How To Identify A Gay Man Pretending To Be Straight...

[PhoenixRandall]

As a gay guy, I have to agree with the advice of "It's in his eyes." I can always see 'gay' in a guys eyes, but I might be because I know what it looks like.

It is one thing to have eye contact...every man on the planet does it. How long the contact is held is usually the key, but not always. Watch a man that you know is straight...he'll hold eye contact with you but look away during the conversation after a while or at a specific part of the conversation. A gay guy will do the same, but he'll linger an extra second just to try and figure out what you're saying or thinking.

THis is a hard one to properly describe, but i still agree that it is in his eyes.

 

[kayman23]

It's most definitely the body language. Sometimes it is in the eyes, but the body language is a more reliable sign.

 

[_Grim_]

you catch him checking you out. he gets quiet when gay jokes, or homophobic comments pop up, either that or he is the most gunhoe to dish out gay jokes or homophobic comments.

omg...that would totally catch me red handed

 

[slnattak]

I agree with Craigwolf for the most part.

The most secretly gay guys will definitely, definitely say tons of homophobic jokes while trying to hide as being straight in a very cartoonish way. They will even appear outwardly manly and will enjoy many physical things, but if you notice they have a kind of 'inner gay spirit' (this isn't a negative thing) It's very fiesty, but not straight.

And likewise, the 'other type of gay man' (people more like myself) will seem kind of 'fruity' in a way, and they will seem more approachable, its not they're softer, it's that the 'gay aura' can submit to strong masculinity. A straight aura can't, so you feel a 'resistance' there even if the straight dude has feminine mannerisms. So anyway yeah this type of gay will get uncomfortable around gay jokes. They will walk in a kind of uppity/prideful way that's different than straight men. They won't necessarily have some of the obvious stereotypes, but they will usually be more interested in 'gender neutral' things than the average man.

 

[slnattak]

A mechanical, almost 'ape-walk' that's kind of slow and sluggish is a straight walk. A gay walk is when a guy has very good posture almost like he's still young. It also feels a bit more 'fast' and has more energy. It has more power than a straight man's walk actually, it's not the other way around- a straight man's walk is more subdued, as if they're keeping their masculinity all to themselves. They're not giving out masculinity nor are they receiving it. A gay man's walk, and energy -is more of a transference of masculinity, as well as submitting to a masculine energy. Remember, Pink is a naturally more powerful color and energy than Blue.

Please do not get offended if you have a 'gay walk.' It's only natural and it's not a bad thing. Do not try to be someone you're not...it's just silly. I can see right through that anyway.

If other people make fun of you for it just laugh it off and say "So?" just be cool about it, please don't get over sensitive....own that gay walk!!!

Based on desires and the different mechanisms in the brain, it is easy to see that gay men just naturally have different mannerisms than straight men, and that's okay!!! Don't buy into society's standards that you have to 'be straight' to be erotic or sexy!!! It's cultural conditioning nothing more. All the gay men that say they're straight acting I just laugh at them. It's clear that they are a gay man that's just trying to act. That is why a lot of gay porn is just bad. The gay man aren't being themselves, they're trying to be straight.

 

[slnattak]

Some gay men have a lot of issues with appearing feminine. You don't want other people to 'think you're a chick because you like guys.' After all you think 'gay men aren't gonna like me unless I beef up... no gay dude wants a girl' but it's not as simple as this.

I understand this deeply but what you don't understand is that it is obvious to other people, because as a natural gay man, you can submit to masculinity like a straight female. This is the similarities people are seeing. Your brain is still very much 'male', don't worry about that!!

To hide this natural gay power, that every gay man was born with, some gay men then act like they have no power and have a sort of 'lazy walk' you see this with gay men trying to appear masculine. But it is drained of any kind of life because only straight men can keep have that kind of 'Shield Wall' look of gruntyness because they do not let any masculinity in because they are straight... if they wanted male power to enter them, they would be more open- and the 'tough guy image' isn't really tough, it's just how it is perceived. Don't look up to guys like that. They're not your role-models or your friends usually. A sissy is gonna have your back about 150 times more than those guys trust me. Maybe not a catty bitch, but that is more outlandish humor, like how black people act over gangsta (so they think we're scary? I'll show them scary!)

A bisexual and gay man are kind of similiar btw too as a bisexual man receives male energy and power just like a gay man.

We can still find straight men sexy when they 'give off' their masculine vibes to a straight female that wants to pick it up, and why we can be happy them sometimes in quick relationships where the gay man plays a female role, but see- there will come a time when you want to give him some of your masculine energy too (as you are a still a MAN) and he won't let you...

 

[gattaca]

There are many ways to tell, some obvious and some not. But there are a whole range of homos that fall inbetween the flaming hairdresser homo and the lumberjack bear homo. I have yet to meet a straight guy who is a huge Madonna or Cher fan, there might be some, but i don't know any.
Aside from all the usual stereotypes, the one way i know for sure is the eye contact. A great example is the many times i have been out just going about my day, not cruising, and some guy with a girl on his arm will look me in the eyes.
I just keep walking, and sometimes i look back over my shoulder, and he is looking back as well. Try walking around a mall or beach and take note of how many guys look at you, you'll be surprised. Sometimes when i stare back, they look away fast. They know you caught them and they freak, this always cracks me up. Many of the guys that do this look straight, so it just goes to show you can't always tell by appearance.
Where i work there is a 19 year old stud that looks like most guys his age (baggy pants which i HATE, backwards baseball caps, very short hair) who is engaged and has a baby on the way. He acts tough, smokes and parties and is also VERY gorgeous. Not my type, but still hot. Anyhow, he is always looking at me and coming over to talk to me. At first i just thought he was friendly, but when i look at him, he smiles really big. And if i stare back, he just keeps looking. If things were different, i'd bang him until my cum was leaking from his nose. My gut tells me he' gay or bi, i just feel bad for that sweet girl who is carrying his baby.

cant agree more...i support every single letter

 

[AngelFromAbove]

SLNattack, you have a very warped worldview. Your post reeks of feeble stereotypes as well as commentary that could have only come from someone who has really limited experiences with people.

 

[Colbertianity]

Okay. I can tell you right now that a lisp is not important. I'm gay and speak perfectly.

 

[Luminox]

For the eyes...I dunno really.

I often stare at people if they look at me just to see who will look away first (which will be the other guy or girl, hehe !) as a "power game'. I usually stare at people not to flirt but to intimidate ! When I flirt I openly smile at 'em or wink, not just stare. If I'm staring at you chances are I'm probably pissed at you or wanna scare you, not flirt with you !

Maybe I'm just weird...

 

[weasley]

lots of straight guys stare too... don't you just hate it they stare with a smile and sometimes wink too? hehe. naughtie naughtie

 

[inner_voice]

If he checks out your crotch or your ass, then he might be gay...or at least curious.

i agree. easy and simple

 

[begood100]

There isn't much I can really say. I am bi and I try acting straight all the time, even with other gay/bi's.

I hear u man, Same thing here.

 

[dfwjacker]

Hehe...if I gave up on every guy that had sex with women, I'd never get laid. There was a guy not so long ago, all he did was talk about girl, fucking girls, what girls were hot, how many he had, etc etc. I've seen him with girls, I've listened to him fuucking girls in the next room. And I've had my tongue waaaay up his ass.

Yeah, if it wasn't for guys that usually have sex with women, I'd probably never get any dick. There are plenty of guys that don't identify as gay or even bi, but still enjoy or are interested in trying sex with another guy. I'm talking about guys that actually enjoy and explore sex with other men, not the ones that just want to get sucked off. That doesn't mean you should be pushy about seducing any guy that you set your sights on, just that there are more willing guys than most think.

The biggest things to remember when dealing these guys in my experience:

Discreet, bi guys have an infinitely better chance that openly gay guys do. Sorry, I don't make the rules. A threesome with a hot chic can be a good way to peak his interest in you. That doesn't mean you can't try if you are gay. But, if you are gay... For fucks sake, lay off of the "pussy is gross" mentality when you are around these guys. That's one of my biggest peeves with gay guys and it will likely hurt your chances.

You MUST be discreet, even if he is single and not dating at the moment, he likely doesn't want this particular aspect of his life becoming common knowledge to his friends, family, and coworkers. Don't expect that he will want to "come out" just because you have sex a few times.

He may have a sexual attraction to you, but his emotional attachment to you may not go beyond being a friend. If that's OK with you then there shouldn't be a problem.

Don't expect that these guys are going to be into every kinky thing you can do in bed. Many of these guys are NOT open to anal sex with another guy even if they do it with women, because they associate it with being gay. It may also be that it's just is a turn off for them, or maybe they want to be safe. That's not to say they wont decide they want to try it at some point, but in any case, don't be pushy about it and don't underestimate the great sex and SAFE sex you can have without going anal.

Expect to get invited camping, boating, fishing etc... for the sole purpose of having lots of sex. These are often a guys only way of getting away from friends or family for any significant time. Think broke back mountain.

Military, military, military... I've had sex with more military men than non-military by far. Marines can step to the front of my line . By and large these guys seem to be more sexually adventurous than their non-military counterparts. Right now, three of my buddies are serving in Iraq and one is in Afghanistan... Damn Dick Cheney and George Bush

 

[starlight70]

Hmmm...

1) Married, divorced, married, divorced and the circle of this.
2) Preach scientology.
3) Have a baby, with the strangest publicity.
4) Jump on a sofa.

 

[wanderer]

Hmmm...

1) Married, divorced, married, divorced and the circle of this.
2) Preach scientology.
3) Have a baby, with the strangest publicity.
4) Jump on a sofa.

LOL that was great!!!!


back to the music....isnt there a minimum number of songs from madana, chere, jewel, brittany they must like to at least be considered gay? most of the songs these artists sing i dont like, i do like 3 of cher's 2 of brittany's, 1 madana, and iv never heard from jewel. even my dad likes a couple here and there. i think a couple songs are allowable, but if the guy has an album collection on those divas, then that is suspect.

 

[breatheH20]

Either way, I've never pulled off bagging a straight guy, nor will I ever! GRRRRR!

 

[Danugh]

Many straight guys love to tease gay and bi guys. I don't know why, maybe it's because women don't find them attractive and it turns them on to think that we do. ??

I know they can be such teases, and they wonder why gay men seduce and bag them.

I can't stand some of my gym body straight friends. There are always walking around without shirts on, sometimes in boxers, its like they are just asking for it.

Although its fun when we play "who has the bigger dick contest" or "who can squirt the farthest contest" or "who has the biggest flaccid penis penis contest" or "who shrinks less in cold water contest" or "who can cum quickest contest."


Straight can be alot of fun especially when they think you are straight. The things straight men do when they feel every guy around them is straight is so awesome.


If a guy stares at you too long he is bisexual or gay.

 

[Danugh]

Well if you see a hot "straight" man dancing with a girl but when you go to the bathroom he is discreetly trying to peek at your dick, he is gay. Although not all gay men peek at urinals.

 

[SexyLiciousBoy]

It sometimes can be hard to tell, but I think I can usually tell if someone is gay or bi.....I also think its when you have a gut feeling about it. Usually you can sense it when someone is attracted to you also. Not always, but sometimes. And the "eye contact" thing can SOMETIMES be a clue, but not always. I think you'll get a clue if you catch them looking at you alot