Gay guys on dating sites the most judgmental?

[hylas]

e2ksj3: i agree, there is no excuse for being rude to someone who has been decent to you. no argument there.

and i know the "ranking metaphor" is clumsy. but the point im trying to make is that i feel sometimes the rejected party makes a big deal about how shallow his object of desire is (he rejected me for being overweight! how shallow!), while leaving out that the reason he contacted his object of desire in the first place were just as shallow (because he looks handsome in the pictures). thats hypocritical.

but yeah, youre saying that there is no reason to be rude, even when youre rejecting someone or stating your prefernces in your profile, and i absolutely agree with you. ive grown a thick skin, but it still stings every time i read "no asians"... and i read it a lot.

 

[hylas]

No fats, no fems, must be out/must be descreet, must be under 30, must be smooth/must have chesthair, etc etc etc.

i think there is a difference between stating what youre into, and stating what youre not into. i think the former is reasonable on a dating site, the latter is rude.

 

[AlmondMilk]

Gay/ bi/ straight... anyone can be shallow. I think most people who use dating sites, in general, tend to be shallow. They weed out whoever doesn't fit their description of who they aren't looking for. There are a couple of people who do seem to be pretty friendly though

 

[FanofFiction]

I know some overweight girls who have tons of luck with straight guys on these sites because straight guys will fuck anything. If your a fattie and it's a one time hook up...

 

[G-Lexington]

As HoH said, it's often 5s looking for 9s. I've seen it here on JUB. We had one guy get really blatant about it. He was pissed that gay guys were so judgmental - they wouldn't give him a fair shake just because he was a bit overweight. I asked him, "Well, have you posted your own ad? Are you getting any answers?" He said, "Yeah, but they're all from boring fat guys. I want someone HOT!"

It seems most guys on dating sites start out in Fantasyland. Where 95% of the guys are 22, hot, ripped, well-hung, make something in the upper six figures, have no baggage, and are desperate to date and make passionate love with a 30-something virgin who rarely leaves his basement studio apartment except to stock up on Twinkies, Hot Pockets and Milwaukee's Best. So they post their ad - "36, look 34!" - and put in those filters to keep out what they think are the few creepy 30-somethings that might prove to be an obstacle to getting the hot and hung ones.

And then nobody answers. Except creepy 30-somethings (and 40- and 50-somethings) who aren't deterred my things like "don't contact me if you're a creppy 30-something". At which point, they repost and make their insistence that no 30-something contact them...and the same thing happens. And, hopefully eventually, they learn. It isn't Dial-a-Hottie. They're going to have to do things the hard way. Meet people, develop bonds, see if they click. All the stuff they don't show in porn. And either they bite the bullet and give it a shot, or (more likely) they go back to jacking off to hot-and-hung 20-something on Xtube. All the while thinking that gay guys are so shallow.

Lex

 

[Knucklehead]

. I even stumbled across a site for gay amputees.

I never thought of gay amputee sex, until I read that.So,I just had to google it..Apparently that has a following too..


http://www.2guys1stump.com/