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I need help to learn to say "No".
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martin6
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Oh I have this problem at work all the time. If anyone asks for pretty much anything, I'm there helping them. Even if it inconveniences me. But that's also why nobody messes with me or gets all up in my shit or anything. I figure the more I help out, the less I actually have to deal with people. Weird how that works, but it does...
But if it's really a problem for ya Piggy, you gotta just say NO!!!
But if it's really a problem for ya Piggy, you gotta just say NO!!!
Sunshine
all of this wasted pain..
Tell them you have too much on your hands and you wouldn't mind doing it if you had the time.
Or, if you didn't want to completely blow them off ask if you can split the work?
"I know you're busy but so am I, I will gladly help you out but I can't do your work for you..."
*shrug*
Or, if you didn't want to completely blow them off ask if you can split the work?
"I know you're busy but so am I, I will gladly help you out but I can't do your work for you..."
*shrug*
I have this problem at school too... 
and it proves that you are a nice guy and people are coming to you for help or that they are using you for their own benefits.....(I feel like I'm so mean in saying this
)
And that you just have to say "no" or "I'm sorry. I got....", yeah this works for me
. But if it's from the people I like (sweet polite friends/relatives/the cute guy that I know ) it's so hard to say 'no.'
and it proves that you are a nice guy and people are coming to you for help or that they are using you for their own benefits.....(I feel like I'm so mean in saying this
)And that you just have to say "no" or "I'm sorry. I got....", yeah this works for me
. But if it's from the people I like (sweet polite friends/relatives/the cute guy that I know ) it's so hard to say 'no.'
martin6
Burnouts Are For Kids
See, I kinda am a pushover (unless I fucking hate you, and then I'll just say no to even "could you pass me a fork?"), but I also don't mind being one in the workplace.
Piggy, you clearly are bothered by people taking advantage of you, so don't even apologize to them. Just say, "I'm busy" or "I can't right now." Or you could get really mean and say you'll do it but then forget about it. They'll never ask you again if you do that!!!
Piggy, you clearly are bothered by people taking advantage of you, so don't even apologize to them. Just say, "I'm busy" or "I can't right now." Or you could get really mean and say you'll do it but then forget about it. They'll never ask you again if you do that!!!
See, I kinda am a pushover (unless I fucking hate you, and then I'll just say no to even "could you pass me a fork?"), but I also don't mind being one in the workplace.
Piggy, you clearly are bothered by people taking advantage of you, so don't even apologize to them. Just say, "I'm busy" or "I can't right now." Or you could get really mean and say you'll do it but then forget about it. They'll never ask you again if you do that!!!
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because you will be in bed with a hot boy all weekend taking care of business and the lube will get all over the papers. 
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Good idea. I'll try it.
That is a terrible idea....that seems a little unethical to me. I think that it would be better to be honest than to play a dirty trick on them and have people think that you are an irresponsible person. That could backfire on your career over the long term.
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gabriel1
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I say the same thing, and if they press on with more questions like busy doing what or whatever - I just say I'm busy I can't do it.
G-Lexington
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Show willingness but inability. "Wow, I'd like to, but I just don't think I can." If pressed for details - which you probably won't - just say "I don't think I'll have time."
Lex
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If you have some repeat customers for your largesse -specific folks you think might be taking advantage of you- how about returning the favor? Immediately ask them to do something for you. "Sure, I can do that for you tonight. Can you do this and that for me this weekend?" Even if they agree, it won't take long for them to catch on that you expect favors returned. If they're legitimately in a bind, maybe you two can have a good working relationship where you do favors for each other. If they're passing off their job, they'll look to someone else who perhaps likes being treated like a rug. If they agree to do something and fail, they (should) know not to ask again.
barefootbob
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you could say "sure thing, but it'll cost you ... now bend over" 
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I have this problem at school too...
and it proves that you are a nice guy and people are coming to you for help or that they are using you for their own benefits.....(I feel like I'm so mean in saying this
And that you just have to say "no" or "I'm sorry. I got....", yeah this works for me
Only help them if they put out!
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And Piggy, I'm sorry I can't, is a good enough answer
if they want details, you can say you are busy
and that's it..
No details on what is keeping you busy. For all that matter you could be busy masturbating!
it is none of their business
if they want details, you can say you are busy
and that's it..
No details on what is keeping you busy. For all that matter you could be busy masturbating!
it is none of their business
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Ohhhh Id love to. Where do I send the Invoice for my time?
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Tell them that you'd love to be able to do it, but it conflicts with your chemo treatments.
Seriously, always tell the others that you'd love to help them out agian but that you have an appointment that will make it impossible to do it. Then appear helpful and suggest some other chump.
Every once in awhile, oblige someone by asking them if they can do something for you in return.
Trust me, they'll stop asking.
Seriously, always tell the others that you'd love to help them out agian but that you have an appointment that will make it impossible to do it. Then appear helpful and suggest some other chump.
Every once in awhile, oblige someone by asking them if they can do something for you in return.
Trust me, they'll stop asking.
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Piggy, when I was in situations like yours, I would look the person in the eye, and with a straight face say: I don't think I want to"
They would look at me very funny and more often then not start laughing. But they got the idea.
To those who came back with "why Not?" I would reply "I'll have to think about that. "
I started seeing that my weekend were all my own, after a while.
They would look at me very funny and more often then not start laughing. But they got the idea.
To those who came back with "why Not?" I would reply "I'll have to think about that. "
I started seeing that my weekend were all my own, after a while.