I just want a white boyfriend.

[Echoes]

you haven't felt attracted to black people and you aren't now. Either way it doesn't mean you won't be. This whole thing about feeling attracted to a certain race or physical features sounds a bit shallow to me, you just don't know who you'd fall in love with. I don't say you don't have a pattern of things you like but in my experience patterns tend to go to hell when you've got a crush on someone who doesn't really meet your physical expectations. And that's why I'd rather just say that I like men.

 

[DarkHelios]

Don't mind me, I'm just being really pedantic about language.

Going by a dictionary definition, straight and gay people practise sexist discrimination when selecting partners. Doctors also practise sexism by giving girls pink blankets and boys blue blankets.
Unfortunately, in standard language usage the words "sexism" and "racism" only refer to the negative "one race/sex is better than another" meaning of the word.

As I said, I'm just being pedantic.


For the record, I'm of the opinion that no one should be telling anyone else who they should or shouldn't be attracted to.

 

[Rolyo85]

you haven't felt attracted to black people and you aren't now. Either way it doesn't mean you won't be. This whole thing about feeling attracted to a certain race or physical features sounds a bit shallow to me, you just don't know who you'd fall in love with. I don't say you don't have a pattern of things you like but in my experience patterns tend to go to hell when you've got a crush on someone who doesn't really meet your physical expectations. And that's why I'd rather just say that I like men.

See, thing is, I feel it exactly the same way as with girls. Yeah, I might end up liking a girl, but chances are very slim, no? I know what you mean, and that's been true in my life so far - my tastes in terms of looks and almost everything else have changed dramatically over time. But not the racial ones. Still, who knows, could happen.

 

[youngnihilist]

Dating Abercrombie looking white guys is very risky. I speak from experience, past and present. Pretty on the outside can mean a mess on the inside.

 

[maxpowr9]

Dating Abercrombie looking white guys is very risky. I speak from experience, past and present. Pretty on the outside can mean a mess on the inside.

I 110% agree considering I've worked in the store. They may be pretty but are a complete mess on the inside. I've seen the store manager literally break into hysterical crying and a little hyperventilating in the middle of store over basically nothing. When your own mother calls you a monster of a child, you know the guy has serious issues that can't be worked through.

 

[canesnbeach]

Call me shallow or racist,

You're shallow and racist.

I don't care.

Yes you do, otherwise you wouldn't have bothered making a whole thread about it.

Lately, I've realized that as much as I've considered myself to be an open person by being open to dating other Asians (I myself am Asian) I realized that I probably wouldn't take it farther than a date. And I want a relationship with a whitie guy.

You're shallow and racist (see above) but that's ok.

But, I don't think that will happen.

I don't think so either.

I mean, I'm actually pretty attractive and I don't have a stank personality,

Some might consider being shallow and racist as negative personality traits. I don't. But I'm also not white, so I realize I'm not exactly your target audience.

I just don't think that (getting a hot white boyfriend) will happen. Plus, I feel like my expectatioins for this said boyfriend is just way too high. I dream of like a male-model-ish white boyfriend

You're right on both accounts. Seems like you're on a roll! let's continue.

... yeah I know lol.

yes. this post is really lol. right again!

Anyways, how am I supposed to help myself?

Depending on what part of Asia you're from, realize that white people have been the cause of all your country's problems. This is the reason I'd never date a Russian. As a Cuban, it's offensive.


I don't want to not date hot white guys, I just want this obsession to be less obsessive.

eat some nutella. i don't know how it'll help, but it sure is tasty.

 

[MoltenRock III]

......... but my home country doesn't have other races at all, so it's never been a real issue in my life.

to.

And you honestly think this has nothing to do with you not finding blacks and Asians physically attractive? Can you think of a few reasons why this might be so? I can.

 

[Rolyo85]

I don't find the white people in my country very attractive either, generally speaking. Too many of them are that East European Balkan macho type that is really disgusting to me.

And I have been exposed to exactly the same quantity of Western culture, movies and TV shows as anyone growing up in the US. So it's not like I hadn't seen a black person until I came here.

Oh, we have gypsies though! Probably the reason why I'd never go for an Indian guy...

 

[Echoes]

I don't find the white people in my country very attractive either, generally speaking. Too many of them are that East European Balkan macho type that is really disgusting to me.

And I have been exposed to exactly the same quantity of Western culture, movies and TV shows as anyone growing up in the US. So it's not like I hadn't seen a black person until I came here.

Oh, we have gypsies though! Probably the reason why I'd never go for an Indian guy...

Mate, you should really stop classifying people like if they were some sort of grocery you can put a label on. Plus don't generalize, you might be shocked with what you find.
As for what you ask, the only way you can help yourself out of this, is by stopping dreaming and starting doing... meet some people, get it real, see who you'd get along with, have some fun, don't date men having in mind that it's not going to work, that's just a waste of time. I really hope it helps.

 

[youngnihilist]

I 110% agree considering I've worked in the store. They may be pretty but are a complete mess on the inside. I've seen the store manager literally break into hysterical crying and a little hyperventilating in the middle of store over basically nothing. When your own mother calls you a monster of a child, you know the guy has serious issues that can't be worked through.

Yeah, straight model guys are generally pretty chill, but the gay ones almost always have a ton of issues. Many of those issues actually stem from their looks! Because they are only judged for their looks. They're treated one way because of their looks, often times good, but its shallow and irrelevant Even you OP, are saying you want a hot white model boyfriend. But why? What about personality? Relationships are not just based on looks. Hot white model boyfriend might be offended that you only want him because of that, for one.

I'm no model myself but tend to get with and date the kind of guys the OP wants. Well, be careful what you wish for. I'd probably say a more average looking guy with a balanced mindset and stable life could be better.

 

[DigitalFudge]

The lack of social evolution that plauges this community is truly unsettling

Not to mention just unpleasant

Reading this thread makes me feel so appreciate for where I grew up and the people I know.

Glad I am not the only one here that is attracted to kindness, devotion, and patience more than the texture of someone's hair or bone structure.


Not even going to sit here and discuss skin color in this context. I would of hoped we all had more respect than that

 

[MascutarHero]

This is actual the most controversial subject we can discuss, all in all those who want that "White American man" can have him, they're just limiting themselves and might be harder for them to find "love" or a stable relationship. Nothing we say or do will change their minds or attractions. I think we individually need to go through a great experience to end this "racist" within the gay community crap

 

[Echoes]

The lack of social evolution that plauges this community is truly unsettling

Not to mention just unpleasant

Reading this thread makes me feel so appreciate for where I grew up and the people I know.

Glad I am not the only one here that is attracted to kindness, devotion, and patience more than the texture of someone's hair or bone structure.


Not even going to sit here and discuss skin color in this context. I would of hoped we all had more respect than that

coudln't agree more.

 

[Rolyo85]

Mate, you should really stop classifying people like if they were some sort of grocery you can put a label on. Plus don't generalize, you might be shocked with what you find.
As for what you ask, the only way you can help yourself out of this, is by stopping dreaming and starting doing... meet some people, get it real, see who you'd get along with, have some fun, don't date men having in mind that it's not going to work, that's just a waste of time. I really hope it helps.

I have no idea what you're talking about I have a bf I'm perfectly happy with at the moment, and not trying to find anything. Do you mistake me for another poster in the thread maybe?

Anyway, I am not classifying people or telling myself anything. Get off the high horse, please Like I said - it's purely on the physical response level. I have none. If that makes me racist, then I'm racist. Like I also said, that means that not liking girls makes me sexist.

I don't understand why people assume it's all case by case. We're fucking GAY here. We are the living proof it is NOT all case by case or we'd all have a nice girl on our arm. We are attracted to whoever we are attracted to and that's that. You can choose to be offended by it, or choose to accept people's words at face value, but I'd expect more understanding from people who generally receive very little understanding themselves.


And don't get me wrong - I'd never say "I wouldn't date a black/Asian/whatever man". I totally would, provided I am attracted to him. My only point was that I haven't ever been attracted to that, either in rl, or in movies, tv, porn, whatever. Regardless of particular looks or personality. I am not deliberately limiting myself, that would be dumb.

 

[Ganoderma]

I have a bf I'm perfectly happy with at the moment, and not trying to find anything. Do you mistake me for another poster in the thread maybe? Anyway, I am not classifying people or telling myself anything. Get off the high horse, please Like I said - it's purely on the physical response level. I have none. If that makes me racist, then I'm racist. Like I also said, that means that not liking girls makes me sexist. I don't understand why people assume it's all case by case. We're fucking GAY here. We are the living proof it is NOT all case by case or we'd all have a nice girl on our arm. We are attracted to whoever we are attracted to and that's that. You can choose to be offended by it, or choose to accept people's words at face value, but I'd expect more understanding from people who generally receive very little understanding themselves.

And don't get me wrong - I'd never say "I wouldn't date a black/Asian/whatever man". I totally would, provided I am attracted to him. My only point was that I haven't ever been attracted to that, either in rl, or in movies, tv, porn, whatever. Regardless of particular looks or personality. I am not deliberately limiting myself, that would be dumb.

Hi Rolyo85,

I fully agree with your posting. I had already re-read your comments in this topic, and I had already drawn the same conclusion as you. Its great as well to read you have a nice boyfriend. Is he also a musician / into music?

Good luck and have a nice weekend.

 

[Rolyo85]

Yes, he's a horn player in my school. Thanks You too

 

[asianstudlover]

also - for all you asians who exclusively date whites - are you telling me that this guy doesn't turn you on at all?

maybe he doesn't count as much because he's half-asian, but does that mean you can only get a semi-hard-on (50%) for him?

he's an old corbinfisher boy, too, which is nice because it's proof that - yes, even us nasty asians (or half asians) can be corbinfisher worthy.

he may be one of the many exceptions to the rule and he's also half-asian, but still - let's take some pride in what our race may have to offer

Maybe in articulating this argument both sides need to DIVORCE skin color/race/ethnics FROM SPECIFIC INDIVIDUAL Aesthetic traits.

The thing with these porn sites Corbin Fisher/College MEN/Chaos Men is they go for an Aesthetic--of Adonis-Jock Masculinity 'The straight college boy; which most of us lust after.....

Now without even thinking of RACE Who is implied they look for to cast......(Pretend you could tune up or down the skin color of the guys like your computer screen.)


Likely Guys who are.......
Stronger, mesomorphic (not usually ectomorphic)
Bigger, Taller (maybe not muscular but having the capacity for musculature),
Athletic Looking, ex:
Looking like they just came from Football practice,
Hetero Looking Acting. ex:
Looking like they are are going to a fraternity party
Mature looking face--mature & manly bone structure as opposed to perhaps just out puberty i.e. more youthful looking.
etc etc you add to fantasy and the list.....

Now, NONE OF these traits are RACE SPECIFIC....but Whoever has the greatest amount of them will match the site aesthetic. Often times white guys more easily fit ALL of them.
BUT there are exceptions There is mixing and matching so to speak.
Once in a while you'll get a guy on one of these sites who is black, or Asian or who even White but simply Short or ectomorphic--but they will be a superlative example of ALL the other traits.... hence they still fit the aesthetic.

Characterization in Mainstream tv shows are exaggerated. (best traits )
Everyone is good looking & ad rich....so its no surprise traits in porn would also also be hyper exaggerated.

Now why i quoted the cutie above: sometimes split biracial people are seen as the best of all worlds aesthetically.....they have ALL good traits of BOTH ethnicities. They are often the MOST VISABLE seen on tv right now. Not WHITE not BLACK or LATINO NOT ASIAN but culturally ambiguous.

THIS GUY IS hot because: he might be asian looking? but debatable-he could be latio or white or ???. He wears more hetero underwear. he looks tall and athletic in the photo. His face is classically handsome.

EVERYONE WOULD AGREE THIS GUY IS HOTTER THAN HOT!

 

[ohmygoshjosh]

I find gay racial politics so interesting.

Whilst I accept that everyone has there own preference, I just don't get how you can categorically state that you would NEVER date ANYONE of a specific race/size/nationality etc. I mean if the guy was your absolute perfect guy, personalitywise, lookwise, dicksizewise etc.etc., and you had all this amazing chemistry and the only issue was that he was asian instead of white (or whatever), would you really turn him down just for that?

 

[TryingNOTToBeSLutty]

I just want a masculine boyfriend...who is a top...a cuddly top who can give it to me good...but stop when it gets too rough...hmm.

 

[Rolyo85]

I find gay racial politics so interesting.

Whilst I accept that everyone has there own preference, I just don't get how you can categorically state that you would NEVER date ANYONE of a specific race/size/nationality etc. I mean if the guy was your absolute perfect guy, personalitywise, lookwise, dicksizewise etc.etc., and you had all this amazing chemistry and the only issue was that he was asian instead of white (or whatever), would you really turn him down just for that?

I think what you fail to understand is that if someone says they wouldn't date an Asian, that means Asians just do not match their visual/personality/whatever type. If I am not physically attracted to Asians, then how would an Asian be my absolute perfect guy lookwise?

That's like a straight guy asking me "but if you meet the perfect person personalitywise, lookwise etc., and you had all this amazing chemistry and the only issue was that they were a girl instead of a guy...?" Well, believe it or not, it's the same thing. Just because someone has a dick, doesn't mean I want it.