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Guys who need validation after sex.

Kennylingus

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Anyone else get as annoyed with them as I do?

It seems like it's happening more and more, afterwards the guy just goes on question after question that really only have one nice answer. "Is it big?" "Was I good?" "Did you like it?" and on and on. They get so serious about it, like the evaluation I give them is going to effect their entire lives or something.

It's such a display of self-consiciousness it's just a total turn off. I usually find a nice way to kick them out after it. After sex I just want frozen yogurt and sleep, not to spend the night stroking some guy's ego.
 
It is because this the the age of 'It is all about ME'.
 
About the most annoying thing that you can do after sex.
 
The Matter Of Splatter said:
If you have to ask, and you need to know, you're usually shit in bed.

Now i say that, knowing one of my exes asked me if it was good over the phone the first time we had sex... he was damn good, so i don't know why he'd even ask the question. Still puzzles me to this day.
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I've had some good lays that ask. Now that I think about it, a lot of them were pretty decent. They're either fishing for compliments or needing validation. It's all about lack of confidence and it's a huge turn off. I mean even if the guy is bad, I'm not going to tell him that...it's just mean.
 
if the sex was good, and it was the first time with a guy, i always feel the need to ask something like that, although i never actually say it out loud because i know it comes across as pathetic. im not sure wether it really has something to do with insecurities, i dont think im insecure. what i really want to know is: "was this a one night stand, or are we gonna do this again?" because i want to protect myself from being all "woah, this was so nice, were gonna be at it like bunnies in the coming days", then find out that for him, it was just this one time. it would be just nice to know wether i should have butterflies or just treasure the memory and move on.

instead, i usuall go for "this was amazing!", just to make sure he knows, in case hes having the same question in his mind.

also, no joghurt. yes to potato chips. could it have something to do with the fact that i was offered potato chips after having given up my cherry for the very first time? :)
 
That's really a conversation for a few days afterwards though isn't it? Whenever someone has asked right after if it's going to be a regular thing that's also kind of a big turnoff, for me anyways. We just fucked and that question has the relationship stink all over it. Usually when that topic gets brought up I try to avoid the guy for a good while. Unless it's like earth shattering sex...but that doesn't happen all that often.

Either way, after sex there really only should be the lightest of convo.
 
personally, the sound i like to hear the most after sex is twisting the tops off a couple of cold beers.
 
Communication about sex is good, at least he cares enough to ask. Don't look at it as a negative, but rather as a positive.
 
elly909 said:
Communication about sex is good, at least he cares enough to ask. Don't look at it as a negative, but rather as a positive.
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Uh no...sorry I'ma look at it as a negative. Communication is one thing, this is all about someone wanting a specific response for their own peace of mind. It's annoying and completely unattractive.
 
Sometimes parking is expensive. They need the validation before they leave, because nobody can afford to waste a buck.
 
Hmm, i don't qualify to give much of a response. I don't have one night stands and i have never been asked these questions. However I do like to hear that my partner enjoyed it. It's not because I am insure, it's just nice to be told, "Oh my god. You felt amazing" who doesn't like hearing that?
 
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