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On Topic Discussion How do you see yourself?

I'm a good guy, and a loyal guy, and I rule at dissecting the big picture into lots of smaller pictures which I can still see in minute detail.

I am a brilliant Devil's Advocate, much to everyone else's annoyance. Semi-related, I have been known to stir the shit on unnecessary occasions.

I get cranky with things which don't do what they say on the box. I get annoyed when I can't find a box for other things and I don't know what to expect from them.

Everything else is subject to fluctuation.

-d-
 
When I was doing my masters, we had to take an 8 week psychology course that was both classroom and one-on-one with the psychologist. I am not a big believer in psychology, but what he said to me was revealing. He wrote that I was warm and friendly but aloof. He said I was more likely to let others speak than to speak, quiet but secretive. He knew I was gay and in a relationship. He talked to me about sleep disruption. I told him I slept fine. He asked if it had always been so and I told him I doubted I ever slept through the night once in my entire childhood. He said that was common for children of abuse. We had discussed my parents abusive natures, but when he asked if I had ever been sexually abused, I told him no. Of the few people who had asked me that question, I always said no. He didn't press the issue and I don't think he believed me. He was very perceptive, even wise.
I have to say he nailed me with his assessment.

When you ask how I see myself, I would say I see myself differently today than my teen years or my young adult years. I think most of us do. But even now I see myself as very private and slow to trust others. When I do, it's forever...the same with love and friendship. I would never see myself by what I do for a living, but in the last 5 years, I have begun a new phase in my career that is changing that.
 
I am a gourmand. I can tell you what is right or wrong with a dish or a menu.

I'm not a gourmand.

I can only tell you what I think a dish is like.

I may subsequently tell you whether I personally like that sort of thing, or not.

Your enjoyment is your business.
 
It doesn't take an advanced degree to recognize that gourmet, gourmand, epicure, chef, and similar terms have overlap.

The glutton connotative meaning of gourmand has faded over the years. Still, it is an obvious link that the one who enjoys fine food, too much, is also among those able to discriminate among more and less successful pairings.

More interesting is your decision to take a thread devoted to how we see ourselves to begin commenting on others. Out of 30 posts, you are the only to decide to be confrontational to another about his self-perception.

Classic JUB, sadly.

I have lots of special insight and expertise in this department. I was merely applying it to your case because it struck me as such a preposterous expression of ego. What self-importance! A "gourmand"! I've worked daily for over 25 years in food and service in one of the most competitive sectors in the U.S., and have yet to arrive at the egomaniacal, congratulatory conclusion that I'm a "gourmand."

I suggest a reality check. If you think you enjoy qualifications to decide, as you've said, whether a dish or menu "is right or wrong" you may want to re-visit exactly what those QUALIFACATIONS are?

If it bothers you that I've challenged your "self-perception," (out of 30 whole posts) too bad. Make 90 more. I'll challenge your judgmental ego again.
 
I see myself as Jesus who isn't always happy with this world but will leave an eternal legacy. All you whores will know my mark on humanity.
 
I know what people like to eat and why

Me too. :lol: (Except, only sometimes.)

My guests at dinner discuss what they enjoy. To read my post about analyzing food and to feel compelled to rebut it is a miscreant thought.

I thought you taught English?

My point is that I know why something works or doesn't as a successful or failing dish. Most people I have met cannot describe WHY they like or dislike dishes.

Oh, that you can express your opinion means that your opinion is correct. Yeah, that makes sense. :roll: Except that it doesn't.

My self-perception isn't up for grabs or re-evaluation because you don't like it. What bothers me remains what I stated, your ugliness of spirit.

My "ugliness in spirit"? Really? Wow.

This is some LOW shit.

What you call "challenge" is what the rest of us call "attack" without the pretense of neutrality or truth or clarification. My food post harmed no one here, yet offended you to the point of eliciting an attack. Malevolent much?

No. My opinion was based in my most truthful understanding, even if it seemed difficult for you to hear.

Your malice is gratuitous, and thankfully, the exception in this thread. Flame on, as it apparently is how you see yourself. Very sad indeed.

Naw. You're being crazy. Stop it.
 
I enjoy both zoltan and deja's points of view here at JUB... but damn!! This is like Superman vs Batman or something Clash of the Titans-esque. Too bad it's over something so petty.
 
The answer to this question is very complicated. I try to be a good person.
 
Don't be a douchbag zoltan. That's how déjà perceives himself, no need to tear him down. Why don't you contribute to the thread instead.
 
Self-aware stardust

How fabulous is that!
 
I have seen myself as a loser and a guy who has never gotten a break. Ive lived / wasted much of my life believing I would one day kill myself. As a result, life has past me by. Im trying to change my thinking regarding that. I really dont know if I could kill myself (after my mom had die, to spare her the grief). FDor the record, I am not suicidal.

Im a kind guy and I go out of my way (to a fault) to help others. Ive learned this is called 'the caregiver'. I dont think that I am trying to win friends in the process. For example, I spent an hour going through the game GTA 5 because I had started a thread about it. I was going to make a video to give those who have never seen it an idea of what it is about. I ended up not using the video. I made a briefer video instead.

Although I have had some bad things happen to me (mostly in high school), I do wonder why my self esteem is so low. I dont have friends because I think "who would want to be friends with me". But I also like doing what I want, when I want.

Im 48 and I have no viable means to make a living because of anxiety attacks I have had for many many years. Its not something that I am proud of. Because of my suicidal ideation, I never accomplished much in my life because I figured "why bother, Im only going to kill myself one day anyways". As a result, I have let life pass me by.

I have abilities relating to computers but I have not had any way to put them to use because my anxiety has been a problem. I sweat excessively when I have anxiety

Ive been overweight for many years but Ive just started working out because I really am tired of being over weight. People look at you different. Ive lost 5 lbs. 35 more to go. As a result, I dont really want to be with anyone sexually because of my weight but also because I just find it easier to jack off myself and be done with it. Sex with someone else is a very low priority for me.

My mom is 86? and I would like to do something to make her proud of me but I dont know what. I have no goals, dreams, or ambitions. I feel useless and I am just living day to day
 
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