I Can't Tell If He's Gay

[screwnutty]

I think it will.

I've talked to some gay teens over on EC. I'm much more likely to see problems like "I can't get this cute gay guy at school to like me" than "I'm afraid my parents will hate me if I come out." Not that there aren't threads like that, but they're not as common. And the "the cute gay guy" threads are coming from places like Iowa. I think a LOT of ground has been covered over the last twenty years.

Lex

True enough G! I guess I'm just greedy....always wanting more!

 

[954dude]

Sometimes it's better off just being friends with someone you like. Even if he was gay, how are you sure that it would work? I can tell you value this friendship and I'm glad he's going to continue being your pal.

 

[nautiboyjeff]

Come back and tell us when he asks you to suck his dick after a night of drinking.

 

[KaraBulut]

Come back and tell us when he asks you to suck his dick after a night of drinking.

I bet Lex has been waiting for this inevitable post.

 

[Kyanimal]

i straight up asked him and he straight up said im fucking straight...and i told him about me and he's perfectly fine with it and we're cool..so life is pretty alright right now..it could be better but im happy the way it turned out...he said if i ever needed him then he'd be there for me....that made me feel really special but now we're just buds which is better than not being anything to him so thanks guys for everything!

EXCELLENT!

See? That didn't hurt so much, did it?

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[Rex]

So my prediction was right.

He's straight and knew you were gay. All the teasing and sexual innuendos was just him toying with you because he knew you were gay and you weren't coming clean about it.

Well it's good that he is OK with you being gay. Most straight guys are homophobic.

 

[crowboy]

I'm glad for you that he is OK with it.
You are lucky that he is understanding and has said he'd be there for you.
You had me worried for a sec.

 

[rareboy]

There.

Now you can build a stronger friendship that isn't coloured by sexual tension.

 

[mascbiguy]

you can be his friend, just take some time and distance your self. it sounds like you have a "closeness crush" you spend so much time, that he is looking great to you. you need to distance your self

 

[helzeena]

You're lucky you told him and you "know" the score.

I had a thing for a guy in high school and there were many strong messages, like trying to touch me or sit as near as possible to me, the way he looked at me... But at the same time he was so 'straight', but sometimes I kind of thought of it as over the top straight. He seemed to have a new girlfriend every two or three weeks and they were always considerably younger. All his best friends jokingly called him gay which made me wonder a bit but I never took it seriously. I was so confused! And now that's all over and finished high school, and I still finding myself thinking about him and regretting not saying anything. Oh well!

 

[rareboy]

how do i resolve this?

you need to distance your self

There, that should do it.

 

[G-Lexington]

There are already too many soap opera threads here in CO&R for my taste. I call them that because, frankly, that's what they are. There's tension. Things move at a snail's pace. Every time things seem to calm down, another "event" happens to keep the interest up. And nothing ever EVER gets resolved. (Resolution - no conflict - no plot - no reason to tune in.) As evidenced by the responses to some of these threads, lots of people love watching soap operas. And that's fine. But personally, I'm not interested. I'm here to help people deal with and hopefully solve their difficulties, and that's counterproductive to what a soap opera is all about.

If you want this resolved, fine - resolve it. We've told you how.
If you don't want it resolved, fine - enjoy the soap opera.

But I'm done here.

Lex