Have you ever hired an escort?

[nuclear warhead]

If so, how was the experience?
Would you recommend it/do it again?
Why did you decide to pay someone for sex?

I have done so twice, the first time was poor but the second time was fun. I felt a bit seedy about doing it, so if a lot of people do it, I may feel more 'normal'.

 

[Nelson]

If so, how was the experience?
Would you recommend it/do it again?
Why did you decide to pay someone for sex?

I have done so twice, the first time was poor but the second time was fun. I felt a bit seedy about doing it, so if a lot of people do it, I may feel more 'normal'.

Yes with 4 different escorts ! 2 were bad! The other 2 Schorching hot, hung guys - and the sex was fabulous!! Yes I will so do it again if I need to and will recommend to try out a few escort guys - if you are not into hooking up or go through the hassle of that ...

They were beautiful, sexy clean, sweet and very experienced ( Gay pornstars) and made me feel so great about myself. They treated me very nice and kissed and cuddled and wanted to make sure I had a good time. Sadly they live a bit far from me ...

The first time I walked out and looked up to the skies ... and uttered - thank you God! I have seen them both a few times during the last 3 years, where I have not felt like dating and is busy with my carreer.

But now I feel like I am able to connect emotionally with a guy again and will start dating again. So I will not go there again.

Why I chose to pay for IT: I was not able to handle hooking up or dating after I lost my BF. Somehow hooking up - makes me feel empty and sad. Also I knew that these guys were probably not going to call and expect more than I was willing and able to give at the time. And it is affordable - 200-300 dollars pr. hour.
(London prices for male escorts). I don´t regret I tried it. It gave me my confidence back and made me feel great.

 

[undisclosed1234]

No. It's paying for someone to pretend to like you. I can get laid on my own. Not my thing.

 

[lonnie1]

Why are people so hung up about it. He's a professional selling his services. If you need legal advice you'll think nothing about hiring a lawyer or if you're sick, you'll pay a doctor. It's only because someone has beat into your head that selling a sexual encounter is bad that you look down on it. Most of the guys I've met during the years have been extremely nice, intelligent, caring people. There are many of us who because of age or physical appearance can't attract hot looking guys. This is a way to do this without hurting anyone else. The pro gets paid and you enjoy your fantasy. What's the fucking problem?

 

[RationalLunacy]

Why are people so hung up about it. He's a professional selling his services. If you need legal advice you'll think nothing about hiring a lawyer or if you're sick, you'll pay a doctor. It's only because someone has beat into your head that selling a sexual encounter is bad that you look down on it. Most of the guys I've met during the years have been extremely nice, intelligent, caring people. There are many of us who because of age or physical appearance can't attract hot looking guys. This is a way to do this without hurting anyone else. The pro gets paid and you enjoy your fantasy. What's the fucking problem?

Unfortunately, I have yet to find any Amish escort services.

 

[undisclosed1234]

Why are people so hung up about it. He's a professional selling his services. If you need legal advice you'll think nothing about hiring a lawyer or if you're sick, you'll pay a doctor. It's only because someone has beat into your head that selling a sexual encounter is bad that you look down on it. Most of the guys I've met during the years have been extremely nice, intelligent, caring people. There are many of us who because of age or physical appearance can't attract hot looking guys. This is a way to do this without hurting anyone else. The pro gets paid and you enjoy your fantasy. What's the fucking problem?

The "fucking problem" is that some people don't see sex and intimacy as a service the likes of getting a lawyer or a doctor. Or prefer to do those things with whom there's attraction; not transaction (ah, alliteration).

You do; super. You like it; goodie. But to play the outraged/social enlightened card is ridiculous on your part.

 

[Nelson]

Unfortunately, I have yet to find any Amish escort services.

You haven´t looked thouroughly enough then! During "Rumspringa" some Amish Guys do funny things! There is even Amish gay porn!

And Lonnie - I totally agree - As a doctor you are sometimes way further into people´s various "orifices" than most Escort will ever go - And this is considered a high status job!
Good male escorts are every bit as PROFESSIONAL and certainly more fun than colonoscopies!

 

[ronnie_h]

Yes, I do it regularly. I simply don't want any relationship. I had my fair share of relationships, but the time is over. And if I want sex with someone else, I look for a professional. I pay for their time and service and I get what I want. If he's good I'll come back.

 

[lonnie1]

Undisclosed--I'm not playing the "outraged/socially enlightened" card. I'm merely stating a fact that people shouldn't be so hung up on paying for sex. Yes, there can be special, meaningful, unpaid for sexual relationships--but they are rare in the gay world, so stop being so judgmental about others and enjoy what's best for you.
Let others enjoy what's best for them.

 

[undisclosed1234]

Undisclosed--I'm not playing the "outraged/socially enlightened" card. I'm merely stating a fact that people shouldn't be so hung up on paying for sex. Yes, there can be special, meaningful, unpaid for sexual relationships--but they are rare in the gay world, so stop being so judgmental about others and enjoy what's best for you.
Let others enjoy what's best for them.

I repeatedly said that it's your business if you like to spend your money that way. That doesn't mean I personally have to find the idea of escorts hot or the idea anything but slimy (and uh, "unpaid" relationships are anything but rare- in the gay world or the next).

The OP asked; I answered. I don't need to pay someone to pretend to like me and get laid. But for you it seems that anyone that doesn't hire escorts is being judgmental.

 

[SonOfSlobone]

I don't need anybody to "escort" me, but I did hire somebody to have sex with. It wasn't that great, because basically I don't enjoy sex unless the other person wants me as much as I want them. Also I felt rushed, and I likes to take my time...

 

[ericwhitney]

erich whitney here. i'm a gay escort in los angeles and can tell you that some guys hire me and have a great time. they become regulars and are the backbone of my business. other guys don't have such a great time - either because we don't have chemistry or because they have issues that are beyond me (shame or guilt, either about being gay or hiring a pro, chief among them). I have two tips:
1. talk on the phone and exchange several emails to establish some comfort level with your potential rentadate. be sure to communicate special desires or anxieties. (notice that this is very different from the midnight "i'm so horny I'll invite over anyone who can arrive within the next twenty minutes so I can get off and still get a good nights sleep" kind of call.)
2. hire him for the amount of time you really want to spend. If you love a 5 hour caress-fest and hire him for one hour, you are going to feel rushed. If you love a no talking wham bam, then a whole hour is going to feel endless.
3. although you are a horndog and variety is the spice of life and the job of a man is to spread his seed as far and wide as he can, the fact is, sex is better when you've done it a few times with the same person. that also goes for escorts. if you find one you like, don't lose his number.

 

[Joshua_me]

Unfortunately, I have yet to find any Amish escort services.

^ Perhaps the cows have issues.


Once, a *long* time ago, in a drunk and horny moment, I paid for what was essentially a blow job in my hotel room in Vegas. (Talk about room service !)

That young man did things with his tongue that I'd never seen before.

Was it seedy and kind of creepy ? Yeah, kind of... Would I ever do it again ? Never say never...

It's an interesting memory. How 'matter of fact' the whole thing was...

 

[davy]

I've always wanted to get an escort to fuck the guy of my lusty dreams,

but the setup for it takes too long; especially if I'm horny atm

And, yes, there's free sex everywhere but free sex != good sex... And the guys of my dreams usually aren't the ones interested in me.

I'll also never understand why people think that sex trade is wrong. We all prostitute some aspect of ourselves for pay.

 

[Shepherd 2]

The answer for me is NO, I have never ever hired an escort. It has nothing to do with moral questions, I am partnered and have been almost from the beginning of my journey as a gay man.

YES, he is the man of most of my dreams, and I will not do something that jeopardizes our relationship of twenty-five years. And the best thing is I know he loves me and I love him. He is also clean as am I of any STDs and HIV.

I know a good thing when I see it. And for me that is right here at home.

Shep+

 

[GayHunting]

I've thought about it but frankly it's been far too easy to have sex with beautiful men who find me attractive and don't charge me $$$

I've gotten the hookup down to a science. It's now to the point that I can say with a fair amount of certainty that if I started looking now within the hour I could be naked and having fun with a hot guy or 2...

I'll go the escort route whenever it becomes difficult to find what I like for free.

 

[joshz88]

I've never hired an escort before. I used to look at escorts ads online back when I was 18 or 19, before I was out. Since I wasn't out, I didn't know how I could discreetly meet gay men, so I figured paying an escort for sex and discretion was the best option. I exchanged emails with a few escorts, but I never actually ended up setting up an appointment with any of them. Haha, I was always scared they were cops in a sting operation.

 

[NineOfClubs]

Of course not!

But I did spend a night with a "rent boy" in Thailand once....

 

[MyReply]

Nope. I have no moral objection to it...okay, that's a lie...yeah I do (not a severe one, though)...but, for me, I like attracting guys myself. The reality of "he's only having sex with you because you're paying him" would nag at me, and as a result I'd personally feel pitiful. And sex and self-pity is not a road I wanna go down.

But hey, if escorts are your thing, then have at it.

 

[voyager1994]

NO, although the idea crossed my mind once or twice before but never acted on it. I suppose it's not really my thing.