The Original Gay Porn Community - Free Gay Movies and Photos, Gay Porn Site Reviews and Adult Gay Forums

  • Welcome To Just Us Boys - The World's Largest Gay Message Board Community

    In order to comply with recent US Supreme Court rulings regarding adult content, we will be making changes in the future to require that you log into your account to view adult content on the site.
    If you do not have an account, please register.
    REGISTER HERE - 100% FREE / We Will Never Sell Your Info

    PLEASE READ: To register, turn off your VPN (iPhone users- disable iCloud); you can re-enable the VPN after registration. You must maintain an active email address on your account: disposable email addresses cannot be used to register.

  • The Support & Advice forum is a no-flame zone.
    The members offering support and advice do so with the best intention. If you ask for advice, we don't require you to take the advice, but we do ask that you listen and give it consideration.

I really like him...

H

hairbway207

On the Prowl
Joined
Dec 26, 2009
Posts
73
Reaction score
0
Points
0
hey guys
so im in college and am going to be living on campus next year again (jr) and i have this friend who i decided to live with as my roommate. i found out from a friend that he is bicurious (im bi) and to me he is really cute. the other night i was talking to him and he was being a really good friend so i came out to him. he took it very well and i was happy. then i told him how i felt about him...he basically said that he valued our friendship but didnt exactly feel that way about me and he was still having issues with his ex (a girl). this has brought us closer and i can talk to him about anything now, but i just wish he had stronger feelings for me. and i also want to fool around with him :) is there anything i can do to strengthen his feelings? i get that im in a different place than he is about figuring things out but i just wish he would want to be with me both emotionally and physically like i want to be with him. this is the first guy that ive really wanted a relationship with...
thanks
 
hairbway207 said:
hey guys
so im in college and am going to be living on campus next year again (jr) and i have this friend who i decided to live with as my roommate. i found out from a friend that he is bicurious (im bi) and to me he is really cute. the other night i was talking to him and he was being a really good friend so i came out to him. he took it very well and i was happy. then i told him how i felt about him...he basically said that he valued our friendship but didnt exactly feel that way about me and he was still having issues with his ex (a girl). this has brought us closer and i can talk to him about anything now, but i just wish he had stronger feelings for me. and i also want to fool around with him :) is there anything i can do to strengthen his feelings? i get that im in a different place than he is about figuring things out but i just wish he would want to be with me both emotionally and physically like i want to be with him. this is the first guy that ive really wanted a relationship with...
thanks
Click to expand...

Dont push the subject of sex too much on him.....might scare away your friend......

Play it cool......and lurk.....if the opportunity presents itself......pounce...|
 
do you think that maybe his feelings will develop more for me over time?
and i will try not to push the sex thing too much
 
i've been talking to him more and im trying to gage his interest in me...he keeps saying he's bicurious and its been on his mind a lot. and i know he's made out with a guy once but i dont know how much he's done...maybe he wants to experiment? although the thought of a relationship with him is intriguing to me as well...im really confused about this.

i could use some more opinions about this and what i should do. sorry if this is a dumb post but its been on my mind a lot lately.
 
](*,)](*,)

i would say you are intruding into the privacy of his life. he is probably trying to deal with a lot of issues on his mind and his fellings about different issues - sexual and or otherwise.

i think you need to stay out of his space and develope more empathy and sensitivity as to who he is.

step back a bit and see how you would feel about someone being so intrusive in your life as you are potentially being in his life.

eM/
 
All stop!

If you value your friendship and don't wish things to be potentially awkward when living together, don't press anything further.

Be his friend. Counsel him. Console him. Answer his questions.

If something comes of it, let it happen on his terms. But I would recommend not planning on it. DOn't wast much time pining for him. You can lose-out on opportunities.
 
Truly, don't room with him. Have separate rooms so that you can spend time together and yet apart. Having the tension would not make a good living arrangement.

Be a friend, first and foremost - that, more than anything I can think of, ought to build his feelings for you. And, if it never goes to the level you want, you still have a friend.

If it relationship grows as you want it to, then and only then should you two discuss moving in together.

I do wish you all the best and hope that you find joy and happiness.

celebrate your life,
Rand
 
First, if things develop, living with him is going to be mighty difficult for both of you.

But if you want to bang him, get on your A game. Start being subtly flirty, be extra playful, extra fun. When you guys get drunk together, get into the habit of pulling the rug out from under him. For example: act more intoxicated than you really are, but strive for a really strong "happy drunk" persona. Tell him, while pretending to be more drunk than you really are that "you are really drunk", but that you don't like being drunk around him because it makes him appear even cutter to you. And then hit him with a "oh well, too bad you don't feel the same, whatever though" and walk immediately away. This solidifies that you're available but not too available. This is just a suggestion, don't verbalize your feelings more than once in a blue moon too. Do things LIKE this, but more low key, because "talking about it" is definitely going to make him not want it. Act casual about it, more aloof than anything. He obviously doesn't feel the same way as you now, because if he did then he would've gone for it already. He isn't going to want you if he knows he can have you with the snap of his fingers, you know? An aloof but warm demenor and you're golden.
 
then i told him how i felt about him...he basically said that he valued our friendship but didnt exactly feel that way about me.
Click to expand...
I don't believe he's interested- It seems like a nice way to let someone down. I'd move on.
I mean if you want to try to develop things- Go out together, talk together, share deep conversation together. Dating 101. Although, if he's not attracted to you physically, I doubt he's going to make a move. Although, this might be rough for you later on if you develop deeper feelings and he will never let you be anything more then just a friend.
 
I have taken all of this advice and have just been talking to him a lot more. Being a very good friend and caring about him. We have actually become so close and the best of friends and I feel that my feelings for him have changed from wanting a relationship to treating him as my brother(if that makes any sense).
The only thing now that I'm noticing is that we talk almost every day and I can share anything with him and him with me, we make each other happy and care about each other. But doesn't this seem like what people in a relationship do...? Can best friends really do all this stuff and not be anything more than friends?
I've gotten to the point where I would be okay with just being his best friend and nothing more...but do you think he wants more?
I also still want sex with him, but not as much as I did when I originally posted this. Just looking for some more advice. Thanks.
 
excellent advice from looselian, why is sex so important, let it go and be a friend. Besides if it didnt work out it would be very awkward!
 
alright I will drop the sex thing. it would be awkward, you are absolutely right.
but honestly though we talk like we're in a relationship already. and i know he doesn't want that(or at least i don't think he does). he says he's only bicurious and still into girls.
so can best friends really be so close and care about each other to the point of acting like they're in that kind of a relationship when they're not? :/
need advice!
 
One way crushing on a roommate is a set up for disaster. So he comes out and you're not his type and he starts bringing tricks home... Catch my drift?
 
after giving it thought i'd rather be just a really close best friend. but is he telling me he wants more? i feel like he trusts me more than other people like you would a significant other...but i dont know if i want that anymore:/
maybe it's nothing. i'm just gonna be a friend.
 
If he comes on to you, its one thing, but since he already told you that he only wants to be friends... don't push anything or you may lose a close best friend.
 
From your posts, i don't think he want sex.
He will let you know if he want sex.
 
i dont want to lose him. im not going to push anything you are right, makeurowndstny.
but we talk everyday and we say nice things to each other a lot like saying we need the other and that we are always going to care about each other. isnt that a relationship? i feel like he IS attracted to me (this has now been a few months since my original post).
i recently saw a post on his blog saying what attracts him to someone and some of it describes the things we've talked about...and it sounds like he could be into me...
what does this mean??? is he interested?
i at this point am not going to say anything or push anything. i know that i shouldn't. but what does this stuff mean?....
 
If he said he is straight, then he is straight.
If you want to know more, then just ask him directly. Don't guess or over think too much.

or you want to sound like this song ? :)
[ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OZtUjFJvYkA[/ame]
 
spend as much time as you can around him (let him invite you to hang out), do activities that you know interest him, act interested even if you aren't. Eventually he'll start calling you all the time.
 
He's told you that he only wants to be friends. That pretty much rules out sex. Don't push the issue anymore and just be happy you have a good friend.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top