How do you know?

[Riverrick]

Our first date was to "Red Lobster" and we went to watch "The Covenet" a great movie! OH YEAH...my Hummer came in today (it was early!) and I already almost wrecked it So how was everyones day?

Yeah, I saw "the Covenant" this weekend. A LOT of eye candy! You guys must have been digging it! Did he hold your hand?

Listen, I don't trust you with that damn Hummer. I'm going to get Soil to come over here and give you what for if you aren't more careful. Understand???

Kids these days!

 

[Riverrick]

Yes actually he did hold my hand!

That's so Sweeeeet! How did I know that? 'Cause that's the best part of going to a movie with someone you like!

Let's see, why don't I trust you with the Hummer?

my Hummer came in today (it was early!) and I already almost wrecked it...

When I had my Hummer (before I wrecked it)....

Oh, I don't know. Just a feeling...

 

[Roland00]

OH YEAH...my Hummer came in today (it was early!) and I already almost wrecked it So how was everyones day?

Don't you dare wreck your hummer hummers are beautiful pieces of machinery and should be treated with respect. If you need someone to take care of the hummer till you learn the ropes of queer dating, I am avaliable

at all the rest of the date

 

[jockboy01]

congrats on the date its just me!!! that's great!! As to hummer's, I'm fully against them. You can't see a damn thing around them if you're behind one. But I'm more into fast sporty cars than big blocks of muscle anyway.

 

[Riverrick]

So, how's life on campus going, Its_just_ me? How's the Hummer? Any more dates?

Just checking in.

 

[Just_Believe18]

Wow, interesting developments. Especially being able to order a Hummer just like that lol.

 

[Riverrick]

Gaydar. You know. That sixth sense you develop that tells you if someone is gay. You just turn it on and Sweeeeep the room with it.

And Bingo! The gay guys stand out like lightening bugs!

Why, how have you been doing it?

 

[Riverrick]

Ok I need help again. I have fallen for a guy who is not my boyfriend...and he is straight. Oh yeah and he will not speak to me. What do I do? Why in the hell does this always happen to me?

Sigh!

OK, what does "fallen" mean? Since we know your recent history, this crush of yours couldn't have been going on too long...right? Or is the "old" crush of yours, the other straight guy from before you were outed?

Seriously, this kind of thing is going to happen. It won't be the last time that a nice straight guy catches your fancy. You know what you have to do. Move on. Leave him behind. Stop obsessing about him and stop looking at him, keep out of his life. There's nothing there for you except heartbreak. I'm sorry!

And by the way, you have a boyfriend? Hang in there pal!

 

[jockboy01]

I would say the answer here is simple... move on. No use wanting a guy you can't have and that doesn't want you back. And I agree with the bf question. Do you have one?

 

[Riverrick]

Listen, falling for a straight guy is a normal risk in a college setting for a gay guy. The straight guys are very handsome, very nice, often sweet guys who have a lot going for them.

If you see a guy you're attracted to and you determine that he is straight, give up the fantasy immediately. Don't take it any further. Otherwise you end up in this situation.

I'm really sorry buddy but its another one of those "learning experiences" for you it seems.

 

[Kulindahr]

Riverrick has one thing right in the bullseye: don't fantasize about straight guys! They'll never be a bf, a sex buddy, or any such thing -- unless they're good friends who love blow jobs and don't mind getting some from a guy... which happens every once in a while. Fantasies warp your expectations, and that just makes things worse.

As for forgetting him, there's always the drastic measure of a weekend at a bath house getting him out of your system by getting it on with every cute guy who will have you.....
or maybe not.

 

[Riverrick]

Hey, Matthew. Sorry you're still struggling about this guy.

Its time to give it up, though. Its just making you miserable. Read all of the threads about getting over someone. Stop looking at him, get rid of any reminders, stop talking to him, etc. You will feel lonely when you do this but it will lessen over time. And eventually you'll enjoy your dating more.

 

[Roland00]

What happened, and is this the same boy you went out on a date earlier?

 

[Roland00]

I told you, you needed to send me your hummer

So whatever happened to the last guy, and is this new guy cute?

 

[Riverrick]

MATTHEW!!! I think you need to stop driving! I'm serious.

I don't know how you can afford the insurance. Your rates must be through the roof.

I hope you handle your new boyfriend with more care than you did your Hummer.

 

[Riverrick]

ITS NOT MY FAULT. Ok yeah it is but still... Oh I dont pay my insurance my brother does! Trust me I will handel my boy friend with much more care.

I think I'm going to go lay down now. Its been a looong day.

 

[Roland00]

so what happened with the last boyfriend

and you still haven't answered the other question, is your new boyfriend cute?

 

[JackFTwist]

I have no problem telling him im gay, i just dont want him to flip out, and not want to talk to me any more... do you know what i mean?

oh yeah, I know what you mean

there are ways to mention it casually in conversation - just keep talking about something different after you drop that bon mot - and he will give you the answer you want to know, probably, because you have not said it in a come on way that freaks out straight guys

 

[Riverrick]

Um....Why are you on crutches???

Don't tell me its from the Hummer and that you really did wreck it. Did you?

 

[Roland00]

Well there are some advantages of a Hummer vs a Prius, you will pay twice as much in hospital bills with the Prius

Sorry about the last boyfriend, glad you rebounded and caught a new one quickly