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getting into a relationship with a bisexual guy? yay or nay

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nay. i just don't feel comfortable with the fact that i'm with someone that probably might not think he's cheating on me to get with someone of the opposite sex. i always had the feeling that there are some guys that use being bisexual as an excuse to be unfaithful hos. for some reason, i don't think there are many bisexual guys that can stay committed.
 
I'm starting to see that i'd rather date an open bisexual guy than a gay guy, and these threads are proof of it(and a thing I forgot to list in the "shit JUBers say" thread). Yes, that's a gross exaggeration, but I find all this amusing in its' absurdity.

Gay guys cheat too. Gay guys stray. Gay guys fuck around. Gay guys lie. Gay guys can be unfaithful bastards. Hell, live in certain states, and gay guys are now capable of cheating on their husbands.

Don't know why some gay guys continue to view bi guys as Hindus (used to) view untouchables.
 
The fact that people think that being bisexual makes you more inclined to cheat makes me laugh.

Incredibly ignorant.
 
healingduck said:
The fact that people think that being bisexual makes you more inclined to cheat makes me laugh.

Incredibly ignorant.
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I agree. It astounds me how ignorant and close minded people can be, especially people that experience such things targeted against them every day.

I'm sure there is a kind of guy that calls himself bi just to cheat and be unfaithful; that's the kind of guy I wouldn't want to date because he was an ASS, not because he's bi. If someone gives you no indications of being untrustworthy other than that they're bi, you rejecting them for that reason alone is nothing short of prejudiced. Even if "in your experience" bi guys cheat, you might as well say that "in your experience" black guys are mean, so you won't even consider dating one. It's the same thing, and it's not okay.
 
healingduck said:
The fact that people think that being bisexual makes you more inclined to cheat makes me laugh.

Incredibly ignorant.
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how so? i'm just saying. i know for a fact that there's guys outthere that are bisexual men that will get in a relationship with someone, have a fling with the opposite sex and think that's not cheating on their partner because it's not someone of the same sex. i have no problem with bisexuals or bisexuality.
 
I fail to see the connection between sexual orientation and cheating behavior -- if someone is going to be a cheater, they're going to be a cheater. The problem with these conversations is that bisexuality keeps getting reduced to being about nothing but sex. It is a bit degrading to posters here who are bisexual, because essentially what a lot of people think is that a bisexual orientation automatically predicts non-monogamy. I think implying that a person can't be physically/romantically oriented toward both sexes while maintaining a monogamous relationship with only ONE of those sexes is an attempt to invalidate bisexuality. So, to answer your question, yes I would get into a relationship with a guy who is bisexual. And, by the way, our relationship is pretty solid after several years together *hint hint*!
 
Bisexuals are attracted to both males and female, so the gay partner of a bisexual might feel he can't compete with a woman for his attraction. But relationships are about trust. I used to feel bis couldn't be trusted until I became friends with a bi JUBber. As I got to know him, I knew it was his character that mattered, not his sexuality. He changed my mind.

People don't cheat because they are bi, they cheat because they are cheaters.
 
Oh here we go again. :rolleyes: It's bi season and how surprised am I that it was you that made this thread? A self loathing closet case is going to tell me I'm more likely to cheat based solely on my sexuality? :badgrin:


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I fail to see the connection between sexual orientation and cheating behavior -- if someone is going to be a cheater, they're going to be a cheater. The problem with these conversations is that bisexuality keeps getting reduced to being about nothing but sex. It is a bit degrading to posters here who are bisexual, because essentially what a lot of people think is that a bisexual orientation automatically predicts non-monogamy. I think implying that a person can't be physically/romantically oriented toward both sexes while maintaining a monogamous relationship with only ONE of those sexes is an attempt to invalidate bisexuality. So, to answer your question, yes I would get into a relationship with a guy who is bisexual. And, by the way, our relationship is pretty solid after several years together *hint hint*!
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no, i'm not invalidating bisexuality at all.

but with that said, has your partner ever hooked up with someone of the opposite sex while they were with you? what would you do if your partner told you they had romantic feelings for a woman and he wanted to get in a relationship with her as well? what then?

i'm just saying... i actually have a hard time believing that a bisexual person could be in a long term relationship and not act against their natural nature. they are going to be attracted to members of the same sex so that means that they can fall in love with a guy and a girl possibly at the same time. i just don't feel comfortable knowing that. i would rather not deal with someone that has that type of weight on their shoulders. i'll accept them for who they are but i would rather not get caught up in that situation.
 
sixthson said:
Bisexuals are attracted to both males and female, so the gay partner of a bisexual might feel he can't compete with a woman for his attraction. But relationships are about trust. I used to feel bis couldn't be trusted until I became friends with a bi JUBber. As I got to know him, I knew it was his character that mattered, not his sexuality. He changed my mind.

People don't cheat because they are bi, they cheat because they are cheaters.
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^ Couldn't have said it better myself.

There are quite a few JUB posts on gays cheating on gays...heartbroken and looking for advice.
 
refujiunderground said:
no, i'm not invalidating bisexuality at all.

but with that said, has your partner ever hooked up with someone of the opposite sex while they were with you? what would you do if your partner told you they had romantic feelings for a woman and he wanted to get in a relationship with her as well? what then?

i'm just saying... i actually have a hard time believing that a bisexual person could be in a long term relationship and not act against their natural nature. they are going to be attracted to members of the same sex so that means that they can fall in love with a guy and a girl. i just don't feel comfortable knowing that.
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Being attracted to women is no different than being attracted to other men. What, do people have a "gender quota" to fill up? Do bisexual people have two slots for significant others, one for each gender? And we homos and heteros are limited to just one "slot" since we only like one gender?

If a person is a cheater, they're a cheater. It doesn't matter if they go for a woman or another man, the point is they've gone for someone who's not you.
 
refujiunderground said:
no, i'm not invalidating bisexuality at all.

but with that said, has your partner ever hooked up with someone of the opposite sex while they were with you? what would you do if your partner told you they had romantic feelings for a woman and he wanted to get in a relationship with her as well? what then?

i'm just saying... i actually have a hard time believing that a bisexual person could be in a long term relationship and not act against their natural nature. they are going to be attracted to members of the same sex so that means that they can fall in love with a guy and a girl possibly at the same time. i just don't feel comfortable knowing that. i would rather not deal with someone that has that type of weight on their shoulders. i'll accept them for who they are but i would rather not get caught up in that situation.
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Just like a gay man could not possibly be in a relationship and "act against his nature"? Talk about the pot calling the kettle black.
 
refujiunderground said:
no, i'm not invalidating bisexuality at all.

but with that said, has your partner ever hooked up with someone of the opposite sex while they were with you? what would you do if your partner told you they had romantic feelings for a woman and he wanted to get in a relationship with her as well? what then?

i'm just saying... i actually have a hard time believing that a bisexual person could be in a long term relationship and not act against their natural nature. they are going to be attracted to members of the same sex so that means that they can fall in love with a guy and a girl. i just don't feel comfortable knowing that.
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I'm sorry, logic has all but left the building. What would a person, whose GAY, say if their boyfriend told them they were leaving them for another GUY? See, IN both Case, they were dumped! Being dumped== getting dumped. What does it matter if it was because of a female or male? It doesn't! which means there is something else beyond your argument, otherwise, It completely lacks cohesiveness.[-X
 
yummylongsword said:
Being attracted to women is no different than being attracted to other men. What, do people have a "gender quota" to fill up? Do bisexual people have two slots for significant others, one for each gender? And we homos and heteros are limited to just one "slot" since we only like one gender?

If a person is a cheater, they're a cheater. It doesn't matter if they go for a woman or another man, the point is they've gone for someone who's not you.
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yeah, you're right on that.

but on the earlier point you made, i don't know and honestly, i don't want to find out. all i'm saying is if you're a bisexual guy and you want to persue a relationship with me, you better be dedicated to me. NO EXCEPTIONS. don't fall for no women or no other men if you're going to be with me or we're going to have a problem.
 
I would date a bi guy as long as he were committed and trustworthy. I have to agree with reone, mouf, and yummy.

refujiunderground said:
i'm just saying... i actually have a hard time believing that a bisexual person could be in a long term relationship and not act against their natural nature.
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I'm sure there are married men who would explore their sexuality, but remain faithful to their wives.
 
refujiunderground said:
yeah, you're right on that.

but on the earlier point you made, i don't know and honestly, i don't want to find out. all i'm saying is if you're a bisexual guy and you want to persue a relationship with me, you better be dedicated to me. NO EXCEPTIONS. don't fall for no women or no other men if you're going to be with me or we're going to have a problem.
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Well yeah, I figured that would go without saying.

I do agree that some bisexual people assume that they are entitled to have one woman and one man at a time, which is just stupid. That should be shut down at the very start of the relationship. Monogamy has nothing to do with gender, it's two people being dedicated to each other.
 
Am I the only one that says yay?

I just find it so arousing that a guy likes to suck dick after eating pussy lol

I'm probably the only one :p
 
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