Guys who need validation after sex.

[sixthson]

Maybe he is required to ask all his johns these questions??
Ever think of that?

 

[lactosedept]

Gawd, that sounds soooo good. I only ever eat it after fucking. Even if the sex is bad, I still have something to look forward to.

Damn, now I want some...Frozen Yogurt that is...How come you only eat it after sex?

 

[NVRMOR]

About the most annoying thing that you can do after sex.

I disagree...
Taxes are more annoying after sex

 

[Kennylingus]

Damn, now I want some...Frozen Yogurt that is...How come you only eat it after sex?

I really restrict my diet, I have the worst metabolism ever...so it's just one of those treats I gove myself for a job well done.

 

[Kennylingus]

Maybe he is required to ask all his johns these questions??
Ever think of that?

Tsk tsk, are you implying that I am sleeping with prostitutes?
If that were the case, conversation wouldn't be a problem...you don't really have to be polite with a whore...that's why there's money involved.

 

[lactosedept]

I really restrict my diet, I have the worst metabolism ever...so it's just one of those treats I gove myself for a job well done.

Ahh, I see. Thats cool. But definitely try the Strawberry and Dark Chocolate sometime!

 

[DigitalFudge]

Anyone else get as annoyed with them as I do?

It seems like it's happening more and more, afterwards the guy just goes on question after question that really only have one nice answer. "Is it big?" "Was I good?" "Did you like it?" and on and on. They get so serious about it, like the evaluation I give them is going to effect their entire lives or something.

It's such a display of self-consiciousness it's just a total turn off. I usually find a nice way to kick them out after it. After sex I just want frozen yogurt and sleep, not to spend the night stroking some guy's ego.

I think that is really hot

 

[hylas]

But why not? If he asks you if it was good for you just say yes. If not, then maybe you should tell him where he needs to improve. That's all.
If he starts asking more questions, tell him to shut the fuck up and stop being so insecure.

i dont know. im usually rather blunt, im all for honesty. also, i think im pretty good at giving constructive criticism. but i could never tell a guy right after sex how he could improve. its awkward enough if he asks me some days later on the phone why i wouldnt see him anymore.

 

[Under-taken]

I really want frozen yoghurt now, damnit.

 

[Seasoned]

I find this thread incredible. After all we are talking about human beings and not dogs. I guess if what we want is a hook up without talk we need park bushes or an old-fashioned glory hole.

Is it really too much to say, "Thanks, that was great. Maybe we can do it again sometime?"

 

[Kennylingus]

Oh my goodness here come the high ground homos, to preach from their soap boxes.

Where did I say anywhere that I used these guys for sex? If that was the case them needing validation wouldn't really bother me, because I could just throw them out or be an asshole about it.
If it was as simple as "that was great" it wouldn't be the issue, but as I said in my original post...you know the one the both of you guys are feeling so supierior about? It's usually a barrage of questions. And they're not even really questions, they're compliment bait. And it gets tiresome. After sex I really just want to enjoy my nut buzz and not have to attend to someone else's ego. I'm not talking about the people who just want to know how it was...I'm pretty sure I made that clear. I'm talking about the people who NEED VALIDATION and compliments. But go one and keep miscontruing what I said so that I look like a whorish asshole. I mean, how else are you guys going to feel validated for whatever it is you're looking for here?

 

[Seasoned]

I'm not wanting to put you down or argue, but consentual sex makes us vulnerable. What you describe is the age-old debate. The after sex crowd and the roll over and go to sleep crowd. I guess you could prepare your partners by sharing that tidbit before you hook.

Have you tried being tender after sex?

 

[BabiGayPimp]

A man needs to know when to come and when to go. People make things far too complicated for themselves and their partners sometimes. Personally, when the sex is really good, I need to be alone for a couple of hours to bask in the afterglow. So a man that get up; leave the coins on the dresser; and get his hot, tight, sastisfied ass the fuck out, and rush to tell everybody I'm God's gift, is a man after my own heart! I just love modern convenience.

 

[Roralot]

It depends if his questions were preceded by your nonresponsiveness. Some guys are like women, whereas they like to discuss feelings right after sex. Other guys just want to turn over and go to sleep.

 

[Kennylingus]

I'm not wanting to put you down or argue, but consentual sex makes us vulnerable. What you describe is the age-old debate. The after sex crowd and the roll over and go to sleep crowd. I guess you could prepare your partners by sharing that tidbit before you hook.

Have you tried being tender after sex?

If I let the guy stay over I am very tender actually. I love sleeping with my head on a guy's chest and dozing off to his smell and the warmth of his skin. I'm even ok with talking after sex as long as it's nothing too heavy. I don't like having to assure him about every aspect of it. A few people in this thread have said that it's not about insecurity...but that's exactly what I'm talking about. I'm not talking about anyone else, jst the people who directly afterwards throw question after question with that tiny hint of desperation that comes across their faces. That lack of confidence in themselves and their preformance is unappealing to me and the fact that they rely on me for that kind mental and emotional assurance is flat out annoying. Even if the sex was good the after interview process just kills it for me. That's why the frozen yogurt/sleep formula works so well.
Afterwards I don't want to think, or communicate, or analyze...
Frozen yogurt.
Sleep.

 

[Kennylingus]

I would think that actually cumming would be a good sign either way.

I happen to know I'm not that good. Too out of practice.

It's just like riding a biker, once you learn...you never really forget.

 

[Kennylingus]

A man needs to know when to come and when to go. People make things far too complicated for themselves and their partners sometimes. Personally, when the sex is really good, I need to be alone for a couple of hours to bask in the afterglow. So a man that get up; leave the coins on the dresser; and get his hot, tight, sastisfied ass the fuck out, and rush to tell everybody I'm God's gift, is a man after my own heart! I just love modern convenience.

If the guy can be chill and just hang out I don't mind them staying...but the annoying ones and the guys who get waaaaay too intense make me paranoid to let anyone stay.

 

[lactosedept]

Lets all go back to talking about frozen yogurt haha
Vanilla is good with oat meal, and chopped up kiwi, strawberries, blueberries, raspberries, and blackberries, or I guess any combination of fresh fruit

 

[Kennylingus]

LOL...okay, call us what you will...but your posts here say quite enough about your views. I don't need to 'misconstrue' anything.

You made a post, and I offered a differing viewpoint. I'm hardly on my soapbox. I just called things like I saw them.

But take soreknee's suggestion. Let the guys you're messing around with know how you are ahead of time. I don't think many of them would feel good about themselves after reading some of the things you've written about your lays in this thread.

And don't take it personal. There are plenty of guys like you who view this topic the same way. I'm just glad I'm not with one of them.

Noooo, you jumped to the assumption that sex is meaningless to me, because I don't want to have to talk about it at length afterwards.

I shouldn't have to preface sex, by saying after we're done I don't want to compliment you repeatedly. As far as feeling good about themselves because if this thread...I've already re-assured them of their incredible fucking abilities so it's not a problem.

I don't take things on here personally...even if someone is jumping to conclusions about my views on sex or my person as a whole. And I'm glad you're not with one of them either...you'd just annoy the hell out of him. So awesome.

 

[Kennylingus]

Lets all go back to talking about frozen yogurt haha
Vanilla is good with oat meal, and chopped up kiwi, strawberries, blueberries, raspberries, and blackberries, or I guess any combination of fresh fruit

There's one called Razzbatazz that I think is raspberry, blueberry and strawberry. It's all natural and AH-mazing.