How do you know if he's gay, straight, or bi?

[peetie75]

sorry i haven't posted anything yet......but, i haven't asked him yet......i still feel a little weird......i forgot to tell u guys that he works at the gym, so if he says no im gonna be seeing him around everytime i work out there......LoL.......so i dunno if i wanna risk that......

what's wrong w/ asking to go out for drinks (and get drunk) w/ ur friends?? that seems innocent... and u can take it from there... and if u don't think its going well, u can alwys pull out.... and if it goes well... you can take it to the next level... however u want... becuz ur in control.......

 

[BreezyBoy]

If I believed that anything the author of this thread was saying was true, then my suggestion would be simply to walk up behind him while he's on the Stairmaster and plow him in the ass. If he enjoys it, great - you have the answer you wanted.

If, on the other hand, he beats you into a bloody pulp with the nearest barbell, perhaps it's time to stop trying to seduce him.

 

[SkTr83PmP]

ya.....he gave another lame excuse so i guess it's time to move on.....oh well.........=(

 

[CGHJ]

Well, at least you had the balls to ask, I'm proud of you dude. Yes, he gave of all the signals. Just enjoy the flirting, and the view.

 

[digdug1]

He has done gay porn before, and has a girlfriend. His bi. After working out, just take him back to your place and bone!

 

[SkTr83PmP]

ya.....i was so sure he's bi.....but i dunno anymore.....i mean i think he's still hott.........im kinda embarrassed to go to the gym now cause i know we'll have that awkwardness towards each other......or maybe he didn't wanna go out drinking with me cause he didn't know anyone that was gonna be there..........

 

[blooeyz]

maybe he doesn't want to cheat on his girl friend.
He knows you are interested, leave it at that
Men are like buses, there's a new one coming around every 10 minutes
Remember that

 

[SkTr83PmP]

so do u think i should just let it go or give it another try?.........LoL.........cause he still checks me out every so often.........

 

[mumpy000]

let it go... he is just teasing u, its game to him. he enjoys playing u around his little finger. even if he is secretly interested in you, u already made the necessary moves and he is not responding. so he's most likely not gonna act on it. well since the ball's in his court, theres nothing u can do but to let it go.

 

[peetie75]

Its time to let it go!! You've given it your best shot (...??? whatever that was!).... now it's time to move on!!

Give it up…..and let it go …permanently!!!…whether you think he’s interested or not… whether he’s “CHECKING YOU OUT” or not….forget this fantasy…. and your imagination with this (and him!!) .. let go of this fixation!!!… regardless of your interest or his GAMES!!

Come back to the real world and REALITY!!!! there are other fish in the sea (oh.. how trite!!)... and other fish to fry!! …especially those that are interested in you…so..go out and find somebody who is interested and interesting.

You’re wasting too much time on this!!…when you should be out… and about!!!

 

[Frafilippolippi]

I've read in several places that "true"(sexual arousal for both genders) bisexuality exists in women, but not in men. "Bisexual" men, almost invariably, are gay men in the closet or straight men who are not really attracted to males, but will have sex with any warm body for the release. One of the two.

PLEASE... won't this myth just die already?

This is the bi & straight forum. There are enough bi guys on this forum that we shouldn't have to CONVINCE YOU OF OUR SEXUALITY!!!! As I always say, spend a day in my head and all of your doubts about bi guys will disappear.


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[Frafilippolippi]

Now that sounds more like it! But only a day?

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[Frafilippolippi]

Mercy! Is it hot in here?

Anyway, back to the matter at hand. I think this guy is either cruel or oblivious. Either way, move on. Easier said than done, true, but don't waste any more time on him.

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[soccerstud]

Just went through it with a coworker and ended up hooking up when his girlfriend was out of town. Invited him to the beach and then went back to his place for another beer. Standing there in low hanging board shorts and no shirts--I commented about his body and how his workouts were showing. We had seen each other naked tons as we workout at the same company sponsored gym. He smiled and said that he wished his body was more like mine in terms of the six packs. I put my hand on his abs and pinched a bit of skin and stressed that it was diet and abwork. He smiled as my hand lingered and his felt my six pack. I smiled and looked into his eyes as I moved in for the kiss. Next thing I know my mouth is trailing down his neck, pecs, abs, trail, pubes, and his board shorts dropped as my mouth took his cock. I finished by fucking his virgin ass and we continue to hook up even though his girlfriend is back in town. He said it was his first time to get fucked and he liked it.

The bottom line is that I knew he was bi when he started to suck my cock.

 

[SkTr83PmP]

ya........i guess he is a prick........oh well.........

 

[RyanJ]

Okay, I'm no expert but I do see similarities with what I went through. Especially the part where you say when you ignore him he tries harder to get your attention. My coworker probably had esteem issues as he was playing this game with a lot of other people. (That broke my heart.) Prepare yourself for the possibility that this dude does this with a lot of people. It's his sexual outlet. Okay, enough of my lecturing. Now here's how to proceed. And remember this is coming from somebody who FAILED at getting the guy who stared at my cock for 2 years.

I will suggest you continue playing along.

But get a little bolder. Maybe have him see you staring at his cock for a long time. Talk to him about non-sexual things to. This will keep the 2 of you connected at the gym.

Does he like basketball? Suggest one on one. Does he like raquetball? Suggest a game. Does he like the bike riding? Suggest a country bike ride one Saturday.

Whatever machine he's on, get on the one next to him. Talk to him.

When does he leave? Talk to him in the parking lot. You already know he's got a thing for you. He knows you got a thing for him. So be bold.

I wish I knew why guys come on to us and then run when we respond. But they do. They seem to do this a lot. If you can get this guy, more power to ya. I wish you luck.

Let me know how it goes! Also, since you know he did gay porn, you can be bold with him.

Why not say something like: Dude, I know you're busy with your girl and all, but if ya ever wanna hang some night, give me a call. we'll go pub crawling or something.

then give him your cell number. Good luck. But don't get your heart too involved. My coworker broke my heart and it took me 2 years to heal.

Wow, I'm kinda going through the same thing, at my gym. Except I'm an employee and the other person is a member.

 

[SkTr83PmP]

nice......do u have a pic of him?.......what are his stats?

 

[ABS5555]

You've established that there's interest on your part...He's probably not taking the initiative because you have...It's been my experience with guys and girls that if you show them that you're into them and then back off hardcore, they'll come running to you begging for you to take them...If he doesn't do this then he's just playing games...Let it ride out and if it happens, cool, if not then you tried and at least you can rub one out to his porn!

 

[SkTr83PmP]

well, i don't see this guy around anymore so i guess he quit or got fired or something.....oh well........i saw his porn DVD tho.......and it's pretty hott............he looked like he enjoyed sucking the other guy's dick............

 

[dalton41]

I've been going through this too with a co worker and it's working out to be very positive. The guy is 40 years old and I know that he is not naive or stupid but I had several incidents where I hugged him and said I loved him and last weekend, I kissed him on the forehead. I still don't know if he is bi or gay.

But here's where I'm freaking out, we are going to New York together for the weekend. I don't know what will happen on our first night but he'll have to initiate the first move.

Just a follow up on our first trip to New York with my friend. Sexually, nothing happened even though we shared the same bed. But we absolutely had a great time. I hugged him every morning before we headed out. And we did some serious talking as well.

I told him that I didn't think that he was naive or stupid and that he didn't know what was going on and I explained to him that when I said "I love you", I meant every word of it. I was emotional. He told me he wasn't ready for a relationship yet and I told him that I understood because I want everything to be right for the two of us.

Is he gay, bi or straight? Now that is a good question since he really didn't specify one way or the other. Odds are great that he is bi. He loves me as much as I love him and I know that now.