I need an African-American ''friend''

[TofuEater]

Living in Canada and the area I do, ALL of my friends are visibile minorities . If you would like, I can package, tape, and send you one of these "african americans," sorta like mail order brides eh?

 

[benners]

Eeeep! O_O A bit in poor taste, I think. I couldn't agree more with lucky7.

As for chace1617's "good intentions", I'm not convinced. The initial posts--as well as his subsequent (attempted) rebuttals--have all the taste and class of a poorly written fetish advertisement dressed up in intercultural interest.

I just took an Intercultural Communication class in the Spring 2010 term at my University and it was very informative. I'd suggest enrolling in something similar--given the opportunity. Maybe read a textbook for that course, as an alternative. I think it would benefit you in future endeavors of this nature.

X's && O's.

 

[miketlow]

I think some of you all are overreacting...

Well I think you are cute.....

 

[LilBit]

There isn't a single homogenous American culture. There are many subcultures.
There are aspects of African-American culture that are different from other American subcultures, even if people who don't really know any African Americans may have an exaggerated image of the differences.

There isn't a single homogeneous African-American culture either.

 

[Telstra]

Can i have an african-american friends too with big cock ?

 

[jaycee style]

are you implying that they don't have weekly meetings wherein they all decide to like the exact same things?

we meet monthly

.............in compton.

 

[bounder]

Meh. I don't qualify anyway.

 

[bounder]

^ That would explain the trouble in finding 'African-Americans'

 

[chace1617]

There are social conditions that give everyone a unique experience, not just blacks.
We are all individuals. Blacks are not one monolithic entity. There is no one "black experience"

So this idea of wanting a black friend is silly to me. Why black? How are you sure this black person is different from any other American? Do you see how just by making this request, one has already made the assumption that blacks are by nature different than other Americans?
The color of your skin does not change who you are as a person. Yes, it can affect the way you experience life, but it does not affect everyone the same and it does not make a difference for each black person.

i never said i think blacks are different from Americans, i already said i know all people are the same and i respect everyone no matter their skin color.the one who thinks they are different is you cause you are the one who made that thought and you are the one who mentioned that so stop bitching me.

i think the racist here is you cause you're a black guy and you are ready to argue with any white guy who talks about black guys no matter their intentions, i don't think my post is goofy i am completely clear on how the situation where i live, Greece, is and what i'm trying to do, i thank all the guys who are supporting me and i am just ignoring the rest of you who cause a problem from nowhere, you just need to get laid and be happy again.

i am not sure i still want to meet a black friend anymore, the whole thread made me so sad and i'm not that into that anymore

 

[blackbeltninja]

It's generalizing and stereotyping an entire group of people. If you want a friend based off of this ONE attribute about them, let alone a minority status attribute, that's kind of fucked up.

So this idea of wanting a black friend is silly to me. Why black? How are you sure this black person is different from any other American? Do you see how just by making this request, one has already made the assumption that blacks are by nature different than other Americans?

Do you guys not believe for even one second that two people identical in everything except race cannot possibly learn something from one another based on that single difference?

We see thread after thread in here in which gay guys like us talk about socialising almost solely in the company of other gay guys like us - there is comfort for us in our commonality as a shared experience. Is it completely illogical then to suggest that the OP might find his own comfort in something completely different to him?

The naivete of the post content perhaps leaves something to be desired - no doubt about that; not from me at all - but surely this is how we (all) learn these things.

-d-

 

[Semirhage666]

LOL at how easily the people on this forum cry racism. Shut the fuck up. WTF?

 

[kayman23]

Interesting topic. The OP does seem to have a suspicious reason of wanting a black friend for possible sexual fetish reasons...

FYI, I hate the damn term "African American" because everybody black American person isn't an "African".

TO THE OP: If you really want to a friend that happens to be black for an authentic reason then you should actually learn able the various cultural and historical thing involving black Americans. You might actually learn something and realize that there is no monolithic personality type amongst us.

 

[freefall]

What a fucking mess. I want to say something but I'm a bit speechless.

So do I. The title (and the other posts) says it all.

I mean, the OP asked things like asking free peanuts.

 

[kayman23]

Italian American
Chinese American
Polish American
Mexican American

That's them, but I know most black Americans don't have direct lineage leading us back to Africa thanks the lovely thing called slavery and the unreported rapes that occurred between white slave owners and the slaves that has led to mixed heritages of most blacks.

 

[BabiGayPimp]

Pssssst.... now go to that other thread about a "down-low brotha!" and tell all of this stuff to the OP over there.

As I look over these posts, it seems clear that everything you said applies to you more than the OP here, who (to my knowledge) hasn't stated any specific stereotypes toward African Americans. Just vented that he'd like a Black friend and his small town doesn't give him the oppurtunity to make one.

I might have to agree with Travisevian here.

Oh pleeeze ho. Leave your "shade" hanging over your window. if some siddity gay men think they're too high- class to give a down-low brotha a chance, that's their loss. I never implied all black men were on the down low. But there's no doubt that more than a few are!

 

[benners]

I never implied all black men were on the down low. But there's no doubt that more than a few are!

An institution that, sadly, you no doubt help perpetuate by bedding "straight" men. If we're sleeping with guys on the "down low" behind closed doors, aren't we condoning their self-deprecating homophobia? That seems totally counterproductive for anyone who is out themselves.

 

[blackbeltninja]

What would you learn from a black person that is identical in everything but his skin color? That sort of thinking is based on the assumption that color in itself creates a difference and it doesnt.

Well, I can learn something from guys raised in the same way I was and who attended the same grade and high schools I did and who lived in my neighbourhood. We're all from an identical background; the fact that they're from another family makes all the difference. Someone who is from another racial group is even more different to me than a guy who simply lives across the street.

Maybe it's a .za thing, or an Africa thing, but white and black Africans are HUGELY different to each other.

The one thing I hope the OP learns is that the color of someone's skin does not imply an inherent difference. I am a human being just like chace. Who I am is dictated by how I was raised, where I was raised and my own personal development.. not my skin color.

If this was even slightly true, Chris Rock wouldn't get any mileage at all from any of his numerous comedy routines about white (American) folks vs black (American) folks. And we're all humans so then there'd be no cultural differences anywhere in the world, since culture is largely and directly tied to race - not too many black or white people born/raised in the near or far East; thus the culture of that entire region (China, Japan, Indonesia, India etc) is tied inherently to the races which originate/d there.

-d-

 

[miguelfukt]

i hope the person that made this thread finds what he is looking for. whatever it may be. when i read his post i didnt see anything racist about it. i just see people that are looking to start an argument over race! get the fuck over it! shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit! i would like a straight guy friend so does that make me predjudice against heteros? no, i am gay and have nothing against any race nationality creed religion or whatever!

 

[kayman23]

I don't follow your logic. You are arguing that African Americans shouldn't be called "African" because their heritage is not 100% African (ie, they are partly black and partly white). Yet at the same time you say they should be called black American, despite their being partly white.

The term delineates from the recognition of our skin color since most call those with brown or caramel skin tones "black". How often have you seen a mixed heritage person be called a "mixed American" b/c it doesn't exist. If you aren't white then they call you what you look like, i.e. a black person.

If you don't understand that then there is nothing I else left to explain to you. It just seems like you might have a fallacy in following the logic of how illogical the generalize usage of the term.

 

[kayman23]

Another weak argument against using the term.



He's right that you can't assume that a brown-skin person with curly hair must be American. Just like you can't assume that a pale-skin person with wavy hair is American, even if they are walking down a street in Dubuque or Seattle. They could be tourists or expats.

And you can't assume every black person outside of Africa is an immigrant (or has parents or grandparents who were immigrants) from Africa. Their recent ancestry could trace to Latin America or the Caribbean (although even these folks' ancestral lines lead back to Africa within the span of recent history).

But these are just arguments against applying the label African American too broadly without reflection. They don't alter the utility of the term for describing US citizens whose ancestors immigrated from Africa.

On the other hand, I would ask white people born in Africa if they are "African Americans"...