getting into a relationship with a bisexual guy? yay or nay

[blackbeltninja]

I [STRIKE]DO hang out with better people. They're called "gay guys."[/STRIKE] am the very definition of a bigot.

Fixed it for you. Thank me later.

-d-

 

[refujiunderground]

WTF

what???? once again, i was being sarcastic.

 

[refujiunderground]

Hah. That time, I actually didn't know you were being sarcastic.

really, man?

 

[Soilwork]

Fixed it for you. Thank me later.

-d-

Relax, d.

I would have figured you of all people would know a jasun joke when you see it.

We're clearly not going to agree on this one. You see it as being prejudiced, I see it as hedging bets.*

 

[blackbeltninja]

Indeed.

Except that if we're honest you're only half-joking, aren't you?

-d-

 

[quasar]

As a bisexual who knows a couple of bisexual women and men, I have to say that some of the comments in this thread are the most ignorant that I have seen in a while. Just because a person is bi, does not mean they are going to cheat any more than a gay person is.

Yes, I lean toward females and have had more female relationships than with males, however, when I am in a male relationship, I do not think about being with a female or another person. I think about that person. I have never cheated on anyone and when I break up with someone, there is a reason and I usually have a period where I am single before I start dating again. I have never gone from one person to another. Once into a couple month relationships with a guy (I even met his parents) he left me for another guy which I later found out he started seeing when we were together.

Sexuality has nothing to do with whether a person will cheat.

This is probably the main concept that many straights and gays fail to understand regarding bisexuality - hence it being such a divisive topic here. As a gay man, I'm regularly ashamed by the ignorance of others here when it comes to bisexuality.

 

[Soilwork]

Indeed.

Except that if we're honest you're only half-joking, aren't you?

-d-

Don't be silly. There are plenty of bisexual men in my extended circle of friends, and in my line of work, I seem to spend more time with bisexual men than anything else.

But if you're allowed to take a stab at the company I keep, I'm allowed to hit back.*

 

[Ganoderma]

yay

(i need to use at least 10 characters)

 

[maxpowr9]

Don't be silly. There are plenty of bisexual men in my extended circle of friends, and in my line of work, I seem to spend more time with bisexual men than anything else.

But if you're allowed to take a stab at the company I keep, I'm allowed to hit back.*

You need to start using this pic more often Jasun as a response to people...

 

[figjam]

nay. i just don't feel comfortable with the fact that i'm with someone that probably might not think he's cheating on me to get with someone of the opposite sex. i always had the feeling that there are some guys that use being bisexual as an excuse to be unfaithful hos. for some reason, i don't think there are many bisexual guys that can stay committed.

We Bi guys propably get the shortest part of the straw.

 

[DigitalFudge]

If I had to be cheated on I'd rather the guy do it with a woman. No questions asked on that one.


Edit: WTF that wasn't even the question, what the hell am I talking about?

To answer the OP yes I would date a BI guy without hesitation. I would not even stop to contemplate it like I would if the guy uses Grindr or visits bathhouses.

That's a fucking problem.

 

[DenimKnight]

Absolutely yay. We gays have had ridicule and isolation for being who we are, why exclude yourself from being with a bisexual and being just like those that have mistreated you?

If you saw your ideal man (perfect emotionally/physically/whatever else) and found he was bisexual I am sure you nays would convert to yays.

 

[Rusty Crown]

Bis are gods.

 

[bma1983]

If I had to be cheated on I'd rather the guy do it with a woman. No questions asked on that one.

I wouldn't. I think one of the hardest things one of my best friends ever had to go through was knowing that his boyfriend of many years cheated on him with a woman, got her pregnant, left him, and then married her. I think for a lot of gay men, myself included, the idea that a woman can give a man that one important thing that a gay man can't—a child—is why the idea of a bisexual man cheating on them with a woman is worse. I don't know, I guess it's just something that bi men can't understand.

To answer the OP’s question, I wouldn’t want date a bi guy. Mainly because I’m not attracted to a guy that could fuck me one moment and then fuck a woman the next.

 

[asu1117]

The one good thing that always comes out of these threads is that they remind me that the only guys that refuse to date someone based solely on bisexuality are the bigoted assholes. Which in the long run works out in my favor, I make it a point not to date those people anyway.

 

[refujiunderground]

The one good thing that always comes out of these threads is that they remind me that the only guys that refuse to date someone based solely on bisexuality are the bigoted assholes. Which in the long run works out in my favor, I make it a point not to date those people anyway.

all i have to say in light of this thread after reading some of what others have said is that even though i would prefer to get with another guy as gay as myself instead of a bisexual guy, i'll give a bisexual guy a shot IF i like him enough. you guys are right about a bisexual guy being no different than a gay guy when he's cheating while in a relationship whether it's a man or a woman.

yeah, i was being ignorant on the subject and yeah, i can't believe i'm going to admit this so don't get you and others all happy, i got put in my place. *sigh* i actually learned something. with that said, i'm not a perfect person and am always willing to learn from my mistakes as cheesy as that sounds. i guess that comes along in this whole coming out process where i'm slowly getting deeper into the lgbt community as a gay man and life in general. i'm not being sarcastic either. done with the thread.

 

[asu1117]

all i have to say in light of this thread after reading some of what others have said is that even though i prefer to get with another guy as gay as myself instead of a bisexual guy. i'll give a bisexual guy a shot IF i like him enough.

How kind of you, we appreciate your consideration. Maybe you should worry about coming out of the closet instead of judging other people's sexuality.

 

[pat grimshaw]

…the only guys that refuse to date someone based solely on bisexuality are the bigoted …

Don't forget the thread's title is 'getting into a relationship with a bisexual guy?'

 

[refujiunderground]

How kind of you, we appreciate your consideration. Maybe you should worry about coming out of the closet instead of judging other people's sexuality.

i'm a work in progress in regards to coming out. each day, i'm slowly coming out as slow, grueling and painful as it seems.

yeah, i shouldn't be judging other people for their sexuality and what one individuals chooses to do with themself. one doesn't represent all. i should know that well because i usually say that shit when i see people make judgements and generalizations about black people and gay people for what they see on the news, tv, and worldstarhiphop. with that said, carry on, dude.

 

[Soilwork]

Another thing that comes out of these threads is that no matter how nice and respectful you try to be, you get called every name in the book, including "asshole" and so do all of your friends. And lovers.

You're told that the men who left you for women and a normal life were just saying that and in reality, you're just an asshole.

I'm fine with being called an asshole. Takes a lot more than that to hurt my feelings.

Still, it's a bit odd that people feel the news to also attack the people in your life, too.