How important is it that your boyfriend have the same music tastes as you?

[altlover85]

I'm just wondering how important it is or (would be if you were in a relationship) for your boyfriend or girlfriend to have the same music tastes as you?

For me, I don't care if we don't have the same tastes, but he has to be open to listening to my kind of music. I would also be open to listening to his type of music as well.

What about you guys?

 

[Beachguyj]

I don't like to listen to music that I don't like. I hate country music the most. It would not be a deal breaker for me, if he's a great guy I could tolerate any music. I like quiet in the morning and if he had to blast music in the morning that would be a problem.

 

[altlover85]

Well you know, I'm a composer and as such, what I write is an inherent part of who I am. It's the voice of my inner man so-to-speak, so, it would be nice if a potential actually likes what I write.

As some of you know, I was married to a woman for ten years and much to my dismay, within the first year, she told me that she didn't like artsy fartsy people.

I even destroyed muisc tapes of origianl material as "proof" that the "music" wouldn't come before the relationship.

Needless to say, things didn't work out; and I GOT married to a woman because I was trying awfully hard to be ex-gay, before ex-gay became a buzz word.

I never cheated on her, though, that didn't stop her from doing so. Understandably as I couldn't really give her what she wanted, Ariel notwithstanding.

So, all that to say, yes, it's SOMEwhat important.

I would think if it was your music that would make it even more important for the other person to be open-minded. Even if I didn't like it, I think it would be cool to hear my boyfriend's music, simply because he made it. In fact, I'd probably find it harder to dislike it if it were my boyfriend's music.

 

[FPNY]

my other half is classical all the way, I'm not. I enjoy pop music, some country, retro disco etc. I listen to his music and he listens to mine, no biggie at all.

 

[altlover85]

Eh.

We would listen to music together?

I do. Usually it's either a CD or my iPod in his car, or we'll listen to music on Pandora through streaming radio on the TV. Obviously there are plenty of times when I'll listen to my iPod alone, but I like being able to share with him the things that speak to me.

^ Well, it's not been much of a draw. Nor has the piano playing.

Which just goes to show that talent has nothing to do with anything in terms of relationships.

I'm sure there's guys out there that would love to hear your music.

As far as talent goes, I could see it getting in the way if you were both in the arts and one of you felt that the other one was more talented than the other.

 

[DigitalFudge]

My friends don't even listen to the music I do.


I really don't give a fuck

I can listen to any kind of music

It is all great to me


I like me some metal, Rap, New age, German Underground industrial techno...

I really am starting to enjoy country/Folk


Just press play.

 

[altlover85]

^Yea, it's funny cause this is something I care so little about, I've just never thought about. I'm so used to listening to music privately, always being out of the house, never in a car, and always living with roommates.

Were I dating someone with a different taste in music, I just wouldn't listen to any with him/her.

I think that's a big part of it. If I lived somewhere where we didn't need to drive to get from place to place it would be less of an issue. That said, it would be fun to be into the same music and go to concerts together and stuff.

 

[DigitalFudge]

I think that's a big part of it. If I lived somewhere where we didn't need to drive to get from place to place it would be less of an issue. That said, it would be fun to be into the same music and go to concerts together and stuff.

If I told you I have never been to a concert before, would you hold it against me?


BUT

I see where if your life was 100% ruled by music you need someone who compliments that. You are either a mega fan (personally how someone could love music more than me is a shocker) or a muscician yourself. I get that. Although even with that scenario I expect someone to be more understanding and appreciating of all types of music


Not the typical, predictable and cliche


YOUR BAND SUX. LOL POP MUSIC IZ 4 FAGS

Edit: Fuck Miaki... You ninja posted your ass off just now. Skills.

 

[Willie Boy]

My partner and I have been together 5, nearly 6 years now. He loves listening to that Justin Bieber kid. I can't stand him. Guess we'll have to break up.

 

[altlover85]

He doesn't have to like what I like. We don't share the exact same tastes and he's pretty generous about what I play in his car, but as soon as I can tell he doesn't like a song I'll turn it off.

He has grown to like a lot of the stuff I've introduced him to, though. Which is pretty cool.

ps. Music is very, very important to me. I listened to it a lot during the day.

We don't have the same tastes generally, but I'll listen to his stuff and he listens to mine, so it works.

My ex would only listen to his stuff in the car and it got to be annoying after a while.

If I told you I have never been to a concert before, would you hold it against me?

Not at all. I've only been to three myself.

I've been to one, maybe two concerts in my life. I'm never really psyched about being close to a celebrity, so I can't imagine it would feel much different hearing it "live."

To me a concert isn't just about seeing the band, but also about being surrounded by a lot of people who are into the band or artist as much as you are.

My partner and I have been together 5, nearly 6 years now. He loves listening to that Justin Bieber kid. I can't stand him. Guess we'll have to break up.

It's not a big deal as long as you are both open to listening to new things, IMO.

 

[Willie Boy]

It's not a big deal as long as you are both open to listening to new things, IMO.

Wow, you have no understanding of sarcasm.

 

[altlover85]

Wow, you have no understanding of sarcasm.

You're right! I have no understanding of sarcasm at all. I'm glad you were there to tell me that.

In all seriousness, I was making a general point and wasn't sure if you were being sarcastic or not, nor did I care very much.

 

[Lord Booticus]

Not the exact same taste in music. That'd be creepy if I found a guy who liked every song and artist I liked. But it is important for our joy of rock/metal/alternative/indy to be alligned. That way they would be no need for arguements when it comes to deciding on nights out.

Not that I really go out much these days due to people moving away and going out as a threesom seems a bit pointless. But on those occassions when there be clubbing to be had it'd be nice to not only not have to discuss/argue it'd also be nice to share the night out while both enjoying ourselves. Be also nice to have that part of my life to share and talk about with my boyfriend and can go to concerts together =D.

 

[Ninja108]

NOt much, as we both have ipads to help us with the Road Trips.

 

[Willie Boy]

You're right! I have no understanding of sarcasm at all. I'm glad you were there to tell me that.

In all seriousness, I was making a general point and wasn't sure if you were being sarcastic or not, nor did I care very much.

You cared enough to post a response. But you completely missed the point my sarcasm was making. Even the suggestion of breaking up over something as trivial as enjoying different types of music is quite absurd. If you're at that point, there are definitely bigger problems in the relationship.

This question is as ridiculous as another one floating around JUB. You know, that one making an issue of "straight, white" parents adopting a "black" child. It seems there are too many people here on JUB who are just too shallow to see beyond the surface.

 

[mbamike]

Not important at all. It is all about compromise.

 

[hylas]

not at all.

 

[altlover85]

You cared enough to post a response. But you completely missed the point my sarcasm was making. Even the suggestion of breaking up over something as trivial as enjoying different types of music is quite absurd. If you're at that point, there are definitely bigger problems in the relationship.

This question is as ridiculous as another one floating around JUB. You know, that one making an issue of "straight, white" parents adopting a "black" child. It seems there are too many people here on JUB who are just too shallow to see beyond the surface.

I'm not sure how many people would break up because of liking different types of music. I would break up with someone if we liked different types of music and he wouldn't allow me to listen to my own music once in a while because to me, that's controlling. It's likely that there would be other issues as well and that the primary issue would be that he is controlling and not that we have different tastes in music.

As to missing your sarcasm, I already addressed that.

 

[Willie Boy]

You cared enough to post a response. But you completely missed the point my sarcasm was making. Even the suggestion of breaking up over something as trivial as enjoying different types of music is quite absurd. If you're at that point, there are definitely bigger problems in the relationship.

I'm not sure how many people would break up because of liking different types of music. I would break up with someone if we liked different types of music and he wouldn't allow me to listen to my own music once in a while because to me, that's controlling. It's likely that there would be other issues as well and that the primary issue would be that he is controlling and not that we have different tastes in music.

There-in lies the point. You wouldn't break up with him because he liked different music, but because he was controlling.

you completely missed the point my sarcasm was making

As to missing your sarcasm, I already addressed that.

If you read (and COMPREHEND) you will notice I did not say you missed my sarcasm, but the point of it. Which if you look at the rest of your quoted post you actually said the same basic thing I was getting at, but you didn't even understand what you were saying.

Take the time to make sure you are truly understanding what you read (and post). I see you in many threads trying to argue with people when your post actually proves exactly what they are telling you.

 

[altlover85]

There-in lies the point. You wouldn't break up with him because he liked different music, but because he was controlling.


If you read (and COMPREHEND) you will notice I did not say you missed my sarcasm, but the point of it. Which if you look at the rest of your quoted post you actually said the same basic thing I was getting at, but you didn't even understand what you were saying.

Take the time to make sure you are truly understanding what you read (and post). I see you in many threads trying to argue with people when your post actually proves exactly what they are telling you.

In your initial response to my post you said I have no understanding of sarcasm. I fail to see how that's not equivalent to not understanding sarcasm.

When I read your initial post, I wasn't sure if you were being sarcastic or not. If you were being serious, which is how I took your initial Beiber post, I think my point was correct.