Gym Friends - Tell Them I'm Gay Before Workout?

[theblackajah]

That's what the internet is for. We say it how it is. No one cares about feelings.
People act like tuff shit online, more so than in real life.

If that guy wanted an honest answer, he should've posted a topic here. lol

In which case he would get an assortment of the following:

-"OMFG YOURE SO HOT!!!!111"
-"You really shouldn't worry what other people think about you. Physical appearance isn't everything, blah blah blah..."
-"Wow, you really have to ask that? Guys with no self-confidence are SUCH a turn off."
-"Stroke your ego some more? What a waste of time."
-"No."

 

[-Lance-]

In which case he would get an assortment of the following:

-"OMFG YOURE SO HOT!!!!111"
-"You really shouldn't worry what other people think about you. Physical appearance isn't everything, blah blah blah..."
-"Wow, you really have to ask that? Guys with no self-confidence are SUCH a turn off."
-"Stroke your ego some more? What a waste of time."
-"No."

lol
true

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>That's the only time it's ok to lie.

Sorry, I don't lie to friends. If they ask, I tell them.

"Am I hot?"
"Not to me."
"Really?"
"Nope, not in the slightest. Thank God for your winning personality, or I'd never hang out with you. "

Lex

 

[nihilis]

well good for you.

You go tell your sister to stop wearing her wedding ring. It's tacky to flaunt who she's haivng sex with.

In this state my friend, a wedding ring doesn't tell you shit...

Next time you get invited to a wedding, you tell them that "it's none of my business who's fucking you."

See above.

I sure hope you tell your male friends who mention their girlfriends that you'd wish they'd stop flaunting their sex lives in your face. How rude.

When they go into graphic detail about their sex lives, I do tell them I don't want to hear it. I don't see what's wrong with that.

Straight people can be so MILITANT, can't they? Constantly flaunting their sex lives in our faces.

and apparently so can gay people, who would have thought? /sarcasm

They parade through the streets announcing who they're fucking. They ride through the streets honking their horns in decorated cars with signs that say "JUST MARRIED" and waving to us like they're saying "WE ARE STRAIGHT AND ABOUT TO GO HAVE KINKY STRAIGHT SEX!!"

Disgusting.



/sarcasm.

...and that would be why I said "but that's just me". No need to froth like a lunatic, it's only my opinion.

 

[recuerdeme]

So, I have a couple of friends at my university, and we're planning on going to the gym together regularly.

I'm out in general (e.g. my Facebooks is set to "Interested in MEN"), but they may not necessarily have read it. I've known them for a year now, and one of them in my group is also a friend on my Facebook.

I'm not one to randomly bring up the fact that I'm gay. If someone asks, I don't deny it, but I was never really one to go for the whole sit-down-and-come-out thing. I prefer a passive method.

Should I tell them, outright in case they don't know (They never mentioned anything, so I don't think they saw it), before going to the gym with them? (Because we'll probably end up in the communal showers, and I wouldn't want them to get uncomfortable if they find out I'm gay later on...)

I don't have a thing for any of them whatsoever, just to clear that up. They are buddies... and I'm just not sure how to handle this.

I don't see a reason why you should tell them. Unless you were actually interested in one or all of them(?) I've worked out with college buds and some new about me... others did not. What's the big deal? Don't make a mountain out of an ant hill.

 

[Soilwork]

When they go into graphic detail about their sex lives, I do tell them I don't want to hear it. I don't see what's wrong with that.

Who said anything about going into graphic detail?

the OP certainly didn't.

Nor did I.

But you go ahead and equate people knowing that you're gay with people knowing what kinky shit you like to get up to.

 

[Soilwork]

and apparently so can gay people, who would have thought? /sarcasm

if me mentioninng off-hand that I have a BF is "Militant" we have a problem.

And my original point still stands. If straight people just living their lives and not caring that you know they're straight is alright... it should be no different for us.

 

[nihilis]

But you go ahead and equate people knowing that you're gay with people knowing what kinky shit you like to get up to.

The definition of sexuality encompasses both ideas, so they are equal, according to Webster's. I was going on a different definition than you, and used said definition in my example.

if me mentioninng off-hand that I have a BF is "Militant" we have a problem.

No, I was just being a smartass because you got all mental over my opinion. Then again:

I sure hope you tell your male friends who mention their girlfriends that you'd wish they'd stop flaunting their sex lives in your face. How rude.
Straight people can be so MILITANT, can't they? Constantly flaunting their sex lives in our faces.

I guess by your own definition, you are being militant.

And my original point still stands. If straight people just living their lives and not caring that you know they're straight is alright... it should be no different for us.

I don't disagree with this at all. I was just offering an opinion to the OP reflecting how I choose to handle myself, which is why I ended the sentence with "but that's just me". No one has to listen to it.

 

[Soilwork]

I guess by your own definition, you are being militant.

(Um.. I was being sarcastic. it's why I wrote "/sarcasm" at the end. that means I dont' really think that.)

 

[Lostlover]

So what have you done?

I know from my experiences straights don't seem to broadcast their sexual orientation, why would you?

You can not bring it up and still be honest and true with yourself.

 

[Soilwork]

I know from my experiences straights don't seem to broadcast their sexual orientation, why would you?

I don't know a single straight person who doesn't somehow "broadcast" their sexual orientation in some way.

Straight guys mentioning women they find attractive or having a girlfriend, girls talking about how "hot" Matt Damon is.

men and women parading down the street after their weddings, changing their surnames to that of their spouse, wearing wedding rings...

The two straight guys who work at Fratmen both talk about their wives and one of them even brought his pregnant wife into work one day.

to them it's just living their every day lives. Why is it suddenly "broasdcasting" their sexual orientation when a gay guy doesn't see the need to hide it?

 

[theblackajah]

As if the world was fair like that.

But Soilwork does have a point (OH GODS, I'VE AGREED WITH HIM ON SOMETHING!!!)

Meh, all in good time. Honestly though, it isn't as fun mentioning who I find hot is all the people around me are straight -_-

 

[Soilwork]

obviously they have made their sexual orientation known enough to be known as straight friends.

 

[Alpha1851]

After reading some of these responses it sounds like being gay is a huge chore!

In the future, I will certainly endeavor to reign in my straightness so that I'm not parading it around. And for the record, I also despise wedding showers...not only are they hella boring but it also costs a small fortune to provide the necessary, polite gift.

Well, enough time has passed since the original post. Did you inform your gym/school acquaintances about your love of dick? Did they even care? Are you still working out with them?

 

[theblackajah]

After reading some of these responses it sounds like being gay is a huge chore!

In the future, I will certainly endeavor to reign in my straightness so that I'm not parading it around. And for the record, I also despise wedding showers...not only are they hella boring but it also costs a small fortune to provide the necessary, polite gift.

Well, enough time has passed since the original post. Did you inform your gym/school acquaintances about your love of dick? Did they even care? Are you still working out with them?

Yes, it can be QUITE the chore a lot of the time *sigh*. But it's who we are, and well, we're sorta stuck with it.

Er, they ended up being too lazy to work out with me anyways. And I don't think I want to. 2 of them, unfortunately (and coincidentally) made general homophobic attitudes known. They weren't agressive- just immature about homosexuality.

Suffice to say, I am not going to pursue friendship with them. They will merely become "allies", for the sole exchange of study/course-related information to mutually benefit one another.

The third friend, I had told, and he was very cool about it, which definitely made me feel good. The sad thing: Of the three friends, he was the one that DIDN'T go into the same engineering spec as the rest of us did this year. Oh well.

 

[Lostlover]

I don't know a single straight person who doesn't somehow "broadcast" their sexual orientation in some way.

Straight guys mentioning women they find attractive or having a girlfriend, girls talking about how "hot" Matt Damon is.

men and women parading down the street after their weddings, changing their surnames to that of their spouse, wearing wedding rings...

The two straight guys who work at Fratmen both talk about their wives and one of them even brought his pregnant wife into work one day.

to them it's just living their every day lives. Why is it suddenly "broasdcasting" their sexual orientation when a gay guy doesn't see the need to hide it?

Maybe if you're working out at the gym the guys are talking about "hot chicks." But at work and at school, I don't hear straights talking about their "straightness" with one another.

Nonsense.