Yes I'm smokin' hot. (grin) Versatile, not so much unless I really, really like you and you don't have a huge cock.
No, that is not just your opinion. That is you making a judgement on someone else and their opinions. I have no problem with that. I make judgements and I accept that others do the same. The difference between us it that I admit to it.
If I agree with you about open relationships, you have no problem with me making that judgement. But make no mistake, that is a judgement. If my judgement is different than yours, you call foul.
To say that those in faithful relationships are the most insecure or are closet cheaters, only proves that it hits a nerve.
That is my judgement.
LOL, just an opinion right, I mean OBVIOUSLY my relationship isn't "faithful."
...but but but I only meant monogamous...
Bullshit. You meant what you said.
What do you think a value judgment is? A personal opinion (usually pejorative) that you blanket apply to other people.
What I was doing was being sarcastic, yes, but also pointing out the hypocrisy of some of the posters in here who level these judgments and then attempt to disown it by saying, “but that’s just my opinion.”
Fine, if your opinion is that my relationship is cheating, immoral, dishonest, unfaithful, or what-have-you, mine is that you are a hypocrite on several levels. Now we’re all happy.
It’s perfectly possible to tell us why an open relationship isn’t right for you without telling me that my relationship is deficient and you know that it is just because. Call that opinion, call it point of view, hell call it
Bob for all I care – it’s still you tossing judgment around.
Open relationships are harder than monogamous ones, they require more trust and more confidence – and there are plenty of monogamous guys out there lying about it so they can cheat on their partner, there are guys who want to try it because they want out of whatever they’re in and can’t quite get up the courage to leave. There are guys who try it and discover they can't make it work, and yes Alice, there are people for whom it does work.
That says nothing about whether open relationships work or not – just like all that cheating and lying that goes on in a large percentage of monogamous relationships says nothing about whether they can work or not. Pretending there is a difference because you are hanging on to some kind of rules relationships must conform to is hypocrisy.
Any gay man who tells other people that their relationship is dishonest because it isn't the same as theirs has taken a page out of the far right playbook and I have some Fundies who'd like to talk to you about your own dishonest and immoral relationship. That's hypocrisy also.
Because any relationship is about the
people in it, not some kind of general conformity.
What works for me may not work for you but you know what, your way isn’t better or more moral or correct or any combination thereof, and frankly it’s annoying when people start calling my relationship dishonest out of prissiness and ignorance.
