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how come people underrate and underappreciate being single?

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Being single it gets boring when you see all your friends and the people around you in relationships. Living in a small town and watching everyone who is mainly straight in and out of relationships and watching my self still single after all these years get depressing and old really fast. It's annoying liking guys who are straight or you know you wont get. Even Jerking off gets boring after a while pull it out and fantasize about a guy your never going to get. If i had a active sex/party life then i would be fine with being single but i don't
 
It certainly has both advantages and disadvantages. But it does really suck around special occasions and holidays; always either being left out or feeling like the odd man out. And getting older while staying single gets more difficult. Family and friends begin to look at you like you have a disease wondering what is wrong with you. Even though deep down they suspect you are gay; but nobody close wants that elephant brought into the room. So the vicious cycle continues. . .
 
USEDCAR said:
Being single it gets boring when you see all your friends and the people around you in relationships. Living in a small town and watching everyone who is mainly straight in and out of relationships and watching my self still single after all these years get depressing and old really fast. It's annoying liking guys who are straight or you know you wont get. Even Jerking off gets boring after a while pull it out and fantasize about a guy your never going to get. If i had a active sex/party life then i would be fine with being single but i don't
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i don't know about this.

you know, this thread was made a week ago. i've had sometime to think but honestly, i still don't see the big deal about being in a relationship though.

with that said, it's kind of annoying how society for that matter pressures people to be in relationships, have sex, and whatever. yeah, it's human nature but i think that it is greatly exaggerated to the point where being single is stigmatized and that being in a relationship will make you happy and make your life much easier. we all know that this isn't true. i used to think that as a teen seeing everyone in relationships or having sex feeling all left out. nowadays, i hear people whining and crying about relationship issues or finding someone who isn't this or that or being obsessed with sex. it's rather annoying.

i'm not going to say that i don't desire sex, hooking up, or getting in a relationship sometimes but when i look at my current self, look at all the things that i can do with myself being single from going anywhere i please with my own time, spending money on myself and choosing to spend money on others when i feel like it and how i'm free, i think it's more worthwhile than having someone who you can love and have sex with. i've never been involved with anyone to say this but i find having to be romantic, tell someone you love them and the whole nine ALL THE TIME or MOST OF THE TIME to be extremely boring and rather forced. not to say that i don't like or love the person but i don't have to say "i love you" all the time for you to know that i feel that way about you. i actually value my space as well. there's days where i don't want to be bothered by anybody whether it's my mother or the mailman. i want to be alone by myself. there's days when i get annoyed, irritated and angry where it's best that i stay away from others because they might catch the ugly side of me that i try to contain. there's days when i feel like being with people, i'm happy and i need company. in other words, i want as much time by myself just like how i spend time with someone. i don't want someone that is clingy and i also don't want to be clingy myself.

i just hope that people understand this though because some people think that that's being anti-social or living life like a hermit or whatever. it's not. it's just me being real.
 
I hate being single until I'm in a relationship...and then I hate being in a relationship...It's truly a vicious cycle for me. But....whatever the case....I really put the topic on a backburner - UNLESS my ex calls me...(we have a very weird weird relationship...seriously)
 
Being single does has its advantages. Relationships are hard work. And since being in college I find it impossible to get romantically involved with all the weekly assignments. I amazed at those who can do so and yet managed to maintain a good result. I realized though some of my classmates who are single has more friends in and out of school but those who are taken usually only always hang out with their b/gfs. Though sometimes I do wish to have that special someone by my side.
 
I don't underestimate being single. I do understand all the advantages that have been mentioned here.

However, I'm tired of being lonely, and sad. Just once, before I die, I'd like to know what it's like to have a relationship. To know what it's like to care about somebody, and to feel cared about. To know the touch of a lover. To have passionate sex. To share life with someone. To want to, and have a reason to, get up in the morning, to go to work, to come home that afternoon. To want to experience life, and it not seem like just another mechanical action.

I know it won't ever happen. It's already too late. I just wish I could have, before death, know what it's like. Just to have some semblance of a "normal" life. Just to feel wanted, just one time...:cry:
 
treanir said:
Because when you're looking for love, there's nothing quite as disheartening as seeing everyone around you pair off while you are left alone.

Because that even when being single is no problem during the day (hell, you might even prefer it), there's a sting of loneliness when you find yourself alone in a bed that should have two people in it.


I don't really care for love or sex at the moment, and yet those two things still bother me.
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^This. If you're happy sleeping all alone at night after your trick or fuckbuddy has left you, then you're happy being single.

That didn't make me happy. I'm a nurturing/relationship kinda guy.
 
how about singe marriage
or marriage single
or marriage multi single
or single multi marriage

there go

lucky fa folk wot eat nature marriage their bits lots ha

thankyou
 
Being single is the best. Otherwise they think they even must control your cock. Everyting in relationships deserves hate: Family-in-law, control, having to act as sounding board for thousands of stupid repetitive stupidities, knowing s(he) is perfectly dangerous, etc, etc, etc,..................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................
 
NaughtyArousal said:
2.) Now that I have been seeing someone, people are all interested and asking me questions and when I talk about the guy, a few of them act way happier about it than I am. I like the guy fine and he makes me very happy, but honestly, by some folks reactions, you would think I went from being a scrap of junk metal magically transformed into a luxury car. Like I was nothing and now I'm something. Really, people? I basically had to remind these fools who I am and that I am the shit single or with someone. Don't act like I was some disfigured, sickly person who just became healed.
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Is it possible they are just happy for you and that you are reading too much into it again? Most people are glad when the people they care about find another person.
 
Maybe that's why they aren't coupled. Desperatetion is not attractive. If you are unhappy as a single person, you will likely be unhappy in a relationship. Baggage, you know.
 
The fact remains: a lot of people are just really fucked up. The only way they can ever feel "whole" is in a relationship. Never stop thanking God, the fates, and the universe for not being one of them.

Lex
 
Because our goal in life is to find a life-partner. Each and everyday it is becoming less important for me to have a relationship.
 
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