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Having a fake girlfriend

Brijan

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I like how your idea not only affirms but also promotes the value of gay people.

Why bother standing up for ourselves when we can just fake it and go further in life.

I sure am glad that black people don't have any rights and that women can't vote or own property.
 
I agree with Brijan...for more than one thread in JUB currently.
 
No, it has never entered my mind. My dignity, self respect and integrity as a gay man are beyond price. Life is too precious to spend it living a lie. My love for my man is too valuable to deny him in any way.

Could there be risks to live an open and honest life? Yup.
How much are you willing to pay to pretend you are something you aren't?
 
Actually, I would. I'm an economics major and my professors bred me into a rather heartless, logical, do it by the numbers, businessman so I think logically rather than passionately.

Having a beard to go to social galas is required whether gay or straight if you want to be successful in the business world.

Plus, I don't believe that love will ever happen to me...and if it does, I will personally visit a voodoo doctor in New, New Orleans to get rid of it.
 
Well; for many years I had a "Girlfriend" ... No One ever saw her .. and IF things started getting hot and demands were made to see her .. we would "Break Up" ... a day or so the event etc ...
I HAD to do this in order to retain my positions and pay my bills ... I did not like it ; BUT sometimes you have to do things and endure hardships in this life ...
Even now .. while MOST of those who know me .. are aware of my sexual orientation ; there are those that I STILL let think that there is a female in my life now and then ..... BUT; as usual .. we always "Break Up" ....
MY main reason for the continual charade is that IF I came out ; I'd be forbidden to see or have contact with two young guys who love me and respect me very mush. They confide in me all the time and I've even posted about them . BUT the parents , although friends of mine , are very Homophobic . If they even had the slightest clue ... I would not see the boys anymore . The funny thing is that BOTH the boys know and have told me they are OK with this and the one is "Bi" .... LOL. I've posted about his confiding in me etc ..
Yes; it is stressful and dangerous to a degree ..... hopefully, the day will come when I won't have to pretend anymore .... or ... maybe I will just die first ; I don't really know ... BUT for now ... it is what it is .
 
Thank you for reminding me how much self respect I gain the last few years, I know find this idea repugnant. But hey whatever works for you.
 
Ah yes.

My imaginary girlfriend Germaine. She was everything I needed her to be... except corporial, of course.

MAN, was I ever a lame-O back then.
 
(oh, and being gay has never been a detriment to my success in business. I work my ass off, do amazing work and always shine in everything I do. so my orientation - although never a secret - has never been a hindrance to me.)
 
How would you feel about using a girl to shore up your image?
How would you feel about a girl using you to shore up her image?
What would it be like acting like a couple when you're with your family?
What would your family hate you for more: finding out you are gay now or finding out that you lied to them with a fake girlfriend?
How long would you carry on any one fake relationship? What would you do if people started asking questions about moving in together, marriage and kids?
How would you juggle your fake girlfriend with anyone else, should he enter the picture?
When you think of other people who have done this, how much respect do you have for them? How much respect do you think other people who know or suspect have for them?

You're 21. You can still choose to make your life an unstable equilibrium (everything is OK so long as I have my fake girlfriend and everyone believes she's my real girlfriend, but a disaster otherwise) or a stable equilibrium (my career and my relationships are compatible with me being myself). The easiest way of not getting into the unstable equilibrium is by not trying to be something you're not (even if you're not explicitly out, which I'm not either) and finding contexts in which people aren't putting pressure on you to do that. You might want to avoid becoming a football player for a major club or a televangelist.

I don't know about the business world, but I do know the world of knowledge workers with graduate degrees who earn above-average incomes. These people are too smart to care deeply about your private life, and they care about results more than image.
 
Well it would be ridiculously sad if black people got a "White Chicks" like make-over to get by!

Ummm.....I have friends who have women "playing the role" and I think it is sad. How far back in the closet do you want to go?? and what does the woman get out of such a lie?

My friend Barry is blatantly gay, but always (and this has been going on for like 15 years) he introduces me to some woman who is his "fiancee". I just want to die from laughing, but I just say nothing.


Sad!!
 
...............................................................nevermind........................................................
 
The most successful businesspeople I've met through my work have been gay men... two in particular that have been together for 20 years, although no longer dating, still living together as best friends.
 
Soilwork said:
(oh, and being gay has never been a detriment to my success in business. I work my ass off, do amazing work and always shine in everything I do. so my orientation - although never a secret - has never been a hindrance to me.)
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Don't you work for a gay porn company though? It's like a black man not getting far working for the NAACP. Lol
 
I work for a gay porn company NOW.. yes.

I've also worked for many corporate positions in large companies that were comprised almost 100% of straight men from the suburbs and my sexual orientation was never a secret - it was also never a topic of conversation unless it came up. Just because your'e out doesn't mean you need to work it into every conversation.
 
The idea of living in the business world with the rest of my life, and idea of living with a fake wife for the rest of my life...

Both depress me to no end.

If you find me doing either, make it quick, one bullet.
 
If you actually do go further in the business world by conjuring up a "straight lifestyle", you'll go a couple of times further backward in life.

I hope you're not serious, because this only seems to "work" for a short time in witty, twisted Mozartian operas. Then someone gets caught in the mess, there's a little laugh when the truth is revealed and all turns out the way it was supposed to be in the first place. But that's not real life...and it's the 21st century.
 
Perhaps you should put forth more effort in finding a career move where you can be successful, happy AND live a life without charades ... what a novel idea ... #-o
 
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