I don't like anal sex and never will

[drhladnjak]

I'm embarrassed to say I tried anal once, when I pulled out, the condom was COVERED in shit. I didn't enjoy the experience but KNEW from then on, I'd never again try it.

I have no problem with perineum pleasure, but the ANUS was not meant to have anything shoved up it. God the SMELL!

Sounds like this guy you were with wasn't very clean. Don't judge every experience based on one dirty guy.

 

[puka-pride]

I'm embarrassed to say I tried anal once, when I pulled out, the condom was COVERED in shit. I didn't enjoy the experience but KNEW from then on, I'd never again try it.

To me there's so much more to male intimacy than sticking your dick up another man's ass and making him your bitch--it sort of compromises that beautiful man to man bond.

The way I like to have sex is rubbing, and kissing, and touching...just the way straights do. But since it's two dicks instead of a dick and pussy, isn't it better to use the anatomy the way it was meant to?

I have no problem with perineum pleasure, but the ANUS was not meant to have anything shoved up it. God the SMELL!

exact same thing happened to me when i first topped... and i completely blame that guy for not taking a shit before he made me fuck him

but its only been that bad the one time...
BUT i havent done that much anal...
but then again i've played with my ass a bunch of times... yeah... a lot a lot a lot of times... and i haven't had much of a problem with poopy...

 

[MindBlast]

You know what, you say you feel like your being judged for not liking something, but I would say comments like this are about as judgemental as i've ever seen.




I enjoy anal sex, I have only ever had it with one partner, it is one of the exquisitely intimate ways we make love, I dont feel it is dirty and never ever have either of us felt we were the others bitch or inferior because of it. I think you need to have a serious think about your attitude towards others preferences before you complain that you feel judged.

L2Quote. You quoted someone else and attributed it to me. Reread my original post (the only one before you made your comment).

I did NOT say anything about hygiene or ANYTHING of the sort! Those were comments made by others. I simply said that, having tried anal sex on both ends, found that I DID NOT like it. Furthermore, I complained that a lot of guys just ASSUME that I will like it simply because I'm gay.

The only thing I'm judging you on is your reading skills (or lack thereof). Be more careful before you shove someone else's words in my mouth.

 

[CagedBird]

"g0y" people are all uptight about anal sex.. it has nothing to do with just not liking it, it's all about the baggage that they have.. it's got that "Anal sex makes me feel like a girl" thing, and I don't think that's what we're talking about here.

Just for the record, we DID decide that that "g0y" label sounds better when you say "Lame-ass Butt-Munchers from Uranus". Got more of a ring to it.

Gotta stray off topic somewhat here. Having just come out, I admit to being confused about what it is to be gay; or at least what the label means.
This GOY thing only adds to my confusion. I just dont get it. GOY declarations remind me of some adds I read on Craigslist: Men looking for Men>"WANTED, oral sex with another man, Im not gay, just want oral sex, no fags please.." WTF? How can one be attracted to the same sex & not be homosexual? These guys make my head hurt

 

[Andross]

I don't like anal sex either. Though the guy I fell in love with likes it and would like me to fuck him eventually... *sigh* I don't know if I can keep *it* up for that, but he aroused my curiosity to some degree... For now, welcome to the family of non-anal-sex-liking-gays (NASLG)

 

[hermanding]

well, i was gonna bring up watersports but caged bird requests i not do it.
anyway, so you don't like it. and you know now that others don't like it. they do exist. you should be OK and not wind up without sex experiences. everybody has preferencias.
ding

 

[CagedBird]

I don't like anal sex either. Though the guy I fell in love with likes it and would like me to fuck him eventually... *sigh* I don't know if I can keep *it* up for that, but he aroused my curiosity to some degree... For now, welcome to the family of non-anal-sex-liking-gays (NASLG)

Andross, both good looking & turning down the chance to make love to ass...youre breaking my heart man!

 

[CagedBird]

well, i was gonna bring up watersports but caged bird requests i not do it.
ding

Thats cool ding, I figured if some here are "grossed out" by anal sex, they likely would be horrified if someone brought up water sports, lol. [Look for my future thread on water sports, I will be in need of your experiences ding!].

 

[thewiz]

All of the posts remind me that first and foremost you must be comfortable and enjoy what you are doing; if you don't then don't do it. Some guys love to french kiss and shove their tongue down their partner's throat; I don't happen to like it that far but do enjoy gently touching tongues--don't gag me. Some guys love to passionately kiss and just about tear your lips off; again that's not my thing and I'll tell my partner.

I love to suck and be sucked...I love a guys dick. I love to lick my partner's scrotum and, if I really am really into him, will rim him (and provided he's clean!). Myself, I don't get all that turned on by rimming but I love to make my partner feel good (and my current one loves to be rimmed).

I never used to enjoy bottoming but have really gotten into it of late and enjoy having him inside of me and hitting the "spot". We flip and I do the same to him so it is mutually enjoyable. Again, it is what you enjoy and discuss with your partner; if they don't recognize your desires and pleasurs then they aren't much of a "partner" to begin with.

Too often I think everyone thinks gays are exactly the same and we all do the same things the same way the same time...blah, blah, blah. Well, hopefully we aren't and that we can be individuals that have desires, pleasures and enjoyments. That's what turns me on about another guy (that and hairy legs...mmmmm).

As to being "clean." Yes, one has to prepare for sex. I'm not going to go down on a sweaty, smelly penis. A shower before sex ensures that not just the penis is clean but the rest of the body as well (and rimming definately must be clean!). An erotic shower can be a great turn on and a quick wash makes sure there is nothing left in the anal cavity that will get on the condom.

 

[MindBlast]

This thread got totally derailed. I was just more or less complaining about how guys always assume I want to have it when I don't want to engage in it. It's just personal preference. My beef is with the guys who try and pressure other guys into it.

 

[blueto21]

What’s the purpose of these types of threads? If you don't like it then DON'T DO IT. End of story. I am so sick of these types of threads until it isn’t funny. I mean, if you have no interest in anal intercourse whatsoever then I would think you wouldn’t do it. Or am I on another planet? The planet of common sense! Find yourself someone you’re sexually compatible with. I personally, LOVE anal sex whether I'm the top or bottom it's all good to me. My current boyfriend shares the same beliefs as I do about sexuality. I can't stress it enough if you don't like it then just don't do it. There is no need for you to announce to world your dislike of anal intercourse. That is your business and it's between you and your partner. If someone is pressuring you to have anal sex then you need to find yourself someone else. I personally, couldn't be with someone who wasn't into intercourse but hey that's just me. I couldn’t be with anyone I’m not sexually compatible with.

 

[wraithsa]

havin had experience on BOTH sides of the fence i must admit
1)- ass is better than pussy
2)- guys ass is better than girls
3)- guys give better head

But then i am GAY for a reason heheh

 

[MindBlast]

What’s the purpose of these types of threads? If you don't like it then DON'T DO IT. End of story. I am so sick of these types of threads until it isn’t funny. I mean, if you have no interest in anal intercourse whatsoever then I would think you wouldn’t do it. Or am I on another planet? The planet of common sense! Find yourself someone you’re sexually compatible with. I personally, LOVE anal sex whether I'm the top or bottom it's all good to me. My current boyfriend shares the same beliefs as I do about sexuality. I can't stress it enough if you don't like it then just don't do it. There is no need for you to announce to world your dislike of anal intercourse. That is your business and it's between you and your partner. If someone is pressuring you to have anal sex then you need to find yourself someone else. I personally, couldn't be with someone who wasn't into intercourse but hey that's just me. I couldn’t be with anyone I’m not sexually compatible with.

Ah, but isn't the point of an internet board to occasionally rant about the crappy things in life? I didn't put this in the advice forum. Maybe I should have put it elsewhere. Of course I'm logical and don't do what I don't like and I don't give in to pressure. This thread is an attempt to understand why that pressure exists in the first place, because let's face it, if you don't like anal sex, a LOT of gay guys will look at you funny because of it if they know.

 

[blueto21]

Ah, but isn't the point of an internet board to occasionally rant about the crappy things in life? I didn't put this in the advice forum. Maybe I should have put it elsewhere. Of course I'm logical and don't do what I don't like and I don't give in to pressure. This thread is an attempt to understand why that pressure exists in the first place, because let's face it, if you don't like anal sex, a LOT of gay guys will look at you funny because of it if they know.

I don’t think the pressure exists at all. Most people have enough common sense to know that some people are into one thing and it works for them while others are not. And that’s fine. The thing is though finding someone who shares your sexual interest. The gay guys that I know don’t automatically assume anything about their potential partners. Most people get that. That’s the reason why they date to get to know each other and what each other interests are. Maybe you are hanging around the wrong people because where I come from there is no pressure to have anal sex or any other sexual activity that goes on amongst gay men. Heck, I’m not into anilingus. I’m not into water sports. I’m not into gay bathhouses. I’m not into cruising strange men for casual sex. I’m not into fisting or bondage or leather and the list could go on and on because I’m not into a lot of things that other gay men are. But ALL of my boyfriends never assumed that I must be into these things because I’m gay.

Nor were they shocked when I revealed to them that I was not. When I go out on a date with someone I’m just exchanging information and trying to get to know that person and their interest and evaluating whether or not I want to take the relationship further. I think the pressure exist to you because of the men you choose to be involved with. Maybe they’re not intelligent enough to know that generalizations and stereotypes are erroneous and misleading because they do not apply to all situations and all people. I know while on my dates in the past I’d never assumed anything about my date. I usually go with the flow of evening and about the third or fourth date we start discussing what we both are interested in sexually. I think it’s the people you’re dating. Also, there is nothing wrong with expressing one’s opinion if you have one, good for you. I’m not against that at all. But I think even in rants on an “internet board” productive discussion is possible if the OP makes their intentions known. And maybe I just don’t see the point in starting a thread expressing my dislike of certain sexual activities because I know that what I do in the privacy of my bedroom is between me and my partner and what somebody else’s does or doesn’t do will not dictate how I decide to handle my relationship. What you decide to do in the privacy of your bedroom is between you and your partner or partners whichever apply to you. It’s nobody else’s business.

 

[MindBlast]

well said blueto.

It's easy to find guys not into anal sex and I usually just tell people that I'm not into anal sex if they ask if I'm a top or a bottom. Or I've met guys at bars that wear cockstraps on their wrists to signify that they're into j/o and other types of cock play.

It's really easy online as there are tons of groups you can join or if you look around on yahoo or even this site you'll find people not into anal sex.

Actually it's not that easy. I have trouble enough finding guys who are gay in the first place. I live in a really low population density redneck province. There just aren't that many people here.

I've 'met' lots of guys online before. But those online meetings rarely turn into a real date because there's 3000km separating us (90% of the time this seems to be the case).

The thing is, it usually comes up after I get to know the guy and we decide we're going to get sexual. I'm fairly assertive and a lot of guys usually ask me twice or three times if I'm sure I don't want to do it.

AGAIN I'm going to say that it's NOT a problem. It's not. It's just annoying, that's all. I just wish I wouldn't get strange looks or repeated questions.

 

[CagedBird]

My sexual status has changed since posting earlier in this thread.

Now I can speak on the subject from experience.

I had anal and I loved it.

 

[clearfallen]

No, you don't understand. The thought of sticking my dick up someone's dirty, nasty rectum where they SHIT OUT OF, IS JUST NOT A TURN ON. OK? It's fucking gross!

A pussy was meant to be fucked, an ass wasn't. Before some smartass reminds me a mouth wasn't meant to be fucked either, it isn't full of nasty SHIT like a rectum is!

dude you have some serious issues, my opinion is you need a shrink and if your so grossed out with anal or the mouth then what the hell are you into? Because I sure as hell can't figure you out, become a priest and you won't have to worry about this anymore. I can say that I have had anal with many girls and most of them told me that it was required as part of our sex life and I love the idea of fucking a tight hole now and again it keeps this interesting. You can't be expected to have sex one way and thats it, everyone needs variety in life.

 

[kawaii]

Are you CRAZY?? I love ANAL SEX

 

[blueto21]

Actually it's not that easy. I have trouble enough finding guys who are gay in the first place. I live in a really low population density redneck province. There just aren't that many people here.

I've 'met' lots of guys online before. But those online meetings rarely turn into a real date because there's 3000km separating us (90% of the time this seems to be the case).

The thing is, it usually comes up after I get to know the guy and we decide we're going to get sexual. I'm fairly assertive and a lot of guys usually ask me twice or three times if I'm sure I don't want to do it.

AGAIN I'm going to say that it's NOT a problem. It's not. It's just annoying, that's all. I just wish I wouldn't get strange looks or repeated questions.

Again, it seems to me that your problem is the types of men you choose to be involved with. Most people back-off when they hear the answer “no”. They understand that no means no and they don’t try to pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do. Another one of your problems is the way you go about handling your relationships. Evidently, you’re not allowing yourself to get to know the guy well enough before taking the relationship to a sexual level because you if did you’d know that he is not interested in the same things you are sexually. Maybe you should try going out on a few dates with the guy before hand and attempt to get to know him and what he’s interested in sexually before out of the blue deciding to take the relationship to a sexual level. Have you tried that? Also, why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t respect your boundaries anyway? The first time you make it known that you’re not interested in anal sex, your boyfriend or potential boyfriend, should respect your wishes. And if that is a problem for him and you and he can’t come to a comprising decision then maybe it would be best for you two to go about your separate ways. This is a problem for you. If it wasn’t a problem you wouldn’t be annoyed by it. You’d simple tell your boyfriends or potential boyfriends that your not interested and move on.

 

[BoxerBriefs72]

Ok. I'm new to the whole gay experience and I've never had anal sex. I want to try it, but you make it sound very nasty and gross.

If I do try it, how do I clean up? I've heard that too many enemas can desensitize you. I don't know what to believe.

Newbie at 34.