I might get a pity fuck if I happen to be dying

[doctorsun]

I'm about to become a 25-year-old-virgin. I told my best friend during a discussion that I'm a 25-year-old-virgin and as things are now, I fully expect to die a virgin. He said that he wouldn't let me die a virgin and would have sex with me if that situation ever arose.

So, at the moment, the only chance I have of EVER having sex is if I happen to develop some terminal illness and my best friend feels sorry for me. That REALLY makes me feel special...

I've been dreading my 25th birthday for years and it's almost here and now I'm being reminded of why I've been dreading it.

 

[doctorsun]

You're dreading it because you haven't had sex?

Is sex really that important to you that you must have a time frame on it? Because if so, you can EASILY find a hookup site and have at it.

Sex is the least of my issues about turning 25.

 

[ChickenGuy]

If you think it's hard being 25, try being nearly 34.

I'm more focused on finding friends, and developing my awful social skills, thus gaining greater confidence and independence for myself. I'll only be ready to take things further with guys my own age, when I'm fully comfortable with actually talking to them.

I'm only slightly/moderately bothered by my sexual inexperience. There are very clear reasons to do with my personality and depression that it's never happened. And they were largely beyond my control. As I've said on posts before, lol, I've developed a lot of patience over the years.

 

[slyfer]

Trust me, if there's anything I've learned throughout my life. There is SOMEBODY alive at this moment that would fuck your brains out...

 

[Nomenclature]

Sex is the least of my issues about turning 25.

Sounds like you've got a case of the Mondays!



Everyone'll agree with ya that getting older SUCKS. I know i'll be 25 in no time at all, then 30, then that entire decade will go by too soon, and i'll be 40 before i'm ready. . .

Then once you get into your 40s, most people find that they stop giving a fuck about their age as much; You have experience, yet you know that you're still young enough to actually use that knowledge and enjoy life. Plus, you can have sex with all the hot college boys who like older daddies, etc etc.


It sucks. The whole world can sympathize with you, but I know you're just down in da dumpz right now. Get well soon, bruthafucka.

 

[Audio Tech]

Oh for Christ's sake.....

25 is NOTHING yet. Where are you getting those ideas from?

If you REALLY want to get laid, go find a hookup which should be real easy for a 25 year old. Unless you are in the closet, in which case it's your own damn fault. Or get a rentboy and get it over with.

 

[Ares]

25 is my scary age too! Not for the sex thing, just in general, a lot of things on my bucket list have an expiration date of 25. I feel for you. The quarter life crisis is a tough one.

 

[BINOWGAYLATER]

well Doc - it "virginity" and the potential for a pity fuck is the only thing you mentioned .

Twenty Five seems a great age to be -- It was one of the happiest years of my life .
You're not aa kid anymore - you don't have crippling arthritis (yet) you can still get by on 5 hours sleep - you're hair looks pretty damn good (if you still have it) and you can see your belt buckle and some stuff below it. so wtf? it's not the end of the world - it's the beginning of another 25 years, and then another, and another !!

 

[SilverWolf]

Your scared of turning 25?


I'm scared of turning 21 and still getting no sex.

Seriously at this point I'll even say yes to a girl

 

[doctorsun]

I've completely wasted my life. I'm not blaming anyone for it or playing the victim. I'm simply stating the fact. I've been very overweight by entire life and I've never done anything about it...and I don't know why. I want to change, I just can't find the balls to do it. I've never been in any kind of relationship. I've never kissed anyone and I've never been on a date. No one has ever been interested. I've ignored my problems for so long that it now seems impossible to overcome them and even if I did, I feel like I'm so emotionally stunted and have so many issues with trusting people's motives, that I couldn't let anyone close enough to have a relationship.

I didn't really mean to sound whiny and be all "woe is me," but since I made this thread, I guess people deserve to know where I'm coming from.

 

[Seasoned]

Well, you explained yourself and now it's time to get help for yourself. You've tried it alone and now it's time to find a mental health professional. This won't get better by leaving it alone. Do yourself a favor and do one for those of us who care. Please make an appointment tomorrow. It will be the best birthday present you ever gave yourself.

Btw, as someone who has been on both ends of pity fucks, I don't know which is worse, but I wouldn't recommend either.

 

[Audio Tech]

I've completely wasted my life. I'm not blaming anyone for it or playing the victim. I'm simply stating the fact. I've been very overweight by entire life and I've never done anything about it...and I don't know why. I want to change, I just can't find the balls to do it. I've never been in any kind of relationship. I've never kissed anyone and I've never been on a date. No one has ever been interested. I've ignored my problems for so long that it now seems impossible to overcome them and even if I did, I feel like I'm so emotionally stunted and have so many issues with trusting people's motives, that I couldn't let anyone close enough to have a relationship.

I didn't really mean to sound whiny and be all "woe is me," but since I made this thread, I guess people deserve to know where I'm coming from.

No. You have not completely wasted your life. Real life is just starting. Turn 25. People begin to take you more seriously, etc. The best years BEGIN at 25.

Celebrate your 25'th birthday and use that to begin a positive change in yourself. Consider the next 10 years your best time do do all the things you want with your life. Loose weight, go socialize, etc. It's NEVER too late, but you are JUST getting into your prime. SO stop whining and get off your ass and DO something about it. No one else can.

 

[rotary]

I've completely wasted my life. I'm not blaming anyone for it or playing the victim. I'm simply stating the fact. I've been very overweight by entire life and I've never done anything about it...and I don't know why. I want to change, I just can't find the balls to do it.

A lot, or most, of your low self esteem can probably be attributed to your being overweight. I was there, I know what it's like. You need to make the decision to live a healthy lifestyle and get rid of problem #1 before you'll be able to be happy. Plain and simple. One step at a time. Start now.

 

[SilverWolf]

I've completely wasted my life. I'm not blaming anyone for it or playing the victim. I'm simply stating the fact. I've been very overweight by entire life and I've never done anything about it...and I don't know why. I want to change, I just can't find the balls to do it. I've never been in any kind of relationship. I've never kissed anyone and I've never been on a date. No one has ever been interested. I've ignored my problems for so long that it now seems impossible to overcome them and even if I did, I feel like I'm so emotionally stunted and have so many issues with trusting people's motives, that I couldn't let anyone close enough to have a relationship.

I didn't really mean to sound whiny and be all "woe is me," but since I made this thread, I guess people deserve to know where I'm coming from.

I'm alot like you.

These guys have some really good advice.

I just wish I had taken it years ago, when there were people interested in me.

 

[Sha-Rok]

25 is the beginning of gay death...because its all down hill..soon you'll be 30..then 35..in a club trying to pick up some 21 year old..soon you become that 45 year old who smiles and gives the eye to every young guy you see...if you have money you'll become a sugar daddy..no money..some creepy guy who wants to buy u a drink and within the convo you mention mother who lives with you(when you live with her)... Lol..j/K I have a crazy imagination..

 

[Sha-Rok]

LMFAO! This is just a theory..

 

[G-Lexington]

Well, the first step in effecting change is being unhappy enough with the status quo that you actually want to change.

Are you there yet?

If so, let's work on getting you to a better spot. No, you won't be trim and self-confident and have an amazing relationship with a guy with a ten-inch cock tomorrow. Or next week. Or probably next month. But if you're ready to start changing, let us know, and maybe we can help.

Don't spend time staring behind you. Wishing you hadn't "wasted" that part of your life. That part is set in stone now.

Turn around. Face the future.
That's the part you can change.

Lex (who lost his virginity at age 25)

 

[kevbo]

Come up to Eau Claire. I'll be your wingman and get you laid in a night

 

[jizzeater]

Being overweight, and more specifically the causes - bad diet and no exercise - can have a profound effect on your mood and attitude. I have felt those effects myself, and you would be shocked at what a difference eating healthy and getting moving can make.

Doctors say on TV all the time how good food and exercise will alter your mental state and lift your spirits. On message boards, I regularly see advice regarding depression recommending changes in diet and activity level.

I'm going to repeat that advice and say start making a habit of getting lots of protein, fiber, and fruits and veggies, and cut way down on your carbs, especially sugar. Go out for a walk every night, or make some other minimal effort to get your heart rate going and work up a sweat daily. Build on that as you progress. Kicking yourself in the ass and getting started is the hardest part, but it really pays off when you make this a regular part of your everyday life.

 

[hotb0d]

at least you have one hell of a best friend.