1.Thank You for proving my point. As someone who was actually out in H.S. i can not fully relate to the dressing down this topic got. I came out when i was a sophomore and most guys thought i was lying just to hang out in the girls bathroom. I was really offended when they didn't believe me. Though i was not like Kurt. I didn't have any problems in school and i also was well liked. I didn't get the same treatment Kurt got, though i did hear stories later on about other kids being bullied. The reason i didn't suffer is i believe i was confident in myself and could look anyone in the eye and say "Fuck You". When people see you are willing to stand your ground they think twice about harassing you. My point is that while you look at it and judge from your personal experience about not being out and being taunted then how can you fully assess the different angles of this situation.
2.If you agreed that Kurt telling a stranger(to the Bully) and bringing him to a meeting with all his haughtiness he could muster is wrong, then yes. He told someone Else's secret. It wasn't Kurt's to tell. Period.
3.I do take it personally when i expressed my self and i havenineof clubs asking me what my problems in real life are. He was the first to get personal followed by you and a lecture about not bring up a recent teen suicide. Really? You're gonna swoop in and chastise me? In the 3 of us talking the only person here at this discussion i am the only one who was openly gay. There would be no way i would tell someone "Go ahead hit me it wont knock the gay out of me" That sounded so Faye Ray. I would have wanted Kurt to be stronger and and ready to fight that asshole. He didn't
Bottom Line: There are 2 gay kids at risk in this storyline. The Douche is one of us. Kurt reaching out to him would have been kewl. Just Kurt. So the Bully wouldn't feel threatened. Yes needs help. Because this is just as much a teaching moment for him as it is for Kurt. I would have liked Kurt to talk to him in private and promised he wouldn't tell him one his secret. Not forgiving him but, just a general understanding with one another. The way the have made Kurt to play out all these stereotypes.
I think in this day and age Kurt should be empowering himself call him out in the hallway as a bully and tells him next he is going to give as good as he gets. Show No Fear. Yet they make him fragile and shrill. No the message is that Gay youth mostly look and act like Kurt and identifies as Effeminate. Bullies are all closeted. Not raised to hate because of religion, ignorance and just plain fear of what they do not understand. They wrote a bunch of cliche's and didn't do well with the story. What would have been nice to see is that Kurt got up at the end and punched the guy. Find his power and let the guy know that he was done being afraid and he is going to fight back if the bullying continued.
They are both kids just learning how to navigate through life. It's tough on all of them. Both Kurt and The Bully need to be dealt with care. Again, they both belong to the GLBT community and Kurt being the bigger person would not Blaine into the equation with the bully. It just shoved him deeper in the closet. I am also very surprised that they let Santana say the line about a thousand gay jokes popped into her head when she is Bi. Hopefully, they can touch on her bi tendencies and explore why she would be indifferent to Kurt's feelings.
I try to look at all aspects The Bully is having feelings he is afraid of and afraid people will know it. These guys (as hard to believe is) hurting too.
BTW, there were plenty of people out in H.S. in the 80's.
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