First some background information, I live with 2 of my friends that I grew up with, one of them happens to be my ex-gf from my teen years who just moved back from hawaii 3 months ago after being away for 5 years. We spend most of our time hanging around the house, playing videogames, working and partying on occasion. etc. the norm.
I'm completely gay but she still doesn't know, me and her dated for a year when I was 17, I ended up losing my viginity too her, I knew I was gay then, but i'm in the south in Alabama to be exact and at that tender age I had an image to keep up, I'm pretty much out now to everyone except her.
So about a month and a half ago me her and my other roommate were drinking and partying and having fun. Well at about midnight my roommate passed out and she started coming onto me, I said "what the hell, sex is sex" and I was horny, so I wrapped it up and we started going, then BAM right when I burst I feel the top of the condom just rip, my first reaction was to push her off (we were on the counch and she was on top), she just sat their with a "oh shit" look on her face. I didn't even want to think about it so we decided to go to bed and not dwell and hope that nothing happens.
About 2 weeks later she comes to me and told me that she is 4 days late, !!!!!!!!WHY are you telling me this, I didn't know what to think, is it sometimes normal to be that late or something. So we sit down and talk about it and she says she knows shes pregnant she said when I came it felt like the universe exploded in her. (not a suprise I hadn't busted a nut in 2 weeks, hence the reason I was so willing to do it in the first place).
Now fast forward to yesterday, we have went through 8 pregnancy test of every kind you could find yesterday morning, all POSITIVE, we went to the health department today......POSITIVE.
By the end of today my life had completely changed, I have a roommate who is 9 weeks pregnant with our little one and I have NO idea what to do.
I know one thing is for sure though, That baby is not being aborted at all, i'm pro-choice but abortion is just not for me and she has agreed, I will support the baby, and we will raise it, I dunno if its going to be together or what.
But what do I do now, How can I come out to her NOW? Is she going to think that i'm obligated to be with her now. She has made hints like "When are we gettin married?" And stuff like but I dunno if she is joking around, I can't muster the will power to tell her, I never thought I would feel like this again.
On top of that my parents hate her and her family with a passion, and her family hates my parents, honestly i'm scared to death to tell my parents and so is she because we both believe their could be a huge custody battle, because her parents aren't going to want me raising their grandkid and my parents aren't going to want her raising their grandkid. And more than anything my mom would disown me and I couldn't handle that. And our parents don't even know we are living together, my parents dont even know she's back in the state, all hell is about to break loose.
(The reason about the family feud is that when we were together during out teens we were HUGE trouble makers, we both got sent off for doing alot of not so cool things, we became drug addicts and alcholics but those days were put behind us then, But our parents still hang onto those memories, more like cling on actually, her parents would tell me parents that I was a bad influence on their daughter and it would go around in circles just getting more heated over that year untill eventually her dad's job relocated out of state, but the tension is still their)
What do I do, someone please help me. Advice, please!
I'm completely gay but she still doesn't know, me and her dated for a year when I was 17, I ended up losing my viginity too her, I knew I was gay then, but i'm in the south in Alabama to be exact and at that tender age I had an image to keep up, I'm pretty much out now to everyone except her.
So about a month and a half ago me her and my other roommate were drinking and partying and having fun. Well at about midnight my roommate passed out and she started coming onto me, I said "what the hell, sex is sex" and I was horny, so I wrapped it up and we started going, then BAM right when I burst I feel the top of the condom just rip, my first reaction was to push her off (we were on the counch and she was on top), she just sat their with a "oh shit" look on her face. I didn't even want to think about it so we decided to go to bed and not dwell and hope that nothing happens.
About 2 weeks later she comes to me and told me that she is 4 days late, !!!!!!!!WHY are you telling me this, I didn't know what to think, is it sometimes normal to be that late or something. So we sit down and talk about it and she says she knows shes pregnant she said when I came it felt like the universe exploded in her. (not a suprise I hadn't busted a nut in 2 weeks, hence the reason I was so willing to do it in the first place).
Now fast forward to yesterday, we have went through 8 pregnancy test of every kind you could find yesterday morning, all POSITIVE, we went to the health department today......POSITIVE.
By the end of today my life had completely changed, I have a roommate who is 9 weeks pregnant with our little one and I have NO idea what to do.
I know one thing is for sure though, That baby is not being aborted at all, i'm pro-choice but abortion is just not for me and she has agreed, I will support the baby, and we will raise it, I dunno if its going to be together or what.
But what do I do now, How can I come out to her NOW? Is she going to think that i'm obligated to be with her now. She has made hints like "When are we gettin married?" And stuff like but I dunno if she is joking around, I can't muster the will power to tell her, I never thought I would feel like this again.
On top of that my parents hate her and her family with a passion, and her family hates my parents, honestly i'm scared to death to tell my parents and so is she because we both believe their could be a huge custody battle, because her parents aren't going to want me raising their grandkid and my parents aren't going to want her raising their grandkid. And more than anything my mom would disown me and I couldn't handle that. And our parents don't even know we are living together, my parents dont even know she's back in the state, all hell is about to break loose.
(The reason about the family feud is that when we were together during out teens we were HUGE trouble makers, we both got sent off for doing alot of not so cool things, we became drug addicts and alcholics but those days were put behind us then, But our parents still hang onto those memories, more like cling on actually, her parents would tell me parents that I was a bad influence on their daughter and it would go around in circles just getting more heated over that year untill eventually her dad's job relocated out of state, but the tension is still their)
What do I do, someone please help me. Advice, please!
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