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How soon do you let a guy into your place / go to his place?

How soon do you let him into your place / come along to his place?

  • You first meet at your / his place

    Votes: 7 41.2%

  • Same day / night, after you met outside

    Votes: 9 52.9%

  • After a the next date

    Votes: 1 5.9%

  • After a few more dates

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Total voters
    17
As I have said before I have never dated so in my youth if I picked someone up it was straight back to my place for sex.
 
NotHardUp1 said:
My guess is the more old-fashioned solution in social meetings was the home visit. Aside from school, church, and work, social calls for dating were made in to the homes.

It is interesting how much focus the thread makes in hookups as opposed to simply dating, or friendship. The protocols of Craigslist and Grindr have little to do with the majority of social interactions in this country.
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You have all your dates in your house? So you would never meet up with someone your interested in at a bar or something like that? Maybe I just have lived in more urban areas where everyone lives in pokey little flats and thus always meet up outside of the home.

If anything I would say hookup culture tends to happen with just going straight to someone's house. I don't really like that as I don't want the first time I meet someone to be at their/my front door. You can only do so many checks on someone chatting to them via emails etc.

rareboy said:
A night-time security guard in the family biz? Trust you to be too cheap to buy someone dinner.
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Burn!
 
I found out I'd feel very uncomfortable with the thought of first meeting someone at my / his place.
But then, I do exactly that for selling things on ebay or craigslist etc. Maybe the undressing bit / being out of control of wallet and keys (when naked) brings in another dimension into it, but I don't know really.
 
NotHardUp1 said:
My guess is the more old-fashioned solution in social meetings was the home visit. Aside from school, church, and work, social calls for dating were made in to the homes.

It is interesting how much focus the thread makes in hookups as opposed to simply dating, or friendship. The protocols of Craigslist and Grindr have little to do with the majority of social interactions in this country.
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I'm not that old fashioned. LOL
 
rareboy said:
A night-time security guard in the family biz? Trust you to be too cheap to buy someone dinner.
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I would buy you dinner darling, but what designer dress would you be wearing.?Sweetheart, I'm more than just a night time security guard and secretary my adorable honey.

I understand you are to old to dress like Paris or Kim K so wel'll cover those legs up.

But I like my women with a little taste. Have fun picking ya?O:)

http://www.harrods.com/?cid=PPC_UK_...term_harrods&gclid=CLK17qeewscCFUZAGwodDd8L1g
 
mikemizanin729 said:
The surely he/she would still be paying tax? Council Tax etc.
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If it's a woman she will be working by doing the housework and cooking in the kitchen where she belongs whilst i give her pretty things. Like Carmel from Hollyoaks.
 
When it comes to dates it would depend on the guy. Definitely within the first couple if things were going well.

Same thing with friendships. There are people on here that I can see welcoming them into my home based on their personality, when it comes to long time members.
 
MakeDigitalLove said:
When it comes to dates it would depend on the guy. Definitely within the first couple if things were going well.

Same thing with friendships. There are people on here that I can see welcoming them into my home based on their personality, when it comes to long time members.
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I'm a nice guy. I won't steal from you. I won't eat you out of house and home. I won't pee on your carpet. And I most assuredly wouldn't take a dump in your bathtub. :D
 
If they don't give it up on the first date, there isn't a second date. :sex:
 
mikemizanin729 said:
I would buy you dinner darling, but what designer dress would you be wearing.?Sweetheart, I'm more than just a night time security guard and secretary my adorable honey.

I understand you are to old to dress like Paris or Kim K so wel'll cover those legs up.

But I like my women with a little taste. Have fun picking ya?O:)

http://www.harrods.com/?cid=PPC_UK_...term_harrods&gclid=CLK17qeewscCFUZAGwodDd8L1g
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Darling, one does not shop at a tourist trap for clothes.
 
jbown329 said:
I'm not that old fashioned. LOL
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I think 1 of the reasons for social home calls / actual dating in the home being unpopular is distance. People are closer together and some of those dates one ends up going on - you can barely leave quick enough, you don't want them to know where you live so they can come by and ask for a second one.
 
luckynumbah7 said:
I think 1 of the reasons for social home calls / actual dating in the home being unpopular is distance. People are closer together and some of those dates one ends up going on - you can barely leave quick enough, you don't want them to know where you live so they can come by and ask for a second one.
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What happened to just saying, "I don't think dating is still on for us?" What's so hard about direct conversation?
 
jbown329 said:
I'm not that old fashioned. LOL
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And conversely, if we're talking about Grindr or other online hookup protocols, I don't know anyone who'd refer to those practices as "old-fashioned."

On a more serious note, I'm glad to see the lack of paranoia in the poll from many men who obviously don't equate first dates with stalker opportunities or vulnerability to serial killing. The hysteria that prevails online among some is a sign of lack of real socialization, I fear.

Safe is safe, but most people are not out to harm others.
 
I meet guys from hookup sites. He always host. I always meet at his place. We fuck, then I leave.
 
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NotHardUp1 said:
What happened to just saying, "I don't think dating is still on for us?" What's so hard about direct conversation?
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A goodly chunk of men don't take 'I think we should see other people' at face value. Wheedle, whine, repeat and guilt are their words of the day. They assume nagging will get them somewhere.

It's how 'the internet' created a list of fake numbers to give such ppl, but I don't have a phone.

I've had people do that behavior often enough that it's usually the smarter way to go.

Half the time I'm visibly trans and usually visually identifiable as disabled. Those are characteristics that encourage creeps.
 
NotHardUp1 said:
On a more serious note, I'm glad to see the lack of paranoia in the poll from many men who obviously don't equate first dates with stalker opportunities or vulnerability to serial killing. The hysteria that prevails online among some is a sign of lack of real socialization, I fear. .
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To have a fear of being stalked you generally have to have a vulnerability. No wonder most of them have no such worries.
 
You meet a guy, either in a planned date or "naturally"... then
I've never dated (and know it'll never happen so...)
But just for the sake of things:


how soon do you let him come to your place,
My place would never be an option...even if I did live alone.


how soon do you come along to his place?
I'd be fine with going to his place (as 'friends only' ofcourse) even if I hadn't known someone a real long time (as long as I felt comfortable around him)


And what do you prefer in general, and why?
I think my preference for meeting up with friends in general would be somewhere public.
But saying it had to be someone's place, then there's only one option (which like mentioned above can never be mine...)
 
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