Has your taste in guys changed over the years?

[saymyname]

So... I'm starting to realize how my taste in guys is changing a lot. When I first started having sex, when I was 19, I was really into twinks. It stayed that way for a while. I liked them shorter, slender or toned, cute looking, boyish. Aside from a few random things here and there, I was exclusively with guys younger than myself. I'm 21 now, almost 22, and the last guys I've had sex with are my ex ( 18 ), a fuck buddy, 18, and another guy, 19. My ex and I broke up about a month ago and since then, I've started to think about what type of guy would suit me better.

Maybe it's because I've always been attracted to guys a bit younger than me, and now that I'm almost 22, anyone under 20 is starting to seem too young... I'm just like... ugh... teenagers... younger guys are really losing their appeal. All I can see when I look at them is: inexperience, not very skilled in bed (my ex the exception...), fickle, impressionable, immature, etc... I still appreciate them aesthetically, but less and less erotically or sexually...

I hooked up with a guy this weekend that would usually totally be my type. He was 19, 5'11, 125 pounds, a total bottom, really cute. First of all, I like slender guys, but he was dangerously skinny, it was a huge turn off. I felt like I would break him, even though I'm tall and slender too. He had no idea what he was doing in bed, and because of how I realized in the moment that I'm no longer attracted to him, I didn't feel like teaching him.

So since then I've been thinking about it. And while I'm still attracted to my ex, and my one fuck friend... they're both 18, the ff is 5'7... but I'm starting to see them in an old-taste kind of light. I keep thinking about how hot it'd be to be with a guy a little bit thicker, like 20-24... still really hot, but just not so freaking petite, and with the beginning touch of handsomeness over cuteness.

It's so weird. It's like puberty all over again.

Have you guys experienced something like that over the years, or have you always liked the same kind of guys?

 

[SilverWolf]

Nope.

I'm almost exclusively into tall slender long hair guys around my age since I liked guys and I still am.

 

[Kennylingus]

Yes.

When I was a teen I was super turned on to black guys.
But then slept with a bunch and I finally got it that we're all the same. Except for asians,,,,,they just try harder and it is very appriectiated.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

no

world same since was little boy

 

[Ryuusei Boy]

I don't know, I've always been attracted to a pretty wide range of guys, in all aspects (age, body type, race, whatever). There are really cute twinks, and there are really handsome non-twinky guys, I don't think they're mutually exclusive

 

[EqualsThree]

Nope, always been into older guys.

But I'm only 20 with limited experience (that experience being with a girl ) but my taste in men has always been the same, I think?

 

[saymyname]

The OP actually very aptly describes my evolution of tastes. I still like the young/fresh look, but I'm more into *men* now. The really twinky guys don't do it for me.

It sounds like we're on the same page. We're also the same age so it makes sense. It's just weird because I still very much attract younger guys. But they don't attract me as much. I'm not saying I want to be with a really macho older guy or some muscle stud, either... far from it. But just someone who like... knows how to dress... is handsome, sexy... has a bit of a broader/thicker frame, like still thin and in shape, but with some more muscle mass - a bit more toned. And not such an innocent face. I'm tired of all these boys that look stupid puppy dog kind of cute, and except for a few, ARE stupid puppy dog cute, totally not serious lovers.

But it's also making me assess myself and become at a crossroads with my own body type and aesthetic. I'm still about 6'1, 135 lbs, still pretty skinny, slender. But I carry it well - it doesn't look unnatural. I've started to sport a little facial hair, not a full on beard, but just some scruff, and I've been told it looks very sexy. I still get read as being about 19 or 20, though. I'm thinking of finally starting to work out because, when I hooked up with that skinny guy, I wondered, jesus - is this maybe how some guys see me? It's messing with my self perception a bit... as in, if the kind of guys I want are a bit more toned and fleshed out, maybe I should get there, too.


Here is something to illustrate what I mean. My taste is going from this:

(Model Gaspard Ulliel, younger, very cute, innocent looking... the guys I've been with look younger than this)

To this, same model, a bit older:

 

[gsdx]

when I was 19, I was really into twinks. It stayed that way for a while. I liked them shorter, slender or toned, cute looking, boyish. Aside from a few random things here and there, I was exclusively with guys younger than myself.

That was me, too, except that I was with a guy older than I was once and I'm not into the 'boyish' thing. I'm almost 3 times older than you and I'm still into twinks. (Not today's twinks, though. They make themselves look too much like little boys and that just leaves me limp and longing for the 'good old days'.)

 

[Joshua_me]

As I get older, I tend to like older guys...

I see plenty of guys in their 50's that I think are pretty hot. I wouldn't have given them a second look ten years ago...

 

[fetaby]

It's never been so much about a single type for me, but rather the individual. I've been attracted to em all from twinks to bears, the common denominator being they were all freaking hot.

 

[Telstra]

So... I'm starting to realize how my taste in guys is changing a lot. When I first started having sex, when I was 19, I was really into twinks. It stayed that way for a while. I liked them shorter, slender or toned, cute looking, boyish. Aside from a few random things here and there, I was exclusively with guys younger than myself. I'm 21 now, almost 22, and the last guys I've had sex with are my ex ( 18 ), a fuck buddy, 18, and another guy, 19. My ex and I broke up about a month ago and since then, I've started to think about what type of guy would suit me better.

Maybe it's because I've always been attracted to guys a bit younger than me, and now that I'm almost 22, anyone under 20 is starting to seem too young... I'm just like... ugh... teenagers... younger guys are really losing their appeal. All I can see when I look at them is: inexperience, not very skilled in bed (my ex the exception...), fickle, impressionable, immature, etc... I still appreciate them aesthetically, but less and less erotically or sexually...

I hooked up with a guy this weekend that would usually totally be my type. He was 19, 5'11, 125 pounds, a total bottom, really cute. First of all, I like slender guys, but he was dangerously skinny, it was a huge turn off. I felt like I would break him, even though I'm tall and slender too. He had no idea what he was doing in bed, and because of how I realized in the moment that I'm no longer attracted to him, I didn't feel like teaching him.

So since then I've been thinking about it. And while I'm still attracted to my ex, and my one fuck friend... they're both 18, the ff is 5'7... but I'm starting to see them in an old-taste kind of light. I keep thinking about how hot it'd be to be with a guy a little bit thicker, like 20-24... still really hot, but just not so freaking petite, and with the beginning touch of handsomeness over cuteness.

It's so weird. It's like puberty all over again.

Have you guys experienced something like that over the years, or have you always liked the same kind of guys?

from what you wrote your taste has not change at all.
Your taste has change if you are into 40 plus ............

 

[JOHN B]

When I was young, I use to hate hairy guys....now I think they are hot! I also use to like guys who were about 10 years older than me, now...20 years later, I like guys around my are or a little younger.
Actually as I look at it, at 20, and 30, I liked 40 year olds. Now,---I didn't necessarily stop liking older guys so much---I just ended up "closing the gap"...lol

 

[Audio Tech]

My taste hasn't changed at all. And that's a problem, since I still like twinks. I just can't get into guys my own age. I'm cursed.

 

[Tadaa]

Yes it has!!!

 

[desmond]

Mine changes with every hot guy I see.

 

[BabiGayPimp]

I think it's only natural for your sexual tastes to expand as your experience and maturity level grows. If a man is 30+ years old and still exclusively attracted to floppy-haired teenagers just (or not even) out of high school, it starts to look ridiculous. Variety is the spice of life.

You may also want, at some point, to form a relationship with someone who's no longer loving with his parents.

I agree that your tastes change as you begin to realize "exotic looking" people are less exotic than you thought.

 

[Ryuusei Boy]

You may also want, at some point, to form a relationship with someone who's no longer loving with his parents.

Why would anyone want to have a relationship with a guy who hates his parents?

 

[saymyname]

from what you wrote your taste has not change at all.
Your taste has change if you are into 40 plus ............

I'm sorry, can you read? It's not a radical change but it's a change nonetheless.

 

[dj415]

So... I'm starting to realize how my taste in guys is changing a lot. When I first started having sex, when I was 19, I was really into twinks. It stayed that way for a while. I liked them shorter, slender or toned, cute looking, boyish. Aside from a few random things here and there, I was exclusively with guys younger than myself. I'm 21 now, almost 22, and the last guys I've had sex with are my ex ( 18 ), a fuck buddy, 18, and another guy, 19. My ex and I broke up about a month ago and since then, I've started to think about what type of guy would suit me better.

Maybe it's because I've always been attracted to guys a bit younger than me, and now that I'm almost 22, anyone under 20 is starting to seem too young... I'm just like... ugh... teenagers... younger guys are really losing their appeal. All I can see when I look at them is: inexperience, not very skilled in bed (my ex the exception...), fickle, impressionable, immature, etc... I still appreciate them aesthetically, but less and less erotically or sexually...

I hooked up with a guy this weekend that would usually totally be my type. He was 19, 5'11, 125 pounds, a total bottom, really cute. First of all, I like slender guys, but he was dangerously skinny, it was a huge turn off. I felt like I would break him, even though I'm tall and slender too. He had no idea what he was doing in bed, and because of how I realized in the moment that I'm no longer attracted to him, I didn't feel like teaching him.

So since then I've been thinking about it. And while I'm still attracted to my ex, and my one fuck friend... they're both 18, the ff is 5'7... but I'm starting to see them in an old-taste kind of light. I keep thinking about how hot it'd be to be with a guy a little bit thicker, like 20-24... still really hot, but just not so freaking petite, and with the beginning touch of handsomeness over cuteness.

It's so weird. It's like puberty all over again.

Have you guys experienced something like that over the years, or have you always liked the same kind of guys?

Saymyname, you are cracking my ass up. It's all just to fucking funny. When you were 19 you liked one kind of guy. Now you are the ripe old age of almost 22 and you like another type of guy but that guy is virtually the same as the other type you liked yesterday. Mate, you are talking about less than 3 years. And you think your taste in guys has changed? Laughable. Really!

Please believe me, I'm not passing judgment. I just find the whole scenario quite funny. You are saying in less than three years your tastes have changed and yet what you describe as now being hot is still the same as what you where finding hot 6 months ago. To varying degrees but by and large the same.

Get back to me in 20 years. (If I'm still alive.) What will you find hot in 20 years from now? That's what constitutes a real change in what one is attracted to.

To try and answer your question. I hook up with guys in their 20's, 30's, 40's, and 50's. And I'm happy to do so. I'm single and love being single but I still like sex. I'll take whatever I can get. No, I'm not desperate, just horny!

For me, personally, I'm still most turned on by guys in their twenties. Unlike you I wasn't out until I was in my thirties. (Sure, shame on me. But that's just my story.) All during my twenties I was really hot for guys my age. 20 years on I'm still hot for men in their twenties. Guys my age aren't really attractive. All I have to do is look in the mirror to know that.

So, no, my tastes have not changed. What I'm willing to get busy with has changed.

I'm so happy for you and envious that you know who you are and know what you like. Just don't say that your tastes have changed when they really haven't.

 

[ronboy]

As I get older, I tend to like older guys...

I see plenty of guys in their 50's that I think are pretty hot. I wouldn't have given them a second look ten years ago...

This is what I have experienced.

When I was young (and quite foolish), I didn't think anyone over 30 was attractive.

When I hit 30 myself, I realized how much I had been missing by limiting my tastes, and began to enjoy men...mature men....

And when I hit 40, I realized the beauty of this age...these are men who are mature in their sexuality, and KNOW what they want... They are just as handsome and sexy to me as the twinks are...

It doesn't mean that I've given up on youth, but I have expanded my tastes in men.


Life is simply too short to limit yourself.

When I hit 50, in a few years, I suspect my horizons will broaden even more..... That's a good thing!