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Gym Friends - Tell Them I'm Gay Before Workout?

new straight friends i make i would tell them , after 12 mths., that i march to the beat of a different drum ( often late at night, but don't tell them that ) . tell them that they are not in any danger and you tell them because they are friends. They will find out in the end and it is best it comes from you.
 
You should definitely tell your friends that you're gay. People that you are close to in life SHOULD know.

I hate it when people say, "just wait for it to come up." From my experiences most guys will never ask another guy if they are gay, unless you do or say something to suggest it. They avoid the question. So you have to find out when you want to tell them.

Personally, I couldn't call someone a friend and have them not know. People need to remind themselves that being gay is a big part of your life, but it isn't your life.

As for telling them before going to the gym....to me it doesnt matter if it is before or after. I can see why a straight guy would feel awkward being naked infront of a gay man though. And I don't blame him, just make it clear you are not checking him out.
 
Thanks Lance.

I hate it when people say "It's none of people's business.. if someone asks, I'll tell them."

Nobody EVER asks.
 
Soilwork said:
Thanks Lance.

I hate it when people say "It's none of people's business.. if someone asks, I'll tell them."

Nobody EVER asks.
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I just joined JUB today, but I have been reading these boards for a long time now.

You are one of my fav members. Just putting that out. :)
 
I hate it when people say "It's none of people's business.. if someone asks, I'll tell them."
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I really don't think sexuality is anyone's business except the people involved in the sex, but that's just me.
 
nihilis said:
I really don't think sexuality is anyone's business except the people involved in the sex, but that's just me.
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Just because someone knows you have a boyfriend doesnt mean they know you like a certain kinky position. lol.

You don't have to reveal all your sexual secrets to the world. But having a relationship shouldn't be something you keep to yourself.
 
In regards to whether or not you "need" to tell your friends...

I guess I would say that I have a sort of "middle-of-the-road" philosophy; while I too agree that it isn't really anyone's business what my sexual preferences happen to be, I also feel that because it's nobody's business but my own, I shouldn't have to awkwardly hide it should it come up naturally in conversation. So while I don't think I need to actively go out and make sure everyone knows that I'm gay, people who get to know me tend to figure it out pretty fast since I don't avoid the subject either.
 
nihilis said:
I really don't think sexuality is anyone's business except the people involved in the sex, but that's just me.
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well good for you.

You go tell your sister to stop wearing her wedding ring. It's tacky to flaunt who she's haivng sex with.

Next time you get invited to a wedding, you tell them that "it's none of my business who's fucking you."

I sure hope you tell your male friends who mention their girlfriends that you'd wish they'd stop flaunting their sex lives in your face. How rude.

Straight people can be so MILITANT, can't they? Constantly flaunting their sex lives in our faces.

They parade through the streets announcing who they're fucking. They ride through the streets honking their horns in decorated cars with signs that say "JUST MARRIED" and waving to us like they're saying "WE ARE STRAIGHT AND ABOUT TO GO HAVE KINKY STRAIGHT SEX!!"

Disgusting.



/sarcasm.
 
I remember a while back there was a member that I was feuding with (qelle surprise) and he was getting married to his BF.

He didn't tell any of his straight friends and made a big fuss about how "it's none of their business and they dont' need to know."

OK.. step back here..

Can you imagine ANY straight person not going on and on and on about their wedding plans? I mean.. I've never known a straight person who didnt' have 5 or 6 showers and parties and oportunities to get swag.

Honestly...
 
Soilwork said:
well good for you.

You go tell your sister to stop wearing her wedding ring. It's tacky to flaunt who she's haivng sex with.

Next time you get invited to a wedding, you tell them that "it's none of my business who's fucking you."

I sure hope you tell your male friends who mention their girlfriends that you'd wish they'd stop flaunting their sex lives in your face. How rude.

Straight people can be so MILITANT, can't they? Constantly flaunting their sex lives in our faces.

They parade through the streets announcing who they're fucking. They ride through the streets honking their horns in decorated cars with signs that say "JUST MARRIED" and waving to us like they're saying "WE ARE STRAIGHT AND ABOUT TO GO HAVE KINKY STRAIGHT SEX!!"

Disgusting.



/sarcasm.
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haha, I love you.

And no need to say you were being srcastic, It's the truth.

For gay men, saying that its no ones business is just an excuse to not be a man and live their own life freely.
 
Well, I dunno.

When they mention a hot girl or something, we're usually in a group, and what am I supposed to say? I don't really say anything, because... well... I can't understand what they mean.

I can't exactly start pointing out hot guys, because THEY won't get what I mean.

I'm slowly TRYING to insert it now though, just because even though I don't owe them anything really, I'd still like to get over having to worry about it all.

So yeah, I am changing my stance on the course of action I should take.
 
Wow, I feel like I'm coming out all over again. Jesus Christ, can't I just send a memo to everyone I know? I should make a business card with my name, and the word 'GAY' right under it to hand out to new acquaintances.

Anyways, I slipped it in to one of my friends, and I was surprised that they hardly reacted besides asking... "So, am I hot?" ](*,)
 
Soilwork said:
and?

dont' keep us hanging..[-X
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Er, well, *cough* he's not my type :p

I told him "I guess". It was such a loaded question- If I say "YES" then that implies I find him attractive and could possibly hit on him, and if I say "NO" well, uh... that's hurtful!

I copped out! I KNOW! :cry:
 
Soilwork said:
No no, it's cool.

That's the only time it's ok to lie.
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That's what the internet is for. We say it how it is. No one cares about feelings.
People act like tuff shit online, more so than in real life.

If that guy wanted an honest answer, he should've posted a topic here. lol
 
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