone, then crying yourself to sleep. Believe me, I know...
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I'm trying this at the moment with a few different people.
In all cases we weren't friends to start with - we met and it turned sexual very early on - so there is no real friendship per se to ruin. But of course, every time I see either of them and we chat or hang out or go for drinks or dinner we get a little closer and at some point it may get messy (it's only about 5 weeks old, in my cases), but I believe it can be done.
There is another guy I hoped would become an FWB, but he's adamant that such a thing doesn't exist and that you can't sleep with your friends. I reckon you can provided you're not the best mates ever in the history of ever. I'd say it can work if you're closer to friends than to acquaintances, but since mine is very much in its infancy I might be being naive about it all.
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In all cases we weren't friends to start with - we met and it turned sexual very early on - so there is no real friendship per se to ruin. But of course, every time I see either of them and we chat or hang out or go for drinks or dinner we get a little closer and at some point it may get messy (it's only about 5 weeks old, in my cases), but I believe it can be done.
There is another guy I hoped would become an FWB, but he's adamant that such a thing doesn't exist and that you can't sleep with your friends. I reckon you can provided you're not the best mates ever in the history of ever. I'd say it can work if you're closer to friends than to acquaintances, but since mine is very much in its infancy I might be being naive about it all.
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I had a neighbor friend, a bit younger than myself, with benefits for nearly 30 years until he moved away about 5 years ago.
There was never a problem. He'd stop in every couple of weeks, we'd exchange oral, he'd beg me to fuck him, which I did, then he'd leave.
Neither of us even had the beginnings of an emotional issue with this.
And, that's unusual for me. Because I am SOOO prone to wrap emotions around intimacies with others, too much for my own good and others.
There was never a problem. He'd stop in every couple of weeks, we'd exchange oral, he'd beg me to fuck him, which I did, then he'd leave.
Neither of us even had the beginnings of an emotional issue with this.
And, that's unusual for me. Because I am SOOO prone to wrap emotions around intimacies with others, too much for my own good and others.
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Pretty much the same for me - although mine was a married man. Yikes! Maybe that should have been posted in the confession thread!!!
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I'm open to the idea, but will not initiate it myself. If the other party brings it up, I'm certainly open for discussion.
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Not my experience. I've had quite a few FWB with no problem. Work particularly well when we both have (other) regular partners, but that's not necessary.
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i have a handful of them, i guess, although i wouldnt call them 'friends with benefits', since theyre not really 'friends'. more like one-night-stands that became two-night-stands that became fuckbuddies. guys i like to screw around with, because they are good in bed and/or handsome, but that i dont really see going anywhere serious. although, one of my most wonderful serious relationships started that way, so you never know.
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They wouldn't work for me. Maybe if there were this one guy who'd really be up for it.
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bad idea - one will develop emotional issues, and wreak friendship
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My "friend" just asked me to be "friends with benefits". I hardly even know him. My friend hooked me up with him right after I left town for the summer so I've never been around him but he has been trying to get a dick pic out of me. In about a week, we broke it off and now this came up.
So, now I'll have something to do when I get back to San Diego.
So, now I'll have something to do when I get back to San Diego.
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I have in the past.Sometimes it worked out well for years.There have been once or twice when it compromised the freindship right off the bat..
It worked out best when it was with a freind who didn't have a lot of sexual baggage and who realized that sometimes you just need to get eachother off and go on about your business..
Other times,we'd just go to dinner,hang out and that'd be it.No rules. But, if we fucked ,we fucked.And that was ok too.
I haven't had a relationship like that in years,but I often think that done right,they can be some of the best relationships out there.
It worked out best when it was with a freind who didn't have a lot of sexual baggage and who realized that sometimes you just need to get eachother off and go on about your business..
Other times,we'd just go to dinner,hang out and that'd be it.No rules. But, if we fucked ,we fucked.And that was ok too.
I haven't had a relationship like that in years,but I often think that done right,they can be some of the best relationships out there.
Tried it before and that is how I got to be with my current and probably last life partner. We were friends and it evolved into a relationships as it grew sexually and feelings for each other developed. I think the best relationships evolve from platonic or other types of friendships.