On Topic Discussion I hate this time of year!

[refujiunderground]

you should be out having fun instead of busy sweating bullets over nothing.

 

[bankside]

you should be out having fun instead of busy sweating bullets over nothing.

As someone who has had to develop the skills and mental perspective to enjoy being out and having fun, that kind of goes without saying. Yes of course we should all be out having fun; the question is how to get from here to there.

Partly from my own experience earlier in life and partly from what Kulindahr has shared on here, I don't think it just boils down to "Gee! I was not aware of that before! I should just be out having fun!"

I don't even disagree with you but I think it makes a difference to figure out situations where enjoyment is a likely possibility instead of frustration and anxiety.

 

[refujiunderground]

As someone who has had to develop the skills and mental perspective to enjoy being out and having fun, that kind of goes without saying. Yes of course we should all be out having fun; the question is how to get from here to there.

Partly from my own experience earlier in life and partly from what Kulindahr has shared on here, I don't think it just boils down to "Gee! I was not aware of that before! I should just be out having fun!"

I don't even disagree with you but I think it makes a difference to figure out situations where enjoyment is a likely possibility instead of frustration and anxiety.

i don't think he has that problem. i just think he's worrying and overthinking too much. he should look at his bisexuality as a gift, not a curse.

 

[bankside]

i don't think he has that problem. i just think he's worrying and overthinking too much. he should look at his bisexuality as a gift, not a curse.

Don't know why this comes to mind

 

[Apollo]

Sorry, just wanna tease you. You don't usually make this kind of thread ^^V

Seems you have seasonal anxiety.

Yeah, this the first time I have ever seen Kuli open up really about his personal life...I like it!

And I feel your pain a little. No gals catching my eye, but with summer rolling around, the guys are wearing less clothes and looking way hotter. Especially as they hit the gym to get their summer bodies back. I am slowly loosing my mind and control on my hormones.

 

[Kulindahr]

you should be out having fun instead of busy sweating bullets over nothing.

As someone who has had to develop the skills and mental perspective to enjoy being out and having fun, that kind of goes without saying. Yes of course we should all be out having fun; the question is how to get from here to there.

Partly from my own experience earlier in life and partly from what Kulindahr has shared on here, I don't think it just boils down to "Gee! I was not aware of that before! I should just be out having fun!"

I don't even disagree with you but I think it makes a difference to figure out situations where enjoyment is a likely possibility instead of frustration and anxiety.

I was going to ask if he even read my posts.

It's usually when I'm going out somewhere that I get hit by this. From experiences while doing volunteer work, if I were to go to a bar where there were hot guys and some hot chicks came through, I could end up finding myself in an ambulance because my brain just plain shuts down from the conflicting signals. Maybe that's an effect from remaining indoctrination, and while my brain can handle the concept that it's okay to be attracted to one gender, being attracted to both is an overload?

So, like what would be the point of going out to have fun if there's a chance my brain might decide to go catatonic and freak out everyone around me?

 

[Kulindahr]

i don't think he has that problem. i just think he's worrying and overthinking too much. he should look at his bisexuality as a gift, not a curse.

I'm not "looking at it" as anything, I'm suffering from conflicting impulses that make it impossible to think. I'm worrying because it does things to me like make me forget where the frak I am, what I'm supposed to be doing, where my feet are going (lots of fun while on a narrow work path one foot wide forty feet above a road).

 

[Kulindahr]

Don't know why this comes to mind

So, when I have this trouble, I should think about being buried alive in a box . . . .

 

[Kulindahr]

Yeah, this the first time I have ever seen Kuli open up really about his personal life...I like it!

What, skinny-dipping stories not enough for you?

 

[ChickenGuy]

Your last two posts (EDIT: Your last two posts before the two that just appeared ) sound more like you have a neurological condition rather than any psychological issue.

I wonder if a scan at the hospital might show up some issue?

Did you ever have a 'blunt force trauma' to your head? (as they say in the movies) I say this because a relative of mine who was a construction worker once fell off a pier above a slipway and severely struck his head. He was in hospital for weeks. And although he fully recovered he had blackouts and confusion for over a year, similar to what you describe. I don't know if he still gets them.

 

[Kulindahr]

Your last two posts (EDIT: Your last two posts before the two that just appeared ) sound more like you have a neurological condition rather than any psychological issue.

I wonder if a scan at the hospital might show up some issue?

Did you ever have a 'blunt force trauma' to your head? (as they say in the movies) I say this because a relative of mine who was a construction worker once fell off a pier above a slipway and severely struck his head. He was in hospital for weeks. And although he fully recovered he had blackouts and confusion for over a year, similar to what you describe. I don't know if he still gets them.

No way could I afford my deductible plus 20% of the bill for the scan.

Let's see -- I got a karate kick to the head, I fell through an open hay hole in a barn and whacked my head on the concrete (not really hard, because my shoulder hit a hay bale and my elbow smacked the floor [shattered it] to absorb the impact), wiped out at 65 mph on a touring bicycle and bounced on the pavement a bit, had a minor and a moderate concussion -- those are what I remember.

Though my docs have said that the catatonic-type spells and blackouts can come with the G.A.D. and bipolar mix, and the S.A.D. only aggravates that, one did say I should get such a scan to rule that part out.

 

[bankside]

I don't know about neurology. But our brains all have "plasticity" that allow us to work with what we've got and develop mental faculties that help us navigate social situations with ease.

They also contain several systems which can function almost autonomously based on a given input to reinforce reactions to regularly encountered situations, positively or negatively.

Kulindahr, I think you need physical contact with people in situations that are predetermined to be non-sexual; something like a registered massage therapist where an entirely g-rated massage is a foregone conclusion.

It would activate all the right systems in the brain - human contact being integral to good health - while not treading on areas that magnify your present apprehensions about more complicated random social encounters. And it would not include the social or emotional responsibilities of a romantic or even a sexual relationship; you wouldn't be taking on obligations to another person's feelings that might suddenly seem overwhelming.

You could even get that from an acquaintance or even an internet classifieds volunteer to be honest, but I think they'd be potentially more inept at respecting the boundaries of such an exercise.

I think you need stimulation of your limbic systems, and non-sexual at first so as not to overwhelm. I can't say why; it is just a hunch. But I think it would eventually lead to greater certainty in situations that currently obstruct you. Greater nimbleness, self-assurance and ease to participate freely in other social situations which do have a sexual potential. And greater fluidity in the mental apparatus which currently seems to be jamming up in situations where the parameters are not clear.

 

[Kulindahr]

I don't know about neurology. But our brains all have "plasticity" that allow us to work with what we've got and develop mental faculties that help us navigate social situations with ease.

They also contain several systems which can function almost autonomously based on a given input to reinforce reactions to regularly encountered situations, positively or negatively.

Kulindahr, I think you need physical contact with people in situations that are predetermined to be non-sexual; something like a registered massage therapist where an entirely g-rated massage is a foregone conclusion.

It would activate all the right systems in the brain - human contact being integral to good health - while not treading on areas that magnify your present apprehensions about more complicated random social encounters. And it would not include the social or emotional responsibilities of a romantic or even a sexual relationship; you wouldn't be taking on obligations to another person's feelings that might suddenly seem overwhelming.

You could even get that from an acquaintance or even an internet classifieds volunteer to be honest, but I think they'd be potentially more inept at respecting the boundaries of such an exercise.

I think you need stimulation of your limbic systems, and non-sexual at first so as not to overwhelm. I can't say why; it is just a hunch. But I think it would eventually lead to greater certainty in situations that currently obstruct you. Greater nimbleness, self-assurance and ease to participate freely in other social situations which do have a sexual potential. And greater fluidity in the mental apparatus which currently seems to be jamming up in situations where the parameters are not clear.

Or I can wait till summer. Sometime before July 4 this all fades.