How To Out a Co-Worker to Myself

[The_Reaper]

Alright.

I have absoultly no gaydar, I'm going to admit this right off the bat. Why?

It's not that I can spot gay people, rather I spot straight people that I hope are gay.


Now, with that cleared out of the way, I think I might have actually found one.


Awhile ago, my last work infatuation (aka Eye Candy to get me through the dull, dark, soulcrushing hell that is my job), up and quit for reasons unknown. Which sucked, cause not only did I lose my eye candy, but I lost the nicest/friendlist guy in the place.

Anyways, his former mantle of friendist guy has been usurped by a fellow co-worker hired at the same time I was.

Now, I'm not sure if he is or isn't, but I do have some things that might very well present a clear case:

1.) Vocal mannerisms: Sort of a "higher" end voice, and so forth...
2.) Hand gestures and so forth.
3.) The word "scuse"...I've never heard a straight guy ask a girl to "scuse" out of his way for a moment....
4.) Can I use the he's too cute to be straight argument here?
5.) Since I feel I can be a bit "personal" here, his first name (as I know him) is Jackie. So whether he is named Jack, and Jackie is a nickname that he goes by or whatnot...I don't know..
6.) He spent most of the night talking with two of the female bartenders...Which sounds like a straight thing, but is confusing...They started talking off about their grad dresses, then moved on to their sports involvment and so forth, so I don't know...

Now, I can't just ask him. Especially at work...I mean, technically, in if he isn't or even if he is, I'm kinda bound by certain work guidelines and such to not be able to ask him if he is or isn't at work...

So, any thoughts and or suggestions?

 

[secondmonkey]

I thought you were gonna be a hermit?

 

[The_Reaper]

^Yes, but I still have to work...I can't afford to quit my job, even though I would like to...And besides, a fellow gay co-worker might make it a bit more bearable...

 

[eddielee]

It's almost like your describing symptoms with your list. You have certainly studied this thing very hard. I would say that there's a 79 percent chance that the patient is gay. If he shows any other symptoms, such as sucking cock, I'd say he's 100 percent gay. Seriously, other than subtle observations, I don't know of any polite way to find out if he's gay. Maybe you could ask him out to lunch, as a friend of course. If you get to know him socially you can have a better idea about his sexuality.

 

[star-warrior]

If he shows any other symptoms, such as sucking cock, I'd say he's 100 percent gay.

Now that really takes the biscuit.

 

[cellular]

Why dont you first tell him you are gay and see what he says. Maybe even ask him what he thinks about gay ppl. He might also return the favour and tell you he is gay, or he really likes gay ppl and then you would have made a friend. I wouldnt ask him directly if he was gay. If hes straight and u ask if he was gay, then you will most likely destroy his ego.

 

[CuriousMonkey]

... a fellow gay co-worker might make it a bit more bearable...

Huh? Why would he need to be gay for his company & friendship to make your workday more bearable ?

 

[Jeimuzu]

Huh? Why would he need to be gay for his company & friendship to make your workday more bearable ?

I don't know about you, but even when you're surrounded by people, it's still possible to feel lonely because none of them are like you. I don't like the fact that I don't know many gay people by face, but I do know a few and that helps.

Anyways...
Ask if he wants to go for a drink after work one night. When you get there, have a conversation and slip in a gay topic; civil unions, a gay celebrity, something like that. See what his reaction is.

 

[spreadeagle]

Are you sure your colleague is a man? I get the impression you might not be able to tell the difference.

 

[G-Lexington]

As the joke goes, there's only one way to tell if a guy is gay: when you're plowing into him, and he keeps his erection. (Although all that really means is you're doing it right...) Anything else might be suggestive, but won't ever be definite.

If you like the guy, think he's neat, by all means, invite him out for drinks after work. And if it ends up he's straight, then you've made a straight friend. Nothing wrong with that, is there?

Lex