While I don't personally find straight men all that attractive, I can certainly see the appeal in doing so. So if you really want a straight guy this is how to go about it:
First off, be cool. For the love of God you can't get fucked up and think that this straight guy will somehow emotionally return your feelings for him. It's okay to like straight guys, it's retardation to expect them to like you back in an emotional, lovey dovey romance way. So keep the attraction sexual and naughty. Think of your intimacy as just a sort of male brotherhood together ya know.
Let him come to you. Just act normal around him and he'll be cool with it. Truly attractive straight men are not threatened by homosexuality. Men kind of mirror each other, if you're kind of lay-back and are relaxed about not fitting male stereotypes he'll do the same and start opening up to you about stuff. But don't suggest anything, even though at the end of the day your mind is probably running through all sorts of fantasies of him and you getting it on.
As long as he calls all the shots though, there is no way he can blame you for anything. You'll just do stuff together as friends that will organically turn more intimate because you'll feel more and more comfortable around each other.
Also respect him. Do not out him as an homosexual when he's not, respect the situation as two friends having a good time and nothing more. No, he won't date in public with you not because he hates himself, but because he just simply isn't gay. Also he's going to have limitations that a gay guy usually won't. At first many of those limitations will seem very erotic (because it's inherently a tease-fest, what-if game) but then they will most likely begin to annoy you because you realize you're a man like him, you deserve to have your dick sucked and be the one fucking just like he. (I'm being stereotypical here; sometimes the reverse is also true, sometimes straight guys can only get hard for guys when in the humiliating 'bottom' role) Like he can only be gay for you in a limited context cause of the bond you guys share. It is sweet in its own way but the dude is still straight. And still not your boyfriend.
These relations can work out AS LONG AS THE GAY MAN DOESN'T GET ALL 'EMO' AND DISNEY ROMANTIC FAG-LIKE. Those kind of powerful emotions are saved for other gay men only. If you do feel that way about him, it might be a wise idea to cut off all contact with him. Yes, gay men have more baggage than straight men don't have but at the same time, a relationship with straight men has a lot of limitations that two openly gay men don't have. Neither type of men is going to be your perfect ideal, so sort yourself out now what it is you really want.
There's nothing wrong with you if you are the gay man that just wants the straight cock, that can't get past the socetial eroticism of straight males. Just please have some fucking intelligence and common sense about things.
If you don't like the rules of this relationship, then stop all your fucking self-loathing bullshit and have the guts to be with another real openly gay guy.
((Also another thing do not out him to his girlfriend and friends as such no matter what. You wanted him too, you consented to the sex. *You* need to take the responsibility here. As long as he's not advocating against your civil rights (and only closet cases will do that anyway), then you have no business or reason to tell anybody about your relationship and good times together shared.)) Also, all three of you should be tested but in all reality the girl does NOT need to know about your relationship with the straight man. Don't turn this into some pc Oprah fest. This is how you can get what you really want. You really want a straight guy? You can fucking have one.
OH AND ANOTHER THING. It is psychologically unhealthy for you to analyze this person as your boyfriend and such when he isn't. Do not lie to others and call him your boyfriend when he's clearly just a straight guy with benefits. He commits emotionally to women. His primary orientation and attractions are to women, and you need to always be aware of that.
First off, be cool. For the love of God you can't get fucked up and think that this straight guy will somehow emotionally return your feelings for him. It's okay to like straight guys, it's retardation to expect them to like you back in an emotional, lovey dovey romance way. So keep the attraction sexual and naughty. Think of your intimacy as just a sort of male brotherhood together ya know.
Let him come to you. Just act normal around him and he'll be cool with it. Truly attractive straight men are not threatened by homosexuality. Men kind of mirror each other, if you're kind of lay-back and are relaxed about not fitting male stereotypes he'll do the same and start opening up to you about stuff. But don't suggest anything, even though at the end of the day your mind is probably running through all sorts of fantasies of him and you getting it on.
As long as he calls all the shots though, there is no way he can blame you for anything. You'll just do stuff together as friends that will organically turn more intimate because you'll feel more and more comfortable around each other.
Also respect him. Do not out him as an homosexual when he's not, respect the situation as two friends having a good time and nothing more. No, he won't date in public with you not because he hates himself, but because he just simply isn't gay. Also he's going to have limitations that a gay guy usually won't. At first many of those limitations will seem very erotic (because it's inherently a tease-fest, what-if game) but then they will most likely begin to annoy you because you realize you're a man like him, you deserve to have your dick sucked and be the one fucking just like he. (I'm being stereotypical here; sometimes the reverse is also true, sometimes straight guys can only get hard for guys when in the humiliating 'bottom' role) Like he can only be gay for you in a limited context cause of the bond you guys share. It is sweet in its own way but the dude is still straight. And still not your boyfriend.
These relations can work out AS LONG AS THE GAY MAN DOESN'T GET ALL 'EMO' AND DISNEY ROMANTIC FAG-LIKE. Those kind of powerful emotions are saved for other gay men only. If you do feel that way about him, it might be a wise idea to cut off all contact with him. Yes, gay men have more baggage than straight men don't have but at the same time, a relationship with straight men has a lot of limitations that two openly gay men don't have. Neither type of men is going to be your perfect ideal, so sort yourself out now what it is you really want.
There's nothing wrong with you if you are the gay man that just wants the straight cock, that can't get past the socetial eroticism of straight males. Just please have some fucking intelligence and common sense about things.
If you don't like the rules of this relationship, then stop all your fucking self-loathing bullshit and have the guts to be with another real openly gay guy.
((Also another thing do not out him to his girlfriend and friends as such no matter what. You wanted him too, you consented to the sex. *You* need to take the responsibility here. As long as he's not advocating against your civil rights (and only closet cases will do that anyway), then you have no business or reason to tell anybody about your relationship and good times together shared.)) Also, all three of you should be tested but in all reality the girl does NOT need to know about your relationship with the straight man. Don't turn this into some pc Oprah fest. This is how you can get what you really want. You really want a straight guy? You can fucking have one.
OH AND ANOTHER THING. It is psychologically unhealthy for you to analyze this person as your boyfriend and such when he isn't. Do not lie to others and call him your boyfriend when he's clearly just a straight guy with benefits. He commits emotionally to women. His primary orientation and attractions are to women, and you need to always be aware of that.
When I broke the rules, there was hell to pay and an emotional ache for me to recover from.
