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wanker90

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Friendless, gay virgin here inquiring about what sex is like. Is intercourse painful? For both giving and receiving. I don't watch porn, I only jack off to still images of fully clothed men.
 
First off, you have to get naked.

Giving sex is not painful, i.e. sucking cock or fucking some guys ass.


Getting fucked can be a pain pleasure thing.
I love the pleasure and can get past the first few seconds of the pain depending on who is fucking me.
Most times for me, the pleasure outweighed the pain when it came to anal receiving
 
It only hurts but depending on the size, width and type of lube it varies. Also you have until the 21st to have sex cause that's like the end of the world so better grab a man as soon as possible!
 
Me too, been wanting for 51 years. Can't see it happening any time soon for me, though.
 
birddog7 said:
Me too, been wanting for 51 years. Can't see it happening any time soon for me, though.
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With you being so negative about yourself? I'm fat and ugly and I managed to have sex, so it shouldn't be so hard for you to find it.
 
Man, you better get out there. You're young and now is the time to be banging every chance you get. I'm in my 50's and I'm at it at least a couple of times a week, give or take. When my husband was alive, mostly 3 times a week. Sex is one of the greatest pleasures in life, whether you are good at it or not. Do what ever you need to do to get over your social anxieties and get out there and get some dick for gods sake!
 
I don't want to sound like an asshole, but you need to speak to someone professionally about your problems. People hear have given you considerable advice throughout your short posting history, and you're still posting the same sad threads. Please see someone.
 
If you and your partner are doing it right, there should be little to no pain. Now, get out there and get busy (safely, of course)!
 
also a gay virgin here, so i cant tell you what sex feels like but from what ive read, if its your first time bottoming make sure you tell your top, and they should be very patient and take it very slow. any top that wants to ram it in is being a dick. if your a top for the first time make sure you have a knowledgeble bottom (not a ho, just someone who knows what hes doing) and they can guide you through it.

if i said anything wrong someone correct me.
 
i think i need to get laid as well. im in such a confusing state. for the longest time, i thought id wanna lose my virginity to a boyfriend but ive never had one yet and it seems to be taking forever for anything to happen. so, me considering the possibility of just hooking up doesnt seem like such a bad thing anymore haha
 
wanker90 said:
Friendless, gay virgin here inquiring about what sex is like. Is intercourse painful? For both giving and receiving. I don't watch porn, I only jack off to still images of fully clothed men.
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First, don't be ashamed to be curious about unclothed men too. Arousal and erotic curiosity are all natural parts of the human experience. Unless you know the images were taken without consent of the person shown, it is not unethical to look at naked men. You are not cheating on your future boyfriend by looking at naked pictures. And it will help you to understand how all men are different in their anatomy. This is a practical thing to know for anal sex.

Second, no it is not painful. Whether you're giving or receiving you should never feel anything that feels like pain, burning, tearing, or scraping; that means you should stop, take a break, reposition, talk to each other about what might feel more comfortable and what would be a sexier position instead of an uncomfortable position. If you're inside your guy and he says "I think I need to try this lying on my stomach instead," then that's what happens right away.

Receiving - it will feel weird at first because it is a unique sensation that your body has to figure out. But "feeling weird" is definitely not pain. With my guy, we stopped plenty of times until we learned how to do it comfortably. And it is a skill that requires learning. So even if the first moment together in bed is thrilling and unforgettable, don't assume the first time will be as good as the 10th time. It's a fun thing to practice.

Please don't think it is about tolerating or inflicting pain. It just isn't. For my guy and me, intercourse is only about the pleasure we can give each other, not how much we are willing to endure for each other. Now that I know more about my own anatomy and his, we can get right to the pleasure.

A couple of other things. Even though I've been with my guy for years and we have things figured out, there are still times where it randomly could feel uncomfortable for one or both of us. Things back there sometimes have a mind of their own, and even if you're horny, there is no guarantee your ass will be. That's fine, there is other fun stuff to do in the bedroom.

Also, obviously there are some times which are not appropriate for anal sex. If you feel like you might have to go to the bathroom soon, it's not a good time.

That's pretty much the basics. Buy a good-quality lube from a pharmacy, don't try to improvise or use suntan lotion or something. Go to the pharmacy and buy proper lube for sex. Try a couple of different brands. And actually learn what things feel like back there with a reasonable sized sex toy or even your fingers if your nails are short and smooth. It's not wrong or weird. It is just knowledge in the pursuit of pleasure, for you, and the guy who you want in your life.
 
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I'm a bit confused; the prostate shows in the first diagram but not in the second. :confused:
 
GamerBear said:
It only hurts but depending on the size, width and type of lube it varies. Also you have until the 21st to have sex cause that's like the end of the world so better grab a man as soon as possible!
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It might also hurt if you're not used to having anything in there. But for some people, a litle pain is overridden by pleasure.

-Callum- said:
I don't want to sound like an asshole, but you need to speak to someone professionally about your problems. People hear have given you considerable advice throughout your short posting history, and you're still posting the same sad threads. Please see someone.
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I also agree with this statement. You claim you have no friends...but what about the guy that talked to you? Have you sought counseling? They should offer personal counseling in your school. You pay for it anyway. Why not use it? I've done personal counseling, and it provided me with plenty of options and views to look at certain situations. And I'm very socially awkward. Also, is the an LGBT club? Perhaps you can join that...or any other club the piques your interest. If not, maybe join a fraternity. There are some that focus on the partying, even though they aren't supposed to. But there are also other fraternities that aren't really that bad. Some focus on community service..others are more academic oriented. As Callum said, there are options. You just have to be proactive when it comes to them.
 
bankside said:
Honestly, unless you have some kind of pain fetish, you've been doing it wrong.
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This.

In all the years doing it, there was only one time that there was any pain and that was because of lack of lube. And it was only fleeting.

I'm wondering though, OP, why you don't watch porn. Or only masturabate to pics of fully clothed men.

Combined with your fixation on your room mate....and the social anxiety disorders you tell us that you suffer from....

Once again, I am recommending that you seek out the professional counselling sooner rather than later.

Have you done anything yet about setting up an appointment?
 
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