Girr...Bisexuality.

[highwindcaleb]

So this guy i was going out with drops me to start dating this girl. He didn't tell me that he was bi until i get a text from him... so I'm kinda pissed.

Now, please understand that me and the guy were only dating for a little more than a month but i still don't get how you like a guy then like a girl.

i guess now i have to ask JUB to explain being Bi to me. I know the concept but... i just don't get it.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

sex or
sex

 

[quasar]

A stroll through the Straight and Bi forum will give you some answers. This thread will probably involve a lot of 'bi bashing', so pick and choose which responses to take notice of - not all bi guys are so inconsiderate, and not all gay guys are truly informed when it comes to bisexuality.

 

[highwindcaleb]

i almost feel embarrassed asking for it to be explained... but he pissed me off so i wanna learn.

yes, i am a person that needs to be enraged to be educated,lol

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

i almost feel embarrassed asking for it to be explained... but he pissed me off so i wanna learn.

yes, i am a person that needs to be enraged to be educated,lol

it simple

sex or sex < it edit out lot waffle

or they betta make words got any meanin

anyway has great time ya next dudes!!!!!!!

 

[PreTTy PeTe]

ewwwwww pussy icky

COCK GOOD

that about all my limited intelligence can tell you at this moment.

 

[justsimon]

Before the bi-bashing begins, I'd like to point out that inconsiderate assholes come in all sexualities. This sort of behavior isn't limited bisexuals.

To the OP: I'm not sure what sort of explanation you're looking for.

 

[PreTTy PeTe]

^I don't bash bi guys.... I like them.

The more guys fuck pussy then the more cock is out there for me.

see me happy

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

he a go say girl drop ya?

no rush

like he no say he bi ans no say girl etc etc ya was whateva

so more info less waffle unless ya spins fa bit of workin ya own whateva

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

What's your point?

Obviously he didn't feel like continuing with you, and found someone else he did like.

 

[barnbuddy]

he didn't tell you up front - and that should be the standard

you have to wonder, did he tell the girl he;s dating he just broke up with a guy?

you're better off - he's not honest

 

[trinket]

he didn't tell you up front - and that should be the standard

Some of the sentiment/implications expressed in this thread, and elsewhere on JUB (as Quasar says, the "bi bashing") are precisely the reason why a bi guy wouldn't feel comfortable telling a "new" guy he's dating that he's also into girls. Given the amount of resentment or hate that gay guys experience from "straight culture", I've always found it curious that gay guys can direct their venom towards bi guys - that somehow they're "denying" their true gay sexuality and are chicken for not coming out, that they're just sex-craved and don't care, that they feel the guy is only "experimenting" with guys and not capable of a real or loving relationship and even the ridiculous notion that the guy is "tainted" for having been with girls. Why is it "lying" or "hiding" a bisexual past or current if you don't want to get into a complex subject by throwing that on somebody on a first date, or if you think it might destroy a burgeoning connection you have with a guy?

you have to wonder, did he tell the girl he;s dating he just broke up with a guy?

It's not like a girl that one is dating wants to hear a spiel about breaking up with past girls, either. Talk about not making the person you're with feel valued.

 

[jasoncrew03]

If people don't ask me, I don't tell them. It should make no difference. If we're together, we're together and in a monogamous relationship. If I leave you, it shouldn't matter whether I date a girl or guy next because my life has no bearing on you anymore and vice-versa.

As for an explanation of bi-sexuality, there are many. I'll sum up the ones I've encountered:

1) Sexually and romantically attracted to men and women equally.

2) Sexually and romantically attracted to men and women with a preference for a certain gender.

3) Sexually attracted to men and women, romantically attracted to a certain gender (yes, I've known guys who could only have romantic relationships with men and not women).

4) Sexually attracted to men and women, romantically attracted to neither.

5) Sexually attracted to neither gender, romantically attracted to men and women.

The last is the rarest, I've only encountered two people like that.

There are many MANY guys on here who will tell you all/most bis are cruel sluts who just want to use guys for sex and dump them for a chick right after. It's simply not true. Do people like that exist? Of course. Is it because they're bi? Of course not, an asshole is an asshole no matter the sexual orientation.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

Some of the sentiment/implications expressed in this thread, and elsewhere on JUB (as Quasar says, the "bi bashing") are precisely the reason why a bi guy wouldn't feel comfortable telling a "new" guy he's dating that he's also into girls. Given the amount of resentment or hate that gay guys experience from "straight culture", I've always found it curious that gay guys can direct their venom towards bi guys - that somehow they're "denying" their true gay sexuality and are chicken for not coming out, that they're just sex-craved and don't care, that they feel the guy is only "experimenting" with guys and not capable of a real or loving relationship and even the ridiculous notion that the guy is "tainted" for having been with girls. Why is it "lying" or "hiding" a bisexual past or current if you don't want to get into a complex subject by throwing that on somebody on a first date, or if you think it might destroy a burgeoning connection you have with a guy?




It's not like a girl that one is dating wants to hear a spiel about breaking up with past girls, either. Talk about not making the person you're with feel valued.

you say it not you da OP so jumpin all ova whateva no idea what is full sotry make alls da BI dribble points no where

but if world large Bi wanna flip whateva KOOL no sweat of ma butt but ans ig anore internet load of Pap real world if folk gonna spin along labels what not then just make new words fa um

guys wanna fuck simple

save da rest fa their mother

if it emotion attach of give a shit Kool

or hey dude wanna earn bit got fuck ya shitter or whateva

ans gay folk what say gay then go check first ans save rest from long confuse storysssss

world aint no place fa cultures spin and they alls drownin

rush job like what ya like or not

no time fa males no can figure out obvious of eeons

there go

 

[trinket]

Brilliant post, jasoncrew. Couldn't have said it better!

 

[healingduck]

Jasoncrew03's first sentence sums it up for me. I assume he didn't say he was gay either, so you pretty much assumed that. I'm sure if you would have flat out asked him he would have told you he was bi. If you really have that much of a problem with it, then you should start asking guys if they are gay to avoid confusion.

As far as explanation of bisexuality, you could probably find out more about it by searching on the internet. But you not being able to understand it is just like how some straight guys can't understand how a guy could like another guy. Probably something you may not ever fully understand though unless you are bi yourself. It all has to do with what you are attracted to and little else.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

Brilliant post, jasoncrew. Couldn't have said it better!

not got say anythang at all betta

wait fa OP finish what happen

unless folk just wanna jaw their own road <

so mr president ya country goin down da crappa?
' fish is nice thang ta do when nothin ta do '
WOW da soooo deeppppppp

-

 

[pai mei]

I think most of the bi-hate comes from the "bi transition" imo, where we pretend we're bi for abit while we're coming out.

so it gets a bad rap imo, just from that process alone. then you pile on top of that the bs existence the 40 and 50 and 60 year old guys live, where they have families, wives, kids, etc, and who hook up with guys on the side, and tell you they'll never come out as "bi" (aka, gay) because it just isn't a good idea for them.

whatever dude, u gay! u gay friday!

but if you can separate those two groups of 'pretenders,' then i don't see what problem u should have with bisexuality. i came out as bi, and i think, strictly speaking, i am, but i self-identify as gay now, but every so often there is a girl im attracted to, i mean, it's rare... VERY rare.... but it has happened

 

[barnbuddy]

I think if you go beyond a one nighter, for health sake at least,

most civilized people have a conversation about there sex lives

for me, anyway, the whole coming out story would be shared -

I've dated bi guys, and most told me if we sat and talked for a while

 

[jasoncrew03]

I think most of the bi-hate comes from the "bi transition" imo, where we pretend we're bi for abit while we're coming out.

I really REALLY REALLY hate this! It's because of people like this that bi-sexuals get so much shit from gays and straights.