Hate when Straights Do This!!!

[CGHJ]

They are interested, but scared. they dig being checked out and they're maybe checking you out, but like dogs circling each other when you make a sudden move back they get skittish and hide behind the bushes.

 

[On The Edge]

yeah I get that sometimes..especially in malls..

 

[ziyingoliver]

very interesting, for my case ,I got a lot eye contact with other guys but I'm not sure if it because I'm asian or if they really interested,so that doesn't bother me too much, but once I was sitting on a bench by the street,there passed slowly a sedan,the driver kept looking at me,and I stare back wondering the same as before, but then I know he was interested in me because the other man sitting beside him put his right hand out of the window and showed his middle finger to me,no wonder I pissed off ,and so did the boyfriend of the driver, I guess he must be mad about me staring at his boyfriend

 

[Lefty]

and sometimes straight guys just like to look, especially if you are at a similar level of attractiveness, its like sizing up the potential competition or even just admiring your appearance but they get nervous when they think you might be showing an interest...maybe a little insecurity at play here. i say look and/or be looked but don't take anything personal until an overt move is made.

 

[nafhoosier]

Wow, some people are really bitter towards straight people.

I think everyone's reading way to much into this. Guys will be guys, and just because you make eye contact with someone doesn't mean they're checking you out. I think it's wishful thinking on your part.

If you're staring at a guy with his girlfriend, of course he's going to eventually look at you! In fact, he's probably looking at you because he thinks you're creepy and creeping up on him! I also think that many of you are just imagining much of the time what they're doing. Like you think they're looking directly at you but in reality they are just looking at something nearby or next to you.

Also, guys frequently size each other up. They look each other up and down to compare themselves to one another. Yeah, I've had guys look at my package at gyms or look at my arms and legs while working out, but I'm almost positive they were only sizing me up and didn't look into it at all.

I think many of you just need to relax and realize that they weren't really doing anything.

 

[innocentbychoice]

gimmeadolla85,

wow, that guy was a major asshole manipulating you like that.

I've had a few experiences like that.

My new method in dealing with them, even if I am wildly interested:

If THEY are TRULY interested in me, then they know where to find me. They can ask me out, etc. But I am NOT playing the eyes fucking each other game. Not going there. It's a one way road to unfulfillment, frustration and pain. (Not for the straight, though, who is getting his rocks off. He's gotten all HE wants.)


They get to use you, to see if you're gay they play the staring game. They get to use you and see if you're attracted to them by playing the staring game. They get to put you under their spell and control, giving them power over you, by playing the staring game.

They totally use the gay guy for their own 100% selfish interests. They are NOT going to give the gay anything.

That's why I will not, WILL NOT play the game with anyone. Unless all *I* want is to stare.

Older and wiser.

And still bitter about a manipulative piece of shit who played me at work.

That is completely true. It happened to me when I was in middle school; some day we were in the science laboratory and suddenly I felt somebody staring at me, I looked around and there was this cute kid from my class staring, he seemed genuinely curious by me, and I stared back. Something inside of me clicked, even though he was pretty, I had never payed that much attention to him, but after that day I started looking at him...a lot. I think I acted like a crazy stalker sometimes, just staring at him awkwardly. He even realized I did this and at some point said "What the hell are you looking at??" in front of everybody. I just turned my head and looked the other way. Never stared at him again.

Long story short, he pretty much took advantage of another friend of me and always asked him for money, I'm sure that he sensed my friend liked him and he always went to us for money (not big amounts but still); I always said no but my friend did give him everytime.

To this day, I'd say he's bi, 80% str8 and 20% gay. He likes to get attention from anyone but I don't know (or care) if he's been with a guy. He grosses me out now.

 

[undisclosed1234]

In New York City if I'm walking down a street and I pass a really handsome and masculine man, I sometimes will catch the man's eyes meeting mine. I don't stare, I'm simply looking.

Then the straight man places his arm on his girl's back as he walks by. WTF???

Is this a way of making sure I know he's not gay?

One time, I was sitting at a counter in a coffee shop and there was a car sideways in front of me waiting for the light. I looked up and the driver had been very intensely staring at me. So I looked back and he turned his head to look straight ahead and then lifted his left hand to kind of wave the fact that he had a wedding ring on.

I felt like going over to that car and saying to him, "Look, YOU were the one staring at ME. And now you're going to play, I have a wife, I'm straight?

"Straight" guys play so many games. They suck.

Why do they suck exactly?

You're gay. You're staring at them. Clearly you're partly, even if it's superficially, interested because you're frustrated by their reaction. You may think that's not noticeable but it is.

They clearly display they're not gay.

What's the big deal exactly?

It's like your boyfriend/girlfriend kissing you when someone else is checking you out.

You just sound upset because they're straight.

 

[undisclosed1234]

i admit i'm not too experienced in these flirtation head-games, but i wonder: do you think these gestures -- grabbing the gf, flashing the wedding band -- are games they're playing with themselves? to try and reassure themselves they're straight, that they couldn't possibly have strong sexual feelings for a guy?

OR they're straight!

I've never seen a group so eager to overread and analyze than gay folks. it's almost baffling. Threads after threads are the same thing. This guy smiled at me (people smile) my doctor is really nice to me (they have to be)...I know he's married with 12 kids but I'm sure he's interested. Oy.

Life isn't a porno.

Sometimes, hate to break it to you; the guy is just straight. Jesus.

There should be a "He's just not that into you" book for gay people. Seriously.

 

[leomendez93]

OR they're straight!

I've never seen a group so eager to overread and analyze than gay folks. it's almost baffling. Threads after threads are the same thing. This guy smiled at me (people smile) my doctor is really nice to me (they have to be)...I know he's married with 12 kids but I'm sure he's interested. Oy.

Life isn't a porno.

Sometimes, hate to break it to you; the guy is just straight. Jesus.

There should be a "He's just not that into you" book for gay people. Seriously.

You got it man. I am with you on this. Since I first read the first message I said..the guy is straight and the gay party wanted him to be gay because of lust. Too bad..not everyone whose eyes meet ours are gay. Pretty straight and perhaps a SOB if he is just trying to flirt and in his mind saying "you fool! Do you really think I will be changing this gorgeous girl for a man?"

 

[JNewYork]

It's amazing how many people misread my original post.

I never, NEVER, said I was staring at these men!

They were staring at me. Totally checking me out, looking me up and down, in some instances zeroing in on my cock. In the original instance described the guy was as I wrote in my original thread: INTENSELY staring at me.

I simply looked him back in the eye and then he held up his wedding wing. He's the one putting the gay component here, staring at me with lust and creepiness. I simply looked him dead in the eye, as in What are you looking at me for? I'm hardly the one staring at these guys.

Sorry guys, but your comments, which twisted the situation to be me at fault, are illogical or not appropriate to me or my situation or anything that I've written.

I really wish people would read thoroughly before going into catty mode.

I also am disappointed how this post has brought out so much internal homophobia from people. They don't know me from anywhere but they're portraying me as some nelly gay guy hoping for a straight.

I'm disappointed there are so many people (on a gay forum no less) who are looking to demean me with "He's just not that into you girllll." I suggest a lot of people read my original post, and subsequent posts, thoroughly before going into bashing, catty bitch mode.

Sorry, once again, please read my original post and re-read this one. The haters here are way off base.

 

[nafhoosier]

It's amazing how many people misread my original post.

I never, NEVER, said I was staring at these men!

They were staring at me. Totally checking me out, looking me up and down, in some instances zeroing in on my cock.

I simply looked them back in the eye and then they pretend that they are straight by hugging their girl or waving their wedding ring.

Sorry guys, but your comments, which twisted the situation to be me at fault, are illogical or not appropriate to me or my situation or anything that I've written.

I really wish people would read thoroughly before going into catty mode.

I also am intrigued how this post has brought out so much internal homophobia from people. They don't know me from anywhere but they're portraying me as some nelly gay guy hoping for a straight.

Sorry, once again, please read my original post and re-read this one. The haters here are way off base.

Yeah, blah, blah.

I got news for you.

A guy looks at you. Checks you out, up and down. Zeroes in on what you perceive to be your cock.

Two possibilities:

a) He's not actually looking at your package but something else entirely- you are likely imagining that he is or twisting the situation around because you want him to be. Yes, I really think that's what you were doing.

b) He was looking at your package and at you but it was a typical male glance that every straight guy does. Guys size each other up! It has nothing to do with attraction, but mere curiosity and the need for competition.

Sorry bro, but he probably didn't even think about you. Him (and all the other guys) could have put their arm around their girl for millions of reasons.

Many of you guys that are "upset" with straight people are just upset that they're straight and there are no chances of you guys getting with them.

If guys are straight.... they like women! And that's that!

 

[JNewYork]

I'm not going to try and get anyone to understand who does not want to. I think I've stated myself clearly and you or others can either understand it or not.

I will say, however, nik, if you read my post #13, you'd see that I most certainly did mention what you say I did not.

That incident described in #13 happened about 5 years ago and the next incident like that happened this year and is still happening. A guy I work with now is getting married this fall and he can't stop looking at me below my waist.

I guess he's just admiring the fly/zipper in all my various pants? I don't engage him. I pretend I don't notice. I never look at him. If I did, he'd probably mention his fiancee.

Anyway, I've posted a real experience that happens to me.

Nobody needs to believe me, but the level of anger and bitchiness I'm getting from posting the truth is discouraging.

 

[nafhoosier]

I'm not going to try and get anyone to understand who does not want to. I think I've stated myself clearly and you or others can either understand it or not.

I will say, however, nik, if you read my post #13, you'd see that I most certainly did mention what you say I did not.

That incident described in #13 happened about 5 years ago and the next incident like that happened this year and is still happening. A guy I work with now is getting married this fall and he can't stop looking at me below my waist.

I guess he's just admiring the fly/zipper in all my various pants? I don't engage him. I pretend I don't notice. I never look at him. If I did, he'd probably mention his fiancee.

Anyway, I've posted a real experience that happens to me.

Nobody needs to believe me, but the level of anger and bitchiness I'm getting from posting the truth is discouraging.

You probably have a giant boner going on and you don't even notice.

Or MAYBE he likes your pants.

 

[Lefty]

if that many allegedly are staring at your crotch, how come you think they are making meaningful eye contact? maybe your fly is open a lot of the time or you are freeballing in trousers that are opaque and or of to thin a material and the dude thinks your trolling/ advertising so he wants you to know he or the girl he is with are bespoke...amazing what our egos can talk us into thinking isn't it.

no put down here, just projecting alternative possibilities, especialy if it happens as frequently as some are implying.

 

[jeremydugas33]

honestly, i think its a thing of that the guy is gay himself. thats what it usually is. there was this one guy in my 10th grade year that always walked past me on his way home, and i was waiting for my ride to come to the car. every single day for about a month and a half, he would say something like FAG. QUEER. and if he was with a friend, it got even worse. the guy would join along in mocking me. it was horrible. theyd put my name into conversations to mock me. when i was walking behind to get to the car. oh my god. it was horrible. one day he even farted when he was walking by me. it even sounds funny now but it was horrible when it happened. like. thats what he thinks of me. shit. he literally thought of me as shit. i didnt really care what he thought back then but thats what i knew he was thinking. it was ridiculous. i told my brother and my brothers friend that this was happening and they made me feel awesome. they told me they would talk to him if they saw it. it was awesome. but the thing is. i knew him in elementary school, he was a really, really emotional kid and a panzy. im not saying that hes gay cause he was emotional but come on. he turned into a HUGE homophobe and i thinks its because he was gay himself. or is. i dont know. it just pissed me off. and even before i came out of the closet (it ended up getting around the school, which was SO much fun by the way) he said "oh i just hate gays, theyre horrible, dont you?" and him implying i was. god. people like that. there were 50 or more people like that in my school and it was horrible. i got by though. with a little help from my friends and it made me stronger. go us gays. gotta love it. if not? shove it. i dont care.

 

[undisclosed1234]

It's amazing how many people misread my original post.

I never, NEVER, said I was staring at these men!

They were staring at me. Totally checking me out, looking me up and down, in some instances zeroing in on my cock. In the original instance described the guy was as I wrote in my original thread: INTENSELY staring at me.

I simply looked him back in the eye and then he held up his wedding wing. He's the one putting the gay component here, staring at me with lust and creepiness. I simply looked him dead in the eye, as in What are you looking at me for? I'm hardly the one staring at these guys.

Sorry guys, but your comments, which twisted the situation to be me at fault, are illogical or not appropriate to me or my situation or anything that I've written.

I really wish people would read thoroughly before going into catty mode.

I also am disappointed how this post has brought out so much internal homophobia from people. They don't know me from anywhere but they're portraying me as some nelly gay guy hoping for a straight.

I'm disappointed there are so many people (on a gay forum no less) who are looking to demean me with "He's just not that into you girllll." I suggest a lot of people read my original post, and subsequent posts, thoroughly before going into bashing, catty bitch mode.

Sorry, once again, please read my original post and re-read this one. The haters here are way off base.

LOL. Telling you straight people aren't into gay guys is...internal homophobia?

That's the exact same logic everyone is assuming you're carrying in those ''encounters''. That "Gasp! That man is married and displays his ring! How dare he not bring me to the nearest bathroom for a quick handy?!"

Urgh please. You can act outraged all you want but that's exactly what your original post implies. We have the words right there.

The guys might have been looking at you harmlessly, trying to figure out if you're gay or looking at your clothes and then seeing that you're establishing eye-contact, they're telling you they're not on the b-ball team.


P.S. You can't tell that someone is "prolongedly" looking at you...without you yourself prolongedly looking at them. That's not how eyes work!

P.S2. Nik2, let's do the gay community a huge favor and write that book.

 

[JNewYork]

^^ If that did happen (and more than once too!) then these guys cannot be 100% straight. They'd have to be closeted gays/bisexuals. I'm not denying that closeted men probably do this (it would make sense given what they're trying to hide), I'm denying that totally straight men are randomly checking you out in a sexual way.

Now we totally agree. They're not 100% straight. But they are posing as straight with their girlfriends or wives, etc.

Also this doesn't happen frequently but it's happened enough over the years where I saw a definite pattern.

 

[JNewYork]

honestly, i think its a thing of that the guy is gay himself. thats what it usually is. there was this one guy in my 10th grade year...

You know it, man!

You have a healthy attitude, too. Glad it all worked out.

 

[JNewYork]

P.S. You can't tell that someone is "prolongedly" looking at you...without you yourself prolongedly looking at them. That's not how eyes work!

Glad you're not an eye doctor.

Guess you never heard of peripheral vision.

Only a legally blind person needs to look directly at something to see it.

 

[undisclosed1234]

Glad you're not an eye doctor.

Guess you never heard of peripheral vision.

Only a legally blind person needs to look directly at something to see it.

"Out of the corner of my eye, I spotted a lad glancing in my direction for several seconds. His lust for my penis was undeniable I assure you."

That's a much stronger story there.