How much Homophobia do you suffer on a regular basis?

[YeaBaby2010]

I've only experienced homophobia once in my life. I was working with a guy that absolutely hated gays and other minorities. He was bragging about how his Nazi heritage spands back generations. I told him to watch his mouth, he turned around and saidl "Listen you fuckin spic, your fucking faggot ass wont tell me shit, fuck off and die."


Next day fired

 

[fetaby]

If you don't get in my face, I won't get in yours.

But don't you want gay people to interact with homophobes?

Not everyone is going to be comfortable or fluent talking about Ru Paul, gay rights, or lady Gaga's latest outfit (and those who are aren't always people that you'll like, btw). You should be aware of that.

You should be aware that perceived/idealized gender roles is the real culprit behind the hate.

There's a difference between that and denying being gay.

Never mind, it appears you do know. You just don't give a shit.

No offense but I find that bloody ridiculous.

You do realize that you argued for religious inclusion and in the very next sentences argued for intolerance towards people who express themselves differently.

It's by getting to know people as people as opposed to labels that there can ever be any change.

Why mouth the words if you aren't willing to live them?

Discussing gay rights issues, Rupaul's show, or Lady GaGa is just as surface level as the examples you provided.

No one said they're interesting but they get the job done in terms of elevator rides with Mary from Accounting.That's just basic socialization.

And you don't have to find gay rights issues, Rupaul, or Lady GaGa interesting. It's just social banter, that's basic socialization.

 

[self inflicted]

You experience homophobia from gay guys? Would you elaborate?

Not homophobia, just another kind of crap... I just wanted to point that gay guys give me far more crap in their own way than straight people in theirs.

 

[miketlow]

Aretha Franklin is 6'5"?

No that's my favorite singer..I am 6'5...lol

 

[FanofFiction]

Have we determined the most homophobic places in the world? Southern USA, middle East, etc? Canada is very good... at least my neck of the woods. It happens, but rather infrequently.

 

[BearBoi]

As an adult? Never. But I'm pretty butch.

But as a kid, 'gay' and 'faggot' were favourite insults and taunts, though I don't think anybody knew they were hitting the nail right on the head. Which made it worse, in a way.

 

[miketlow]

You're tall and have good taste in music. You sound like quite a catch to me. If you like Natalie Cole's music, I might not be able to resist you.

How could I not love Natalie Cole? She was heavily influenced by Aretha.. Her early music as well as the jazz and standards she has recorded are amazing.....Now I'm going to youtube to hear "Tell Me All About It" from 2002's As A Woman Who Knows CD... back at cha!

 

[miketlow]

I'm yours!

lol...Oh yeah?

 

[ixthrock]

I'm really really really freaked out by all the "I never experience homophobia" responses. Seriously, it's hard for me to believe that so many of you never watch TV or movies or pick up a newspaper and/or read up on current events - or indeed, even, go outside. Or that so many of you have adopted such an assimilationist policy that you've convinced yourself that being gay really ISN'T as big a deal as your brand of sox, or are perhaps not aware yourselves that you are, indeed, gay. That you also put on your pants one leg at a time is the only thing you can use as a pointer to your "individuality?"

SUFFER homophobia? No, I'm the one dishing it out. I'd blame peer pressure but I don't want to sound irresponsible. My usual joke is that I'm externalising my internalised homophobia. Fewkin' poofters. So many of us bought it hook, line, and sinker - just take a lame ass tourist trinket, slap a rainbow flag on it, mark it up 200% and we'll get in line to suck it's dick.

What will we do to become famous and dandy - like amos and andy, indeed.

 

[undisclosed1234]

I'm really really really freaked out by all the "I never experience homophobia" responses. Seriously, it's hard for me to believe that so many of you never watch TV or movies or pick up a newspaper and/or read up on current events - or indeed, even, go outside. Or that so many of you have adopted such an assimilationist policy that you've convinced yourself that being gay really ISN'T as big a deal as your brand of sox, or are perhaps not aware yourselves that you are, indeed, gay. That you also put on your pants one leg at a time is the only thing you can use as a pointer to your "individuality?"

SUFFER homophobia? No, I'm the one dishing it out. I'd blame peer pressure but I don't want to sound irresponsible. My usual joke is that I'm externalising my internalised homophobia. Fewkin' poofters. So many of us bought it hook, line, and sinker - just take a lame ass tourist trinket, slap a rainbow flag on it, mark it up 200% and we'll get in line to suck it's dick.

What will we do to become famous and dandy - like amos and andy, indeed.

....What?

What I can catch between the nonsensical is just more jibberish.

I'm reminded of that old Seinfeld gag where uncle Leo sees antisemitism everywhere. There's a difference between awareness and narcissism, mate.

 

[StationToStation]

no homophobia i experience
prolly cos i can have a fuck off attitude real fast if needed

 

[yummylongsword]

I'm really really really freaked out by all the "I never experience homophobia" responses. Seriously, it's hard for me to believe that so many of you never watch TV or movies or pick up a newspaper and/or read up on current events - or indeed, even, go outside. Or that so many of you have adopted such an assimilationist policy that you've convinced yourself that being gay really ISN'T as big a deal as your brand of sox, or are perhaps not aware yourselves that you are, indeed, gay. That you also put on your pants one leg at a time is the only thing you can use as a pointer to your "individuality?"

SUFFER homophobia? No, I'm the one dishing it out. I'd blame peer pressure but I don't want to sound irresponsible. My usual joke is that I'm externalising my internalised homophobia. Fewkin' poofters. So many of us bought it hook, line, and sinker - just take a lame ass tourist trinket, slap a rainbow flag on it, mark it up 200% and we'll get in line to suck it's dick.

What will we do to become famous and dandy - like amos and andy, indeed.

... I feel like I want to respond, but I'm not sure how to do so because I'm not sure what you were trying to say. Mind trying again?

 

[GhostMost]

This is why I stay in closet

Why? It's really not too bad at all..

 

[fetaby]

I'm really really really freaked out by all the "I never experience homophobia" responses. Seriously, it's hard for me to believe that so many of you never watch TV or movies or pick up a newspaper and/or read up on current events - or indeed, even, go outside. Or that so many of you have adopted such an assimilationist policy that you've convinced yourself that being gay really ISN'T as big a deal as your brand of sox, or are perhaps not aware yourselves that you are, indeed, gay. That you also put on your pants one leg at a time is the only thing you can use as a pointer to your "individuality?"

SUFFER homophobia? No, I'm the one dishing it out. I'd blame peer pressure but I don't want to sound irresponsible. My usual joke is that I'm externalising my internalised homophobia. Fewkin' poofters. So many of us bought it hook, line, and sinker - just take a lame ass tourist trinket, slap a rainbow flag on it, mark it up 200% and we'll get in line to suck it's dick.

What will we do to become famous and dandy - like amos and andy, indeed.

Thank you! Finally....

While everyone is busy playing the pronoun game, the world is buying a marketing campaign.

Apparently we're the go to guys for consumerist attitudes and everything fresh and "cutting edge."

Yet the only thing we'd love more than anything is to have ourselves squashed down into the bro-hug of heteronormativity...

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Ask yourselves, what is the identity of gay?

 

[Aguy666]

Not much, really. Most people are accepting of it, people who disapprove tend to have a "just because I disapprove doesn't mean you're a terrible person" kinda deal. I'm kinda masculine acting so people rarely assume that I'm gay. Only person who ever thought I was was my friend's dad, who said he knew I was gay because I picked off a lot of the toppings off of my pizza, and that was apparently a very common thing in the gay community he lived in once? Didn't know that stereotype existed... not really homophobia though haha

 

[GhostMost]

Thank you! Finally....

While everyone is busy playing the pronoun game, the world is buying a marketing campaign.

Apparently we're the go to guys for consumerist attitudes and everything fresh and "cutting edge."

Yet the only thing we'd love more than anything is to have ourselves squashed down into the bro-hug of heteronormativity...

umm okay..
I hate how every straight person wants to feel like they're accepting of others so no matter how annoying or obnoxious the gay person is they'll always defend them and say oh they're so sassy, instead of just saying wow this guy's a dick. Then when I call the person out to them they always give me a dirty look and say how I need to be more accepting of my own kind. What fucking hypocrites..

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

I know it sounds confusing, but my aunt from Brooklyn assumed I was gay when I was 11 "because I chewed gum, and fags in this area chew gum".

I still don't speak to her.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

Do your straight male relatives not chew gum...?

I assume not in front of her - I mean hell forbid her own son chew gum, she might see him as a gay.

 

[Aaron]

It has been some years since I was on the receiving end of any blatant homophobia, and I could probably count the cases on one hand... OK, maybe two.

Aside from peripherally experiencing homophobia when it hits close to home, the closest thing that I experience now is heterosexism. And while it does bother me sometimes, I usually see opportunity in those situations.

 

[ixthrock]

... I feel like I want to respond, but I'm not sure how to do so because I'm not sure what you were trying to say. Mind trying again?

someone got it....

There's a chinua achebe novel where one character talks about how women are always at the heart of kicking us out of paradise in creation myths, but above and beyond that, he talks about the way women are removed from participation - either from being cast down as problem makers, hysterical temptresses, or from being placed upon a pedestal as the giver of life and the sacred virgin mother, too delicate for social involvement...

us fags are facing the same sort of paradigms - either we're flaunting our glory, or we are "just like everyone else." I think both of these are marketing gimmicks we've bought into - and that these weren't created by advertising/media per se, but our own collective subconscious.

if we're not trying to pervert the rest of society (and they feel that if they let us legally marry, we will) then we are a good source of dink funds and comical stereotypes used to distract the masses from real issues.

my own externalised homophobia... well - i'll just say i'm avoiding being an ostrich with my head in the sand about my own faults. I've been hurt and betrayed by some pretty idealistic queers - i have a hard time trusting anyone that thinks they have a solution to the world's ills...