My friend introduced me to this guy from work and I had a vibe that there was something about him that this guy was trying to reach out. We've been talking to each other almost everyday.
I learned that he's straight, has a girlfriend, and is a good Christian. He's an interesting guy too because he had made himself very comfortable to me. I felt it was not normal for a straight guy to be that touchy. I have a best friend who is straight and it is very clear where the boundaries were but with this new friend I just met, it wasn't clear where he was going with his.
One time for dinner, he brought up if I have a girlfriend or not because my facebook profile doesn't have much information on it. I made it clear that I am not seeing anyone at the moment and I am not sure if it will be a girl... or a boy. I am focusing on find a career first. I wanted to see how he would react. He looked at me and did not respond to what I expected a Christian would react. I asked him to tell me about his girlfriend, what's up with her? He said he wasn't feeling her covering his needs in a relationship. He was thinking about breaking up with her but not yet. She's very busy and I can tell that he is as well. I told him to hang on there and go with the flow, see what happen. I encourage him to try to arrange a fun activity with his girlfriend out of the hectic schedule of theirs. He said he tried but now he is looking to make new friends as well. It was his choice so I respect that and I thought he needed new friends to support him.
A few days later, he was looking for something to do with me. I told him that we could watch a movie at his place since mine was being renovated and my housemate wouldn't like having a guest during the mess. I went over and I noticed several behaviors of his that were odd. He had two couches but he sat right next to me (very closely). I promised myself that I am only interested in him as a friend and nothing more. During the movie, he asked me about my shoe size because it looked bigger than his. I was like.. umm... 10.5, and asked why? He said nothing because mine looked bigger than his shoes....... I was like umm... okay. A couple times during the movie, he would brush his foot against my leg or move about to be a little touchy. Inside, I wanted to ask him why was he all touchy. Then it was getting late, I could drive home but he told me that I had a couple choices, I could sleep on the couch or I could share the bed with him. At that point, I kind of knew that something was up. I told him that it is not about me, it is about him. Is he comfortable sharing the bed with me? I brought up that I am "Bi" to making sure that he knows I like both guys and girls. He said it was okay. We went to bed together but I made myself very clear that I am staying on my side of the bed and that was it.
When we were in bed together, he could not sleep and he wanted me to talk to him... I keep asking him what he wanted to know? he wanted stories from me. I was awkward but wanted to ask him about his sexuality. I told him that it was not normal for a straight guy to allow another male in the same bed. I asked him up front if he is "straight." He said he doesn't know at this point. I told him its okay as I was trying to get his side of the story to figure out what brought us to bed together. He was a little vague and I was too tired to have an in-depth conversation with him. I told him that we could continue this another time, and he said no... I thought he was kidding but we talked a little bit more. I told him that it was getting late and we should sleep. So I sleep to my side. I noticed him brushing against me a couple time. Then he whispered to me "promise me you won't freak out?" I told him "no, what is it?" He asked me "Can I try something with you?" Awkward I was but I asked him what. He leaned toward me and kissed me. I kind of broke my promise with this but I gave in and we kissed. Then we got naked and did everything that was the basic. He was good at it... However, we did not fuck and I am glad we didn't.
In the morning, I was confused to why we did it and everything about him. I asked him if I was his first, and he said yes... This broke another personal rules I have for myself that I do not want to be the first for a sexually confused guy. Also, I was a little worried that he is still in a relationship with a girl because this broke another personal rule that I do not want to become the reason to break up a relationship. He asked me if I was okay.. I told him sort of because I am more concern about him especially the environment he was raised in as a Christian. He said to me that he's an adult and he can handle it, he takes responsibility for his action. Inside of me, I know it wouldn't be that easy. So I respected him and went home and he went to work.
He kept texting me but it was about things in general like how was the day and what I did, etc. But I was at the point where it was too much for me. I told him that night broke a lot of my personal rules and I would like to sit down with him to discuss it. I could not pretend it didn't happen that night. He agreed that it has been bothering him because it broke a lot of his personal rules as well (I am assuming the bible rules). So I am meeting with him soon............ and needing advice...
I am only interested in perserving our friendship because I just met him, however, I wanted to get his perspective on his sexuality and what he was thinking about when he did that. I am very awkward because he is "straight" or maybe he's not... I don't know. I wanted to make sure that this particular activity won't haunt him for years because the bible says he's wrong. I wanted to tell him that its okay, its natural to want to have an intimacy with a male but not while he has a girlfriend. As for myself, it is clear to me that I want a boyfriend soon because of what I did as well. Ahhh... why did he choose me out of all men? I just met him...
I learned that he's straight, has a girlfriend, and is a good Christian. He's an interesting guy too because he had made himself very comfortable to me. I felt it was not normal for a straight guy to be that touchy. I have a best friend who is straight and it is very clear where the boundaries were but with this new friend I just met, it wasn't clear where he was going with his.
One time for dinner, he brought up if I have a girlfriend or not because my facebook profile doesn't have much information on it. I made it clear that I am not seeing anyone at the moment and I am not sure if it will be a girl... or a boy. I am focusing on find a career first. I wanted to see how he would react. He looked at me and did not respond to what I expected a Christian would react. I asked him to tell me about his girlfriend, what's up with her? He said he wasn't feeling her covering his needs in a relationship. He was thinking about breaking up with her but not yet. She's very busy and I can tell that he is as well. I told him to hang on there and go with the flow, see what happen. I encourage him to try to arrange a fun activity with his girlfriend out of the hectic schedule of theirs. He said he tried but now he is looking to make new friends as well. It was his choice so I respect that and I thought he needed new friends to support him.
A few days later, he was looking for something to do with me. I told him that we could watch a movie at his place since mine was being renovated and my housemate wouldn't like having a guest during the mess. I went over and I noticed several behaviors of his that were odd. He had two couches but he sat right next to me (very closely). I promised myself that I am only interested in him as a friend and nothing more. During the movie, he asked me about my shoe size because it looked bigger than his. I was like.. umm... 10.5, and asked why? He said nothing because mine looked bigger than his shoes....... I was like umm... okay. A couple times during the movie, he would brush his foot against my leg or move about to be a little touchy. Inside, I wanted to ask him why was he all touchy. Then it was getting late, I could drive home but he told me that I had a couple choices, I could sleep on the couch or I could share the bed with him. At that point, I kind of knew that something was up. I told him that it is not about me, it is about him. Is he comfortable sharing the bed with me? I brought up that I am "Bi" to making sure that he knows I like both guys and girls. He said it was okay. We went to bed together but I made myself very clear that I am staying on my side of the bed and that was it.
When we were in bed together, he could not sleep and he wanted me to talk to him... I keep asking him what he wanted to know? he wanted stories from me. I was awkward but wanted to ask him about his sexuality. I told him that it was not normal for a straight guy to allow another male in the same bed. I asked him up front if he is "straight." He said he doesn't know at this point. I told him its okay as I was trying to get his side of the story to figure out what brought us to bed together. He was a little vague and I was too tired to have an in-depth conversation with him. I told him that we could continue this another time, and he said no... I thought he was kidding but we talked a little bit more. I told him that it was getting late and we should sleep. So I sleep to my side. I noticed him brushing against me a couple time. Then he whispered to me "promise me you won't freak out?" I told him "no, what is it?" He asked me "Can I try something with you?" Awkward I was but I asked him what. He leaned toward me and kissed me. I kind of broke my promise with this but I gave in and we kissed. Then we got naked and did everything that was the basic. He was good at it... However, we did not fuck and I am glad we didn't.
In the morning, I was confused to why we did it and everything about him. I asked him if I was his first, and he said yes... This broke another personal rules I have for myself that I do not want to be the first for a sexually confused guy. Also, I was a little worried that he is still in a relationship with a girl because this broke another personal rule that I do not want to become the reason to break up a relationship. He asked me if I was okay.. I told him sort of because I am more concern about him especially the environment he was raised in as a Christian. He said to me that he's an adult and he can handle it, he takes responsibility for his action. Inside of me, I know it wouldn't be that easy. So I respected him and went home and he went to work.
He kept texting me but it was about things in general like how was the day and what I did, etc. But I was at the point where it was too much for me. I told him that night broke a lot of my personal rules and I would like to sit down with him to discuss it. I could not pretend it didn't happen that night. He agreed that it has been bothering him because it broke a lot of his personal rules as well (I am assuming the bible rules). So I am meeting with him soon............ and needing advice...
I am only interested in perserving our friendship because I just met him, however, I wanted to get his perspective on his sexuality and what he was thinking about when he did that. I am very awkward because he is "straight" or maybe he's not... I don't know. I wanted to make sure that this particular activity won't haunt him for years because the bible says he's wrong. I wanted to tell him that its okay, its natural to want to have an intimacy with a male but not while he has a girlfriend. As for myself, it is clear to me that I want a boyfriend soon because of what I did as well. Ahhh... why did he choose me out of all men? I just met him...
