Girr...Bisexuality.

[barnbuddy]

how is it a knee jerk "hate" reaction when I ask, if someone wants a relationship,

that they be honest, and tell me about their sexual history

if I date someone for a month, like the op said, then we would have had the

"when do you think you were attracted to guys" talk

and the "first serious relationship talk," ya know, lying there naked having those "talks."

so many of you thinks it's OK to edit your life story - leave out dating women?

is a bi man (or woman, which seems to be absent from this discussion,)

wants a relationship (as opposed to hooking up,) how can he expect it without honesty?

 

[highwindcaleb]

Do you get how someone can like a twink and then like a bear?

Do you get how someone can like a blond then like a brunette?

Do you get how someone can like a top then like a bottom?

Do you get how someone can like an apple then like an orange?

To some of us, it really isn't that different. If you continue to go on and blame bisexuals for your problems, I can only hope the next guy that ditches you does it the exact same way, only for another male. Then you'll see the stupidity in your argument.

I'm sorry but i was not blaming anyone. i was putting my situation out there and i was asking for people to explain it to me. your last paragraph there was completely uncalled for.

 

[curiousguyUNT]

how is it a knee jerk "hate" reaction when I ask, if someone wants a relationship,

that they be honest, and tell me about their sexual history

if I date someone for a month, like the op said, then we would have had the

"when do you think you were attracted to guys" talk

and the "first serious relationship talk," ya know, lying there naked having those "talks."

so many of you thinks it's OK to edit your life story - leave out dating women?

is a bi man (or woman, which seems to be absent from this discussion,)

wants a relationship (as opposed to hooking up,) how can he expect it without honesty?

It's not the asking about sexuality that is a knee jerk hate reaction, it's what usually comes right after. Even when it's not out right hatred, it is usually some form of eye rolling, sighing, giving a look like the bi guy is either slow or a child, or worse. Also, is it fair that gay guys don't immediately say that they have less than zero tolerance for bi guys and that no matter how good things are going it will end as soon as that fact is known?

 

[GiacomoPisani]

this is why i never trust my bisexual partner,no matter how i wanna to,but it's impossible,i'm always prepared for the first moment that i notice something weird going on with him so that i'm the first one to dump him instead of him doing it to me first.

 

[healingduck]

this is why i never trust my bisexual partner,no matter how i wanna to,but it's impossible,i'm always prepared for the first moment that i notice something weird going on with him so that i'm the first one to dump him instead of him doing it to me first.

If you spend all that time worrying, then why not just dump him.

Kind of funny how people in this thread are insinuating that bisexual people are more promiscuous than a gay person.

 

[Willie Boy]

Aww Pete I never was very good at math but that doesn't sound right to me...

I think he was calling himself a pussy...... At least that's the only way his statement makes any sense. The more cock that fuck pussy, the less there are to fuck assholes. So if he thinks more cocks fucking pussy means more for him, he's claiming to be/have a pussy.

 

[blackbeltninja]

how is it a knee jerk "hate" reaction when I ask, if someone wants a relationship,

that they be honest, and tell me about their sexual history

so many of you thinks it's OK to edit your life story - leave out dating women?

is a bi man (or woman, which seems to be absent from this discussion,)

wants a relationship (as opposed to hooking up,) how can he expect it without honesty?

The knee-jerk hate reaction is "oh, you're bi. Bye!" which seems to prevail here on this board. I've had it said to me twice in the last month, and I've always been very frank and upfront with potential suitors about my sexuality, even my last gf.

It bugs me to no end that you guys - all so marginalized and victims of stereotyping, crying foul all the fucking time - simply don't bat an eyelid when this happens to us, and do it so freely yourselves.

Is it too much to ask you to judge me on my actual merits and failings, not the ones you think I might have based on what that one guy did to you that one time? THAT is the knee-jerk anti-bi response I'm talking about.

-d-

 

[kallipolis]

this is why i never trust my bisexual partner,no matter how i wanna to,but it's impossible,i'm always prepared for the first moment that i notice something weird going on with him so that i'm the first one to dump him instead of him doing it to me first.

When we embrace our loving partners as human beings we accept them for who they are, rather than for whom we would have them be.

A healthy, and loving relationship with another human person can only prosper when we acknowledge their right to freedom, to discover more of whom they are when in relationship with us.

My partnership over ten years with a self defined bisexual man flourished through mutual love, and trust that we could only remain together as lovers by acknowledging each other's right to freedom of choice.

Our lover must remain free to make his choice to love us that we may know that we are truly loved.

 

[sixthson]

The knee-jerk hate reaction is "oh, you're bi. Bye!" which seems to prevail here on this board. I've had it said to me twice in the last month, and I've always been very frank and upfront with potential suitors about my sexuality, even my last gf.

It bugs me to no end that you guys - all so marginalized and victims of stereotyping, crying foul all the fucking time - simply don't bat an eyelid when this happens to us, and do it so freely yourselves.

Is it too much to ask you to judge me on my actual merits and failings, not the ones you think I might have based on what that one guy did to you that one time? THAT is the knee-jerk anti-bi response I'm talking about.

-d-

I think bis have to take their share of responsibility for their negative image (at least here at JUB). I can think of one JUBber who was very popular for awhile who went on and on, post after post, thread after thread, blog after blog about how bis are not just closeted gays. He then came out, very shortly thereafter, as gay. I think he would have better served everyone had he just kept his mouth shut until he worked out his own issues. On the other hand, perhaps it was just part of his journey. Personally, I never believed he was bi. He came across to me as someone who was just afraid to be himself. He didn't do bis any favors.

Then there are the bis who can't say enough about how hot sex with another guy is, but never (or rarely) say anything about sex with a woman. And there is a place for that kind of discussion here. It makes those of us who are not straight or bi wonder. At least I do.

I have to be honest. When I first came to JUB, I can't say I had ever given much thought to bis. I didn't know any in real life. I think I assumed that bis were just gays in denial. I got to know another JUBber very well and I began to see that some guys might be attracted to both sexes, but even in his case, his attraction to other guys seemed more intense than to women.

Sexuality is complicated.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

^You're using one guy as an example of why all bisexuals should shoulder the blame for a misconception that could be easily avoided by asking questions? And keep in mind, we're on a mainly gay site - you're not going to hear many bi guys talking about the women they want to bone here.

To me, that's kind of like blaming the gay guys here that go to the show yourself off section and drool all over the innumerable amount of curious/straight guys in that section.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

^You're using one guy as an example of why all bisexuals should shoulder the blame for a misconception that could be easily avoided by asking questions? And keep in mind, we're on a mainly gay site - you're not going to hear many bi guys talking about the women they want to bone here.

To me, that's kind of like blaming the gay guys here that go to the show yourself off section and drool all over the innumerable amount of curious/straight guys in that section.

is a nice they talk about their sweet pussys but yeah neva see shit so why BI just put love fuckin males or soemthang

it idea!

Kool

 

[jmadaf]

It's same reason you like guys he met somebody he conected with, not all girls are terrible, and not all guys are dogs. You like cock only he likes sex, cock or pussy.

 

[barnbuddy]

where is all this hate? I see far more indignation from bi guys

there are two points that you don't like, but they are true

1 - there are many gay men who, during the coming out process, called themselves bi

including guys who dated women, but now they self id as gay

2 - many true bisexual men end up married to women. Your straight friends can tell you why:

"if you like both, get a girl and have a happier life."

as I posted earlier, I've dated bi guys. I've always been attracted to jocks

and that comes with that territory.

and I'll admit, maybe it's different for young people now - I came out in the 80's

so my experience may be dated

 

[Ninja108]

I've been in a relationship with a bisexual male for over six years and have yet to be dumped or have any reason not to trust him.
I know people that have been cheated on in bisexual relationships. I also know people who have been cheated on in same and straight relationships.
Being cheated on is being cheated on and being dumped for someone is being dumped.
It's not exclusive to bisexuals yet somehow it's worse than if a gay or straight person does it.

 

[asu1117]

^You're using one guy as an example of why all bisexuals should shoulder the blame for a misconception that could be easily avoided by asking questions? And keep in mind, we're on a mainly gay site - you're not going to hear many bi guys talking about the women they want to bone here.

To me, that's kind of like blaming the gay guys here that go to the show yourself off section and drool all over the innumerable amount of curious/straight guys in that section.

I second this.

 

[Stardreamer]

To jason's point, why do bisexuals seemingly have the association (to both gays and straights) that they're cheating, morally-comprised, sex-hungry-at-all-other-costs, manipulative individuals?

You mean we aren't? Damn this is so going to screw up my social life.

 

[Stardreamer]

2 - many true bisexual men end up married to women. Your straight friends can tell you why:

"if you like both, get a girl and have a happier life."

And many of us just happened to fall in love for life with a woman. Nothing wrong with that.

 

[Rex]

I'm sick of playing cat and mouse with this topic. It's happened so many times before in other threads. Jasun was at the forefront of the anti bi group.


Anyway, bi guys are very confusing to everyone, even themselves, so don't feel like it's something you did wrong.

 

[Ninja108]

These topics never end well...for the record, in my relationship I've gotten a lot of flack from "friends" who are still convinced I'm going to be dumped for a woman any day now.
That has yet to come true..and I highly doubt it will.

 

[Kensei]

I'll sum it up well for you:

Some people, man or women, like both sexes.