I Sucked A Straight Friend, Now He Acts Strange

[JJKrkwood]

Never mix business and pleasure, and Never shit where you eat....

 

[Romalotti]

We didn't discuss the blowjob for a while, but last week I sucked him off again. He kind of invited himself back to my apartment after work, we had a few beers, and this time HE was the one asking for it. Of course, I eagerly sucked his cock, and swallowed his jizz and everything. I know I have feelings for him, but I can ignore them if it means he'll let me blow him every once in a while.

So should I keep it up with him?

 

[georgemarinescu]

So should I keep it up with him?

Definitely. I would never miss a hot guy.

I know I have feelings for him.

Hey you are 29 and you're gay, he's straight. Don't start dreaming of impossible things. Look at the bright side: you can still suck him once in a while.
At some point I think you will have to decide if you want a relationship or just sex. If it is just sex your mate seems the perfect guy. For a relationsship start considering gay men.

 

[Rex]

I hate the saying "shit where you eat" or whatever. It just sounds retarded.

Wouldn't "don't fuck where you work" make more sense?

 

[MoltenRock III]

We didn't discuss the blowjob for a while, but last week I sucked him off again. He kind of invited himself back to my apartment after work, we had a few beers, and this time HE was the one asking for it. Of course, I eagerly sucked his cock, and swallowed his jizz and everything. I know I have feelings for him, but I can ignore them if it means he'll let me blow him every once in a while.

So should I keep it up with him?

You're nothing more than a booty call for him. You'll suck his dick and swallow his load. He's justified he's not gay in his mind probably. Are you hoping he'll reciprocate some day?

Dealing with str8 and / or pseudo "bi" guys is a lesson all young gay guys need to learn, so you kick them to the curb early.

 

[bluedragon4]

Who cares have fun. But if you are starting to get feelings for him then let me roll my eyes now. I think someone said you were 29? You are old enough to know what this is and what this isn't. Your mouth is where he gets off when he's horny and you are horny enough to let him get off in your mouth. That's it. This isn't a love connection. Like Joan Rivers would say, "Grow up!". lol

 

[georgemarinescu]

Who cares have fun. But if you are starting to get feelings for him then let me roll my eyes now. I think someone said you were 29? You are old enough to know what this is and what this isn't. Your mouth is where he gets off when he's horny and you are horny enough to let him get off in your mouth. That's it. This isn't a love connection. Like Joan Rivers would say, "Grow up!". lol

I couldn't agree more.
He is 29 according to his profile.

 

[Romalotti]

He's not a virgin, he's actually been with quite a few girls. Anyway, I've blown him three times since my last post. It's the same every time - he sits on the couch with his eyes closed while I kneel in front of him and suck him until he cums in my mouth. He's always drunk when this happens. He told me that he's not gay, but just likes getting an 'easy BJ' (his words). I can't help but have some feelings for him. I know it won't lead to anything, so I've decided to just settle for getting his dick in mouth every once in a while. He doesn't seem uncomfortable around me anymore. In fact, he occasionally jokes with me at work about it (he talks about his dick to me a lot lately. Things like 'I got a hard-on that won't go away today' while he smiles at me & 'I could go for a good blowjob later, what do ya think?'). Honestly, I enjoy sucking him so much, I don't think I could stop at this point.

 

[evanrick]

probably the hottest bj he ever got now hes afraid your lips turned him gay.

 

[palemale]

The next time you blow him, before he comes but is getting close, ask him if he knows that a good rim and prostate massage intensifies an orgasm.

 

[mmaplus]

He's not a virgin, he's actually been with quite a few girls. Anyway, I've blown him three times since my last post. It's the same every time - he sits on the couch with his eyes closed while I kneel in front of him and suck him until he cums in my mouth. He's always drunk when this happens. He told me that he's not gay, but just likes getting an 'easy BJ' (his words). I can't help but have some feelings for him. I know it won't lead to anything, so I've decided to just settle for getting his dick in mouth every once in a while. He doesn't seem uncomfortable around me anymore. In fact, he occasionally jokes with me at work about it (he talks about his dick to me a lot lately. Things like 'I got a hard-on that won't go away today' while he smiles at me & 'I could go for a good blowjob later, what do ya think?'). Honestly, I enjoy sucking him so much, I don't think I could stop at this point.

Romalotti, I've been down this road a few times and I think I know what's going on. Since you seem like a nice guy, I imagine your friend is a nice guy too. He was probably embarrassed after the first time--maybe because he was drunk and didn't have the presence of mind to politely decline your offer. (You know the old joke: What's the difference between a straight guy and a gay one? A six-pack.) Outside his discomfort--which he could rationalize as "a mistake"--he may have felt bad about leading you on, possibly making you think something more meaningful could happen between you. That could explain his distance afterward.

But the second time complicates things on both sides. He thinks you're cool with the "easy BJ" business--friends with benefits and all that--and assumes you understand that's all it is. That's why he let you blow him a third time. Meanwhile, you're thinking the complete opposite, i.e., this has potential. In other words, his head's in the locker room while yours is heading for the bedroom. He's not going there. He's not even thinking about going there and he thinks you know that. (Which you do, but...) That's why all of his dick talk is starting to surface. He's having fun, enjoying your arrangement. But since you're more emotionally invested in the arrangement, you're reading more into it than there probably is.

Before your feelings run completely away with you, I strongly advise you to take stock of the real situation. The fact that this only happens when he's drunk indicates he's using alcohol as his filter to deny any emotional involvement on his part. That he discusses it when he's sober, but doesn't let anything happen, confirms where his boundaries are. It's only a matter of time before you'll let slip your feelings for him and that will scare him off for good. So if you want to continue enjoying what sounds like a very tasty treat indeed, you need to detach yourself emotionally and take advantage of the opportunity purely for its physical pleasure. After all, that's what "friends with benefits" means.

Put the sex in one box and the friendship in another and take care not to confuse them. This will be tough, because I'm sure when you're not with him, you're thinking of him. You're also probably fantasizing about him when you're getting off alone. Try to avoid that. It only pours gasoline on a fire you won't be able to control. Focus your fantasies and emotional desires elsewhere. Then when you're with your friend, the experience will be more objectively pleasurable for you.

And here's an eventuality that may help you think this through. Sooner or later, your friend is going to meet a lovely lady and fall head-over-heels in love. That will put a sudden end to things, because he'll be concerned about betraying her trust. If you protest, he'll be confused, possibly even hostile, as your complaints will mean you're not a true friend and only want what's best for you, as opposed to his best. I've lost a couple of friendships this way.

Moral of the story: have fun in the locker room while you can and leave it at that. Expecting more, even wanting more will end in no good.

 

[sonical]

very well said mmaplus! I agree with everything but Romalotti; if I were in your situation I would probably continue doing it as well. He's obviously getting more comfortable with it but caution with your feelings because it can end abruptly.

 

[PiraDeSilva]

I see nothing wrong with casual, consensual sex between two friends - just as long as you realize it's probably never going to go any farther than that. He's already said it to you, he just likes getting an easy blowjob, no bullshit attached.

Personally, I don't think I would want to get myself involved in a situation like that. While I like giving head, I don't like having to separate intimacy from sex. It just doesn't feel right to me, and if what you're really seeking from this arrangement is intimacy, you're going to need to stop and re-evaluate it.

If you're happy with getting to give a hot guy head, no strings attached, then what you've got going is perfect!

 

[Romalotti]

Ok, here'd an update: It's been about a year since I started sucking off this straight guy. I still see him about once a month, it's gotten pretty intense. Basically, I'm still just sucking him off. He fucked my ass twice, no condom, he just shot into me. I know he's just using me for a quick fuck, but at this point I don't care. He's just a fantastic lay. Our deal is basically, I worship his cock, and maybe he pounds my ass afterwards. He won't let me kiss him but I don't care. He never gets me off, he just finds a way to spew and then he's done. I really love him but I know I'm just his easy whore at this point. What should I do? He has a girlfriend now but he's still fucking me.

 

[hotatlboi]

What should I do?

Oh come on...isn't it obvious?

1. If you are cool with being his whore and being his secret fuck toy his girlfriend probably doesn't know about, then keep doing it.

2. If you are looking for someone who can reciprocate your feelings, then look elsewhere.

So, which is it?

 

[Telstra]

Ok, here'd an update: It's been about a year since I started sucking off this straight guy. I still see him about once a month, it's gotten pretty intense. Basically, I'm still just sucking him off. He fucked my ass twice, no condom, he just shot into me. I know he's just using me for a quick fuck, but at this point I don't care. He's just a fantastic lay. Our deal is basically, I worship his cock, and maybe he pounds my ass afterwards. He won't let me kiss him but I don't care. He never gets me off, he just finds a way to spew and then he's done. I really love him but I know I'm just his easy whore at this point. What should I do? He has a girlfriend now but he's still fucking me.

This is called No Strings attached.
So keep doing it until one says no ... no more.

 

[lambdaboy]

Drunk or sober you did not tie him up I take it when he shot his load he loved it. It is his problem ignore him. If he is a friend he will continue. However while I have serviced str8 I dont do people I work with.

 

[genthree]

This is great for him, but one day he is going to say it is all getting too hard (ha ha) that is , he can't be gay and he is being pressured by his woman and society.
So, it is all one way, just enjoy it, knowing that one day, despite his/your feelings it will end.

 

[Bi Married Male]

Two nights ago I got wasted with my co-worker/friend Tom. He's 22 years old, hot as fuck and for the 3 years I've known him, he was as straight as they come. He's always known that I was bisexual and seemed cool with it, even if he did make a few jokes about me now & then. Anyway, we got drunk the other night and I ended up sucking his dick. It was fucking great at the time! He didn't reciprocate or anything, he just sat back on my sofa with his hands behind his head while I knelt and sucked him, but that was ok with me. He came in my mouth, then quickly jumped up and called his friend to pick him up -- he was out the door right after his phone call was done.

I'm starting to think that even though I got to mess around with this guy I've wanted for years, it might have been a mistake because at work yesterday he barely spoke to me all day. Things seem weird now and I don't know what to do. He was the one who initiated things by talking about how he needed a blowjob and then asking me if I wanted to suck his dick. Maybe he's afraid I'll tell someone, maybe he just feels awkward about it. What can I say to clear the air about this with him?

Was it like this?

 

[chace1617]

i think you're very lucky and since both of you are happy with it keep doing it. i am so jealous by the way