Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

[Medusa]

you know something. i didn't want to say anything but i smell something funny here.

i've been reading medusa's posts and no offense to medusa, but it's like "she" is coming across like "she's" someone purposely trying to get a reaction out of somebody with some of the posts like the one in the connecticut thread and this one with bisexual men. just like an alias or troll would. am i the only person that is noticing this?

Well don't we all want to get an reaction out of everyone when we post something? What makes you say that I am a troll,when all I am doing is stating my opinions, and how I feel? I mean good God, I was a long time lurker here, and decided to join,but I guess I am not welcome here.

 

[Medusa]

And btw,Just because I am a gun lover,does not mean I am a troll,or trying to fuck with people.Get bent jerk.

 

[Adrusek81]

And this what kind of pisses me off, about society, and why a man cheating on his woman is so damn heartbreaking.Thank you for that.We as woman are taught we most do everything to keep our men happy no matter what. We have sacrifice ourselves to make sure we get that smile on ours man's face indicating that he is happy with those.Women put their whole worth,well being, and ego into getting a man, and keeping him happy.I mean after all,this is what the man made society tell us to do right? If she ain't doing anything to please a man, and catch one, then she is must be doing something wrong.Just look at all the women who are desperate to get married.They have seminars,books,video tapes on who to get a man to notice her, you will never see a man doing the same thing.And in a way I feel like the way this society treats women is awful..

Sadly, this is true. Women are roughly one half of humanity, but they are treated like a derided minority. Exploited, enslaved, used and abused and condemned to a life of emotional dependence and lack of true personal freedom. I would go as far as to say that women are the victims of a perpetual crime against human dignity. That's why I am so shocked whenever I meet misogynistic gay men... Do they not realize that homophobia is a slightly distorted reflection of misogyny, and that in reality we're all on the same boat?

 

[Tadaa]

I wouldn't intentionally date a man that was bisexual. I'd also NEVER date a married man. Once you're married to a woman, despite my interest, you might as well have a vagina...they are dead to me.

 

[Medusa]

Sadly, this is true. Women are roughly one half of humanity, but they are treated like a derided minority. Exploited, enslaved, used and abused and condemned to a life of emotional dependence and lack of true personal freedom. I would go as far as to say that women are the victims of a perpetual crime against human dignity. That's why I am so shocked whenever I meet misogynistic gay men... Do they not realize that homophobia is a slightly distorted reflection of misogyny, and that in reality we're all on the same boat?

Thank You very much.Sometimes I feel like why even bother,doing all those things that men tells us to do in order to get a man.It almost feel like a waste of time because he will stray, and fuck someone else.And to be honest about it,I don't think Gay men, and Women are on the same boat.Gay men have waaaaay more privilege than a woman does,especially if he's white.So no, me personally I don't think we are on the same boat.

 

[MissAnne]

. That's why I am so shocked whenever I meet misogynistic gay men... Do they not realize that homophobia is a slightly distorted reflection of misogyny, and that in reality we're all on the same boat?

You are amazing. That was such a thoughtful post and very insightful. I too am shocked when I see misogyny among gay men. I believe that they are a minority though.... at least I hope.

 

[Medusa]

I have always had close women friends. (This is why they confide in me. )

I tell them that, sometimes, you have to be a bitch. Elsewise, men will walk all over you. This is especially true when you're talking about men cheating.

then when we are a bitch,men complain.

 

[Laufey]

Most gay men don't sit around talking about football

 

[MissAnne]

I think the thing is, people remember a misogynist gay men, and nobody remembers the ones who love women.

I first learned that there were misogynistic gay men when I found JUB. That is so naive

However, they are a minority here as well. Most of the men on JUB are lovely. Refuji, Digital and Anderson are a couple of guys that are always really sweet to the women here. At the end of the day this is a site for men and everyone is entitled to their own opinion. People say off-color things when they are around their own and most times it isn't meant for the outside to hear.

I just have a hard time seeing discrimination and not say anything. I also have a hard time seeing agism here. Im 23 but I dont like when young jubbers put down older jubbers.

 

[sokker]

Probably women.. since many gay men seem a bit bi-phobic. What I mean is that gay men seem kinda scared/don't want to date bisexual guys for some reason. I don't think a woman would really care.

 

[curiousguyUNT]

Speaking as a bi guy, it's a coin flip. I've heard women adamantly say that they could never be with a guy who had slept with other guys, and I've heard gay guys say that they could never trust a bi guy. Do the women who think it is disgusting to be with a guy because he has had sex with other men not get the irony, because, unless they're virgins, that is exactly what they expect straight guys to do. Do the gay guys who have problems with bi guys have the same insecurity and trust issues with other gay guys or is it just bi guys? To those of you who feel like it would be worse, a betrayal, or make you feel like you've been used, to be left for someone of the opposite sex, do you feel the same way if you are left for someone who is of a different race, or taller/shorter, or different eye/hair color, or fatter/thinner, etc.? Because that is what gender is like for me, a characteristic. I like/love/fall for/am attracted to people. There are certainly physical features that draw my eye, to both sexes, but personality is the defining thing for me. So unless you only date people who are practically clones, you do the same thing as a bi guy switching from a guy to a girl or vice versa, but I bet you never looked at it like that. I'm also not a whore who can't control his urges, which is just a bullshit cop out. I don't suffer from the grass is always greener syndrome. I am very loyal and if I'm with you, I'm with you. I have been used emotionally by women (which I feel is way worse) and physically by men. Being used sucks, period, but just because a guy moves on to the opposite gender doesn't mean you were being used or that you weren't really cared about it just means that he's moved on. I can't and won't speak for all bi guys because we are all different, but that is what it is like for me. I get a lot of hate because of misconceptions, misunderstandings, ignorance, and the bad rap that comes from the bi guys who are assholes and give us all bad names. Before you decide to throw around generalizations and hate, stop and try to think about it from the other person's perspective and see if what you are thinking is justified or just imagination(that goes for everybody, gay, straight, and everything in between).