How important is it that your boyfriend have the same music tastes as you?

[Willie Boy]

a trip...



Country Heavy Metal?

Does that even exist!?

A giant steel guitar maybe?

 

[GamerBear]

Me and the boyfriend almost have the same tastes he introduced me to more Rock music and I introduced him to R&B and Dance music, he's not too into the Dance music but he loves R&B now.

 

[RomanZolanskii]

No, it's not important. It's stupid. If having the same taste in music was important to me, I wouldn't have any friends.

 

[The_Reaper]

My boyfriend probably hates about 75%, if not more, of my music...

On the inverse, I probably hate about the same amount of his music.

We don't really listen to music together, so it's not really a problem. As such, I don't think similar music taste is that important in a relationship.

 

[Willie Boy]

Seems like the consensus is that it really doesn't matter.

 

[silosybin]

i would prefer it if we had similar tastes, but as long as we can stand each other's music it won't be a big deal

 

[JUB]

I think it is important but I'm very passionate about music.

 

[Wisco-]

[ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyv4bPwUJws[/ame]

 

[MMMonsterBoy]

I am very diverse in music. I like a lot of different types of music, so it wouldn't be too hard to find a guy whose taste is far from mine or vice versa.

All I ask is that he not talk down on the lady in front of me

 

[gdude30]

Really thought provoking question.

As someone who is affected by music extremely I have a mixed answer.

I'll start off with this though. I don't think I'd date someone who played music I really dislike and loud all the time. Did not say that I won't date them even if they love music I hate it's how much and loud they play it that's a factor.

I met someone at Pride 2 years ago. We hung out quite a bit and went out to fun dance clubs. I did not have a physical attraction to the guy but he was a very nice and honest guy. The fact that he loved house music, dance, and old pop music built a strong connection between us. I was exploring the music at the time and he helped me find some really good music and helped me learn that I can actually dance okay and have fun with it.

Music can be a really strong thing. If I all of a sudden bumped into a hot bear daddy who was a gaymer, liked the type of music I did and even shows I'd totally blo...I mean marry him

But obviously it's not a fairy tale world. *goes limp*

As much as music can help me connect with people I never thought I'd connect me and bring me closer to them it's not a requirement. Would I love it if they liked my music? Yes. But if both are willing to learn you can learn about each other's taste. I've actually been trying to expand my music genre horizon tremendously. The only thing I don't really like now is country and auto tune. I'm actually okay with some rap if the beat isn't bad. But auto tune needs to just go to hell.

 

[BrownBoi89]

He doesn't have to like the music I listen to but I find it a turn off when guys hate on the music I listen to. As for me I am pretty open-minded when it comes to music. I will always give something a chance even if it's from an artist I haven't like in the past. Hoepfully he would be as open-minded and understanding as me. He should tolerate what I listen to but no he doesn't have to like it at all.

 

[Level27]

AltLover, babe, I think Willie was just trying to make his point in an implicative manner as to portray his emotions on the subject matter. It seems you took offense to that and, as a result, started reading his posts literal word by literal word. I'm not sure if you're doing that simply to purposely irritate him back or if that's just how you normally read people's messages, but regardless of that, I think you're being upset over the most petty of things and are missing out on a rather simple message, one that, as Willie repeatedly stated, is actually in line with your own. While I don't completely agree with Willie's argument that music being a main factor in a relationship is ridiculous, his post wasn't meaning to insult you personally. He just had a point-of-view to offer to the table. Just saying. *hugs and kisses*

On the other hand, Willie, I think it's also fair to say that some people are naturally sensitive when they are told that the topic in which their conversing is ridiculous. Of course, you didn't mean any harm, and I know it. However, some people can't help but be hurt by words like these. See, I learned my lesson when I was sharing my negative view of a site that someone broadcasted on here by expressing it sarcastically in his thread; he took it personally and was annoyed and hurt, even when my intention to express my opinion on the site wasn't directed towards him. In response, he interpret my further responses in a phras-by-phrase litteral surface fashion, much the same way as AltLover is doing. And, I responded to him in a rather similiar way to how you're responding back to AltLover. At the end, I only realize that all along, he was upset. (I personally felt the need to apologize to him.) Perhaps, like me, there is a less "sarcastic" way of expressing an opinion when conversing with the more touchy type. This is just something to consider. *hugs and kisses*

Everyone else who might be reading this post, I ask in the most friendly manner as I possibly can (sweet tone implied) that you put down your popcorn. This post here is not meant to start a war, and I hope I had portrayed that properly. Thanks.



Now, as for the original topic, I think it heavily depends on what kind of relationship the two decides to have. Music playing a factor when the two considered themselves emotionally committed boyfriends might be rightfully deemed ridiculous, provided that there are other more profound emotional factors than a petty disagreement over musical taste to be taken into consideration. So, that's where I agree with AltLover and Willie. However, if the relationship is a looser, more casual acquaintanceship, then a common bond with music might be a more legitimate factor to keep or kill the relationship. (Unfortunately, however, I have observed certain people mistaking "romance" for this loose type of relationship.)

That's my little two cent piece.

 

[teadrinker]

I have extremely narrow, but intense tastes in music, and I don't expect anybody else to share my tastes. As long as music isn't played loudly around me people can listen to what they like. That's what portable players are for!

-T.

P.S. Instrumental music from the 17th and 18th centuries. And a handful of pieces outside that.

 

[ShihTzuTylenol]

^with respect^
I love the classics too. Chopin, Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart (♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥), Schubert and Beethoven and so on and so forth, but I also have the same ardent love of many other genres.

Show-tunes = fantabulousity!

Jazz is amazingly sensual [sigh].

And I love all the different branches of rock and roll. What a mighty tree that is. Everything from the early 60's (the Kinks, the Stones and the Beatles) to the 70's (Led Zeppelin, Queen and Floyd) on through the 80's (Megadeth, r.E.M., Butthole Surfers and Elvis Costello) and the Grunge era 90's where many styles converged with a nebulous clash and new forces were inadvertently unleashed (Smashing Pumpkins, Alice In Chains, Bush, NIN and Nirvana) to more recent metal phenoms and misc. sounds of the last decade (Slipknot, System Of A Down, Elliot Smith, Porcupine Tree and Lady Gaga). That stuff just gets my blood to pumping.

I even have a soft spot for certain country and western singers; namely Patsy Cline, Hank Williams, Sr., Johnny Cash and his amazing kid, Rosanne, and more recently artists such as Junior Brown. And, omg, George Strait gets my dick hard (literally) when he sings stuff like Marina Del Rey, Baby Blue and The Chair.

I can handle about any music, as long as it's good, honest and the artist is being true to his art.

So, it's not really that important a boyfriend have the same musical tastes as me, as long as he likes music in general.


"Never trust a man who doesn't like dogs or music."


I just made that up/ on the spot -- taw-daw!









Sidebar:
Constantly faced with exposure of his homosexuality, the great composer Pyotr Ilyich Tchaikovsky tried to force himself into very unhappy relationships with women and even married, but the couple separated without divorce after a short time. In 1877, he came into contact with a devoted fan, Nadezhda von Meck, a very wealthy widow who would become his patron and, in a way, soul mate; however she insisted that the two never meet face to face. They embarked on a remarkable journey together, exchanging over 1000 letters that have provided great insight into the personality and the emotional tribulations of this great man until she finally severed their correspondence claiming bankruptcy in 1890. This was devastating to him as she provided emotional and financial stability for Tchaikovsky.
After several years of traveling around Europe and composing, Tchaikovsky mysteriously died a mere 9 days after the premiere of his 6th Symphony, the Pathétique, which is a highly personal and autobiographic work. The circumstances of Tchaikovsky’s death remain a mystery, but it was believed for many years that he died of cholera and there were over 8 completely different “eyewitness” reports of him taking that “fateful sip of un-boiled water.”
It is believed that Tchaikovsky may have had an illicit relationship with a young nobleman/royal he was tutoring at the time and several alumni from the School of Jurisprudence held a Court of Honor to discuss the punishment options of which two were proposed: exile from Russia (something Tchaikovsky could not bear) or suicide with a cover-up. It’s more widely accepted that to protect both his and the school’s reputations, Tchaikovsky was forced to commit suicide. Unfortunately, the exact circumstances around his death will never be truly known.

 

[Sam Blum]

P.S. Instrumental music from the 17th and 18th centuries. And a handful of pieces outside that.

Really - only a handful?!

I would probably not find much of interest in a guy who was into rap or heavy metal or rock'n'roll. Or more tribal music. I may be surprised though.