How do you find Str8 Acting Gay Men?

[RoBeast]

I need Help,

Im not out of the closet, but want to know where and how do you find other str8 acting gay/bi guys? I'm not interested in Fem acting guys and not confortable going to gay clubs, so where do I look? Please help...

 

[Just_Believe18]

First of all, "str8" is not a word. Please take the time to finish spelling a noun.

Secondly, why would you want someone who is pretending to be heterosexual? If by "straight acting," you mean someone who is closeted and tells everyone he wants a woman, definitely contradicts what you want. In fact, that's probably why you are having such a hard time finding such "straight acting" men.

Before you ask where can you find gay men, you need to analyze your own manliness. There is something wrong if you perceive masculinity to be heterosexually based. Would you call feminine men, "gay acting?" Yet, you yourself have gay feelings towards other men. Does that make you any less of a man? If not, then why are you asking this question?

 

[hotatlboi]

^ he obviously means masculine, not "str8 acting" as you put it. I agree that that term is rather silly when you think about it, but its interchangeably used with 'masculine' by a lot of guys.

 

[spencer]

usually, the interwebs. Write in your profile what you're after.

 

[Telstra]

ok you are looking for:

*manly voice
*less hand movement when talking
*thick eyebrows
*bigger hands and feet
*hard muscles
*maybe abit hairy
*and a nice hard cock when erect.

well it will take alot of time to look for that but i'm very positive you will succeed if you keep on searching and searching .......

 

[rareboy]

I'd suggest coming out of the closet first.

Hang around rodeos. I'm sure there are a lot of guys there who wouldn't mind a furtive, guilty blowjob from another butch guy.

 

[slnattak]

lol You're not out of the closet, won't go to places where you know for sure there's gay men....

There are plenty of gay clubs with all different sorts of guys, btw.

You have to go out there, get over your sissyphobia, and meet some effeminate gay men, in order to find masculine gay men. That's just how it is.

You've already identified what the problem is.

Now you *can* suck some underground manly cock. But to be honest? It's overrated and mostly std-ridden. The best blowjob I ever got was from an effeminate boy. Just because a guy is masculine DOES NOT mean realistically, he's going to be a better lover. Masculinity alone, does not a good lover make. Fantasy is not reality. Please do not confuse the two. Only shitty men do that.

Le sigh. Some gay men never learn...

 

[Seasoned]

It's homophobia keeping you away from some gay men. The entire community has a lot to offer. If nothing else, remember it was the drag queens and the butch fems that began the gay protest movement in 1969. Who knows if there even be a JUB without them? Start meeting all kinds of gay people. You'll have you preferences for potential sex partners, but when you think about it, the queerest of the queer are the bravest of the brave.

 

[LoveIsNow]

I find them obnoxious, conceited, hilarious caricatures of masculinity, and very very boring.

 

[fingers]

Nothing like some sweeping stereotypes to show how "enlightened" some people are.

Some gay and bisexual men are just not into being effeminate. That's who they are. They're not slighting anyone else or hiding anything. They're being who they feel right and comfortable being.

The whole "I'm more of a faggot than you are" thing is just as narrow-minded as the people that mindset condemns.

 

[LoveIsNow]

Some gay and bisexual men are just not into being effeminate. That's who they are. They're not slighting anyone else or hiding anything. They're being who they feel right and comfortable being.

And there are a few of us who don't find that attractive. There's nothing wrong with that either.

 

[pwrbarboy]

Nothing like some sweeping stereotypes to show how "enlightened" some people are.

Some gay and bisexual men are just not into being effeminate. That's who they are. They're not slighting anyone else or hiding anything. They're being who they feel right and comfortable being.

The whole "I'm more of a faggot than you are" thing is just as narrow-minded as the people that mindset condemns.

I agree with you 100%.

 

[pwrbarboy]

And there are a few of us who don't find that attractive. There's nothing wrong with that either.

You find it necessary to describe them as "obnoxious, conceited, hilarious"? If you don't find someone attractive, why don't you just move on? Why do you feel it's necessary to run them down?

 

[LoveIsNow]

You find it necessary to describe them as "obnoxious, conceited, hilarious"? If you don't find someone attractive, why don't you just move on? Why do you feel it's necessary to run them down?

I wouldn't call that running them down, that's just the ways I find them unattractive. I'm sure a lot of people feel similarly about effeminate men.

 

[pwrbarboy]

I wouldn't call that running them down

Try saying it to their face. See how they react.

I'm sure a lot of people feel similarly about effeminate men.

True, if they're also narrow minded.

 

[gaultierfnd2007]

You find it necessary to describe them as "obnoxious, conceited, hilarious"? If you don't find someone attractive, why don't you just move on? Why do you feel it's necessary to run them down?

But alot straigh acting and bi guys feel the need to run many of us down. I agree masculinity shouldn't be associated with heterosexuality but at the same time so many masculine men are hyper masculine and condescending when it comes to effeminate men. You can't deny that they are trying to prove something.

 

[LoveIsNow]

Try saying it to their face. See how they react.

I do, and they just let out a little grumble, sit with their legs all wide, and ignore.

I'm sorry if it offends you, but I think that people who adopt aggressively masculine or feminine personas are trapping themselves. If people lived freely, they would find that they have characteristics of both the same and opposite genders, and would realize that that's good. I think both excessively masculine and feminine men are at least to a degree doing so because they're worried about other people's perceptions. Effeminate men playing to the stereotype of how gay men should act, and hyper-masculine men, trying to avoid it at all costs.

 

[gaultierfnd2007]

Poor Robeast he had an actual question and it got turned into another debate about femme vs masc.

 

[TX-Beau]

Nothing like some sweeping stereotypes to show how "enlightened" some people are.

Some gay and bisexual men are just not into being effeminate. That's who they are. They're not slighting anyone else or hiding anything. They're being who they feel right and comfortable being.

The whole "I'm more of a faggot than you are" thing is just as narrow-minded as the people that mindset condemns.

Oh please, gay men who pretend they're straight obviously have issues. You suck cock, you fuck guys you're not straight acting, you're gay acting, just as gay acting as the frilliest drag queen who also sucks cock, and fucks guys.

What straight acting really means is that you don't want to be associated with anything gay, that you want people to know that you're not one of THOSE fags.

Masculine and straight acting are not the same thing, one is a gay guy who's being himself, the other is a scared little fag with self acceptance issues. Guys who call themselves straight acting are pretty much just in another kind of drag, and a sad kind at that.

 

[USEDCAR]

So masculine men are really fakers?

I am another one who is turned off by effeminate guys.They come off too much as a women imo into make up fashion etc. Imo it just seems like a lot of Fem guys are over doing it with their act most of them seem like they want to be a woman. Its nice to see that your gay and proud but u don't have to be like that especially that guy on Lyra banks top model.