Gay guy question?

[ELAINE]

Have you ever had feelings for a girl and felt like getting closer? and for those that did, what happened?

 

[cbtfan]

What happened?
Two kids.

 

[Golliwog]

A little more specific info. needed.

Had feelings for? Do you mean, "wanted to have sex with her?

Helpful advice is abundant here...along with some that isn't. So focus your question, please.

 

[ELAINE]

A little more specific info. needed.

Had feelings for? Do you mean, "wanted to have sex with her?

Helpful advice is abundant here...along with some that isn't. So focus your question, please.

Sorry, I meant having feelings like started feeling like you might love her, but have never been with a woman before. and you are thinking you might want to try to be with her, sexually.

 

[sunoftheskye]

I wish I was sexually attracted to women. My romantic life would be a million times better.

Women hit on me all the time. Men never do.

 

[ELAINE]

I wish I was sexually attracted to women. My romantic life would be a million times better.

Women hit on me all the time. Men never do.

Your answer is very interesting and gives me even more to think about. OMG the you tube video made me laugh so much, thank you for sharing..... actually, I think some of those guys might secretly be wanting to really do what they were pretending to do...hahaha....

 

[Elwood]

What happened?
Two kids.

Funny the same thing happened to me LOL Twins!!!!!

 

[runner]

I got married.

 

[Art-of-CLX]

Some girls really moved, touched me a lot, it confused me. I thought I fell in Love with them, but, well, sexually I only had men in mind.
I had some girlfriends & yeah I did have sex too, just to try to give them the pleasure they deserve. Unfortunately, these experiences showed me that I was gay, definitely, for sure.

But what I can tell, what I truly loved with my girlfriends, is the possibility to handle their hand in public, giving hug, kisses, all the tenderness I wanna give, anywhere I want. I understood at that time how much I miss this beautiful behaviour as a gay guy, cause gay attitude is not allowed in almost all places in the world. Yes, we have some *shelters* in big cities, mine is Paris, of course, you are almost free to behave like any (straight) couples in the street. This is one of the hardest part to be gay, for me.

Back to your topic, I had feelings for women, that's sure. Lately I met a lesbian girl, feeling so connected. It's like Love at first sight, unless you know it will only lead to friendship.
Sometimes I really hoped I was straight.

 

[ELAINE]

Some girls really moved, touched me a lot, it confused me. I thought I fell in Love with them, but, well, sexually I only had men in mind.
I had some girlfriends & yeah I did have sex too, just to try to give them the pleasure they deserve. Unfortunately, these experiences showed me that I was gay, definitely, for sure.

But what I can tell, what I truly loved with my girlfriends, is the possibility to handle their hand in public, giving hug, kisses, all the tenderness I wanna give, anywhere I want. I understood at that time how much I miss this beautiful behaviour as a gay guy, cause gay attitude is not allowed in almost all places in the world. Yes, we have some *shelters* in big cities, mine is Paris, of course, you are almost free to behave like any (straight) couples in the street. This is one of the hardest part to be gay, for me.

Back to your topic, I had feelings for women, that's sure. Lately I met a lesbian girl, feeling so connected. It's like Love at first sight, unless you know it will only lead to friendship.
Sometimes I really hoped I was straight.

I think thats why I'm feeling so strong towards gay men. Because I've seen the beauty, the hurt, and the love, and It's made me want to defend them all the more. A lot of people only see the sex part of being gay, and they just don't get it.

 

[Soilwork]

Never.

Never ever.

 

[Sunshine]

Yes.

 

[ELAINE]

Yes, I have-- it was an interesting, if oddly unnerving experience. (I'd always considered myself 100% gay, and feeling that much attracted to a woman shook up my sense of identity.)

The initial meeting could have been pulled directly out of a romance novel. From across a room, I saw her---a cute, Italian exchange student, circa 1979. She fueled an inner spark inside of me that I didn't know I had.

I became wildly infatuated with her; thoughts about her ranged from the romantic to the prurient. In fact, I became obsessed. If she'd shown the slightest bit of interest in me, I'm sure I would have fallen head-over-heels in love with her.

When she went back to Italy, the "affair" ended. I still wonder, from time to time, whatever became of her.

What could be learnt from this experience? I think that our sexuality isn't necessarily set in stone; that it can't be seen in shades of black-and-white. It is reasonable to suppose that our sexuality might be nebulous by nature.

Wow, this is something to really think about. You explained it nicely, thank you.

 

[Shepherd 2]

Then: twenty-five years of marriage,
three children,
lots osf sex.

Now: nineteen years with a gay partner,
no children
and lots of sex.
Love.

Shep+

 

[ELAINE]

I understand this so much. Yes, I was in the same position, BUT I knew how I was wired. We became the best of friends to this day. I told her, if you were a gay man and she tells me, if you were straight.

See, I'm not at this point yet. I still want him, and all I can do is wish that I had a dick, to please him with.

 

[ELAINE]

You have to know what you want and what will make you happy. Wishing doesn't make it happen. Wishes never come true. Reality sets in. And that can be crushing.

My post sounds so negative. All I am saying is that don't hope for the unattainable.

I know you're right... And his friendship is whats most important to me, I'd never want to lose that. In that way, I've truly been blessed. Thank you for understanding.

 

[reverb285]

Nope. My sexuality is set in stone.

 

[CGHJ]

I know you're right... And his friendship is whats most important to me, I'd never want to lose that. In that way, I've truly been blessed. Thank you for understanding.

What an interesting take...so many posts on here about the gay guys who fall for straight guys, this is the first post where it's the girl who has to go without because the guy is gay.

I wish you luck but even if you could convince him you're just setting yourself up for disappointment. Best to look elsewhere. If you're just looking for some quick sex and one go round the bushes will satisfy you, I suggest getting him drunk, it seems to work on straight guys

Mind you one of the gayest guys I have ever known, a raging queen, ended up marrying a girl out of love. He was totally out, too, and not covering up for anything, he really did fall in love with her. So it happens.

 

[Art-of-CLX]

What could be learnt from this experience? I think that our sexuality isn't necessarily set in stone; that it can't be seen in shades of black-and-white. It is reasonable to suppose that our sexuality might be nebulous by nature.

I have to agree. I'm not sure sexuality is set in stone for everybody: we're all different and we live each single experience in Life so differently. I've seen how my personal sex life has changed through the years, I had affairs with girls, even sex, when I was young. My sex life as a gay guy has changed too. I know I'm gay, but who can tell this would't change in ten or thirty years again?
That's what's so interesting with Life: it evolves. Always.

 

[wraithsa]

sounds a little heterocurious to me hehe